Why do women date/marry/have babies w/men who they know aren't good fathers to the children they already have?

Question

Then complain that they aren't good fathers to the children that they have together (especially after he leaves them like he did the previous baby mama's)?

Why don't women, instead, let men know that they won't have a man who is a bad father?

Why not make 'good dad' something to be proud of and to strive for, the way some women have men convinced that 'nice car' or 'good job' is attractive and desirable to women?

Answer 1

see, now i thought "good dad" was attractive!

Answer 2

Mainly because our societies no longer praise the process of being a good parent. People are in a lot of ways discouraged from being good parents, and told to live like teenagers even when they... have... teenagers.

Plus, women get a sort of ego trip out of dating a guy who doesn't take care of a kid he has with another woman--it makes her feel like she is somehow better than the child's mother, and a lot of women convince themselves that the guy will care for a kid they have together because she's just so damn special. I mean, that's probably what happened with the first woman, too, right?

It's a major turn on to me that the guy I'm with is the best father he can be to his son, because I want to have a good deal of kids and be a damn good mom to them.

Answer 3

Some women end up marrying men who may act or behave like there fathers. It mainly adds up to how the woman was raised. If she had a postive role model then she is likely to find a positive man. However, if she has a negative role model then she is going to get with a man she is not happy with.

Answer 4

;-} Yet another good one !! that I can only state my OPINION about !?!.. uh'mm.,. Maybe it's because during a said relation they are having or in already; they may have built up a level of SOo,'called trust that while in a relationship they just have'nt seen what they may see as odd behavior !?!.. {That may be misleading} !?! take all the time needed to find out many things about the one you may take on as what should be a life~mate !?! ~!![4/6/07] '`R`'r,r`r',.->

Answer 5

Don't have an answer for ya but as a female myself I think alot of it has to do with self esteem/confidence. Had a friend who was dumb enough to have five kids with the same person (had a little sense) doesn't pay, take care of, or see his kids. Would come around to get a piece knock her up then leave her. Go figure.

Answer 6

i have been wondering about this forever . I just don't get it.....i no allot of girls like that and it never makes any sense to me. Not to blow my own horn but i think I'm a pretty nice guy but it seems like all the girls i ever meet have kids and are with *** holes. Is there something women see in these loser's.

Answer 7

She probably feels that she can "make" a good dad out of him. She also probably feels it is the first"s mother's fault because he is not a good father and he will be to their child. Also, I think maybe it is a fantasy, that he will change and be the perfect father. Who knows. Stupidity???

Answer 8

because the think that the man will not be that way with them that its all the other womans falt and he has changed from the lesson he has learned from the other woman anyway it is usually cause they dont believe that the same thing will happen to them that he loves them more then they complain because they dont want to except that the man thay love is treating them like this that has been my experance

Answer 9

Because women are shallow. They go for Mr. Studmuffin instead of Mr. Hasagoodjobworksfora
livingwouldbeagoodhusband,
dad,andprovider.

Answer 10

Crazy

Answer 11

Stupidity?