A lot of people don't believe in any type of touching, as punishment. It may be fine for them but if you are stressed and a single parent and have an unruly child it is hard to not do anything but speak in a calm voice and get them to take a time out, it is very stressful. So, it may not be the best way to deal with a child but it may be the only way a person knows or has the patience to do. I however don't believe in leaving any marks on a child, that is abuse. I know that my second child wouldn't lie down at night when she was overtired until she cried and that took a spanking. It killed me and I hated it but, she was that wound up and was climbing the walls, I tried it all, the spanking worked and she went to sleep. My first child was the opposite so I had no experience with this problem and it was hard for me than and I still don't know what I could have done differently. It worked, she slept and we were able to sleep too. It was difficult for me but I felt it was the only way other than give her away and that was not an option! I love her more than life itself. Never a belt, I used my hand to know what it felt like, it hurt me to hurt her. I spanked the hand when we had a wood stove in Maine to heat the house and the toddler was going to touch the stove. Later I allowed her to touch it when It was hot enough to make her fear it but not to really hurt her. This worked. Sometimes it takes drastic measures to teach a lesson, not abuse. I also spanked my four year old when she ran across the street thinking it was a joke and it scared me to death. Sorry, I felt the joke was not funny and it could have killed her, we talked when she stopped laughing and listened to why she couldn't do that.
Abuse is a harsh word for what I did though some would think not. But, each one of us has to live with our actions. I talked to my children and they both feel I did the right thing. My wild one, agrees that she was like a whirlwind and it did take a spanking to settle her down, she doesn't know why. she may have had a little hyperactivity before it was a common thing but, we did what we had to do and she is a great human being today and I am a good mother, not perfect. So, to hurt for no reason or to hurt beyond reason, with anger and hate or just to take out your own frustrations is abuse. That is my opinion. To correct when it is absolutly needed is another.
2007-04-06 16:30:40
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answered by MISS-MARY 6
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i imagine human beings imagine of kid abuse as some thing intentional... and doubtless to get some style of twisted leisure from it. some thing like a smoker should be more advantageous seen as newborn ignore... at perfect case the figure is risking their youngster's well being if you must proceed their habit, hoping that the learn displaying it really is volatile to toddlers are pretend. ignore looks to cover a much broader decision of controversial matters. human beings look to apply newborn abuse as an attempt to amp up the seriousness of the act to attempt to make human beings imagine... more advantageous of a marvel aspect utilized in a debate then easily abuse. notwithstanding, those debates are already starting up on the incorrect track because it makes issues own... like call calling, they frequently merely get heated and sidetracked from the authentic topic. i does no longer evaluate many stuff abuse because few dad and mom maliciously damage their toddlers. ignore covers many matters to various tiers. as an celebration, no longer feeding your newborn adequate food because yo u won't be able to have adequate money it should be on the more serious facet. one difficulty human beings would evaluate extraordinary is even genital cutting will be seen ignore extremely of abuse. the dad and mom do not maliciously damage their newborn, they merely accomplish that for inaccurate motives. in this mission it really is more advantageous of a mission with the society, lifestyle, even possibly political or finished for earnings. putting all the blame on the dad and mom can too harsh. it is the position calling it out as abuse ought to easily have minimum effect, human beings ought to close out the challenge. Explaining the why and how is very almost consistently more advantageous powerful at replacing human beings's perspectives. as an celebration, after I communicate out back male circumcision i comprehend dad and mom merely prefer to do what's perfect for his or her newborn. I clarify that even searching on the most slanted learn the advantages a baby ought to acquire do no longer outweigh the unintentional outcomes of the surgical operation. also, the learn that educate advantages/drawbacks for adults would properly be evaluated by technique of adults... their proper to settle on ought to no longer be overridden until eventually their is a few thing instant... ie a vaccine. It sucks at the same time as human beings dont see eye to eye and a baby suffers as a effect, yet you are able to merely accomplish that a lot.
2016-12-03 10:27:03
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answered by ? 4
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In some states, both. I admit that my father abused me that way. Hes dead now; died of cancer. If nothing else, it taught me to respect that some people can hurt you, simply because they can.
But, that doesn't make them bad or someone to fear. Just make sure it doesn't happen because you weren't paying attention.
I say again, some people do it, just because they think they can and you can't stop them. To them, you're a safe way for them to feel good about them selves. Don't act like a victim and you won't be one.
2007-04-06 16:11:28
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answered by Anonymous
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a belt is child abuse, what are you accomplishing here?
that's what you have to keep in mind,....it should be a consequence for a bad choice, not a punishment - punishing a child doesnt work. teaching them what they did wrong by making up for it - a consequence - does.
2007-04-06 16:12:03
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answered by The French Connection 6
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Spanking in general is considered child abusee.
2007-04-06 16:15:53
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answered by DearlyBeloved 3
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Now a days all three are considered child abuse
2007-04-06 16:14:59
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answered by Anonymous
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A week end with Michael Jackson.
2007-04-06 16:10:50
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answered by johN p. aka-Hey you. 7
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With a belt. Why?
2007-04-06 16:11:39
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answered by Anonymous
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Judging by your questions you might have a problem.
2007-04-06 16:13:42
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answered by Anonymous
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Both, no need to HIT your kids.
2007-04-06 16:12:18
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answered by EM 6
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