how can a woman feel more sexual?

Question

i went to the doctor today (im not kidding either) about how i feel about sex. (my docs like totally cool). before i had my son i fit into a sixe 1 pant, i had a large b cup breasts, i had blonde hair to my butt and i only weighed 95 lbs (its hederitary). now after my baby, i have saggy breasts, i fit into a 9 at the smallest, i cut off all of my hair an i really look like a boy. i feel bad for my husband because i know he is really bothered by my appernce. i just got off of depo porvera and onto YAZ (due to pmdd). i know what everyone will say "i just had a baby, give it time" but i have been working out and eatting healthy, being active. its been 7 months now. i just want to feel sexy again. not even sexy clothes or anything helps. i even tried a brazillian wax but it just turned into a mess. do you think its my birthcontrol keeping me from feeling sexy or is it just me!?!?

sara, i forgot about those. my husband did them with me when i was pregnant, it was soooo fun doing it with him because he would get distracted by me doing it and just stare!! i loved it!!

Answer 1

eat lots of fruit and vegetables, grow ur hair out again, and push the twins up with a push up bra!! eggs are really good too! they're not fattening at all and really jummy!

Answer 2

If you have the time and the energy try a personal trainer. They will help you with your weight and they should know exactly what to do to get your body back the way you want. You may not be able to fit into a 1 anymore b/c of the babies but you should be able to get smaller than a 9. Exercising will also give you more confidence and a better outlook on life.

Answer 3

Hormonal birth control can kill some women's sex drive, but I don't know if thats necessarily the cause. What are things like in the rest of your life- take an honest assessment of your emotional wellbeing not just your physical. Do you ever feel overwhelmed, anxious, sad or guilty without a logical reason? Do you find yourself crying more, or feeling numb to emotions? Have your eating or sleeping habits changed drastically lately? It might be worth seeing a therapist or a social worker just to rule out any emotional stresses that could definitely kill your sex drive real quick.

Answer 4

# 1change how you talk to yourself. Instead of concentrating on whats wrong concentrate on whats good. # 2 your husband should be trying to help you feel sexy and attractive after all this is his sex life too. #3 Try adding something new to your sex life something the 2 of you can enjoy and feel comfortable with but is not the same old same old. #4 I experianced these same feeling after having my kids and I think I lost senstivity down there. I invested in a bullet (adult toy) it vibrates and has increased my sensitivity which has resulted in me actually enjoy sex again as well as making me just a bit bolder in the bedroom and all of that has made me feel sexier too. There is something to be said about knowing your man cant wait to get there because of how much fun you are having.

Answer 5

I'll tell you a quick, $10 way to feel like a sexy, hot woman... Carmen Electra's Striptease videos!!!! I'm in a very similar situation as you, and the first couple of times I tried it I felt sooo sexy. I just don't do it in front of my husband yet, I will once I learn the routine a little better. It's great, and at first I was afraid they'd make me feel UNSEXY since it's Carmen Electra, but she's really easygoing and really pushes you to accept your own sexual side. They're wonderful! I bought mine at Walmart. I got the first one and my friend bought the second. We're going to switch off, lol.

Answer 6

well being women we have kids, suppose to look like a playmate, work, and cook , clean house and do most of the house hold chores. It is really hard, we eat out, there is not time for our US the moms!, get some time alone and go to the spa and pamper yourslef. We deserve it, I have had 2 c-sections and am still working on it almost there. Good luck

Answer 7

Assuming PPDM is post partem depression...

Change your diet, get some exercise, and once a week, do a fun "adult" thing if you can.

Once you start loosing weight, build your stamina and tone yourself, and start re-connecting with the rest of the world, your self confidence will start returning.

However...YES, there is a possibility that your birth control is responsible. Talk to your OB/GYN about it, and possibly changing perscriptions. Once you've done that, see if (s)he can recommend a good person to help you with the weight loss and exercise program.

Answer 8

what do you mean your brazillian turned into a mess? If you had a professional do it I would refuse to pay.. that is somethig you should EVER attmept to do on your own though, LOL. Everone is their own worst critic, I'm sure if you went in to an adult webcams room there would be plenty of guys who would be perfectly happy to look at you!

Answer 9

there is a medication that helps a woman with her sex drivr its like viagra does for men i'm sorry but i cant remember the name of it but your dr. will know if you ask him/her about it but think positive i'm sure your own worst enemy we tend to be harder on our selfs and that can make you depressed and feel less sexy really look at yourself and dont just look at the bad find something you like about yourself and concentrata on that i know if you try you will find something you like about yourself take it seriously and make sure you tell your doc what your going through and one more thing, does your husband know how you feel about yourself talk to him to let him tell you what he thinks is sexy about you, he probably still sees the same woman he married

Answer 10

I think your hormones are out of whack or either you are depressed.If you don't feel desirable any more i'm sure you fall under the catergoy of depression.Need to get some meds for depression.