For those who are against the "choice" of homosexuality: did you choose to be straight?

Question

Anyone else can comment; I just ran out of characters for the question.

Was there ever a point in your life where you were given the opportunity to choose to be one of those and chose heterosexuality? just think that's important to ask yourself that question before you decide that GBL people choose to be that way.

Answer 1

I'd love to know how any straight person thinks they can choose to be homosexual. I know I couldn't, so that's never made any sense to me.

Answer 2

That is something that certain friends of mine laugh at, and never really answer... I am for people choosing whatever makes them happy - but I do feel that homosexual people did not make any choice to be different, that they were BORN that way... it seems hard to convince some people that this is true, they want to feel hatred and laugh at people and homosexuals give them that outlet I guess. Sad, because I know someone who was BORN gay, he had feminine tendancies as a child, for example, he always wanted to wear nail polish - perfect example. He was born into a straight marriage home and had no gay role model. This is how he was born, he was the sweetest boy I have ever known, he was/is smart and he is different than "the norm" not by choice, but because he was born that way. Who on earth would actually choose to be homosexual when half of society laughs at them and treats them like they have an illness? I know I would never CHOOSE that, but if I were born that way, then I would not change for society either!

Answer 3

Wow....
Actually, I'm almost 47, and I have no idea what I am yet....

In the words of Kate Bornstein, "I know I'm not a man; of that much I'm certain. I've come to believe I may not be a woman either, at least the way the world defines it. The trouble is that we live in a world that says you have to be one or the other."

I'm headed for SRS, though I don't know when that will be. As for relationships, I had one, with a woman who I belive to be lesbian. It lasted almost 15 years. Neither of us have seen anyone else in the four years since. I have no idea if I'm attracted to men or women or neither.

I do know this though; the way I am is not a choice. I'm between genders, so perhaps it's a bit normal for me to not have any particular gender toward romantic relationships at this time.

I may be bi. Personally, I think that's somewhat normal. I tend to think that there is a continuum between straight and homosexual, and that we all fit somewhere on that curve. I don't believe it to be a choice. Were it a choice, you'd see many more people "changing their minds". As it is, those who try to "change" form homosexual to heterosexual go through hell, and it's rarely successful. I tend to think that the ones that are "successful" are those who are actually bi, rather than gay, and simply manage to live with someone of the opposite gender.

In any case, that's how I see it. Thanks for the question.

Answer 4

as far as i kno, you don't just choose to be straight. I am straight, because thats just the way i am. people are meant to be straight, not just because thats the way God intended it, but because otherwise it would be impossible for life to continue on. its all part of the evolutionary scheme of things. if couples didn't mate then no offspring would be born. you don't see animals having gay relationships do you? the only reason humans have the potential to have homosexual relationships is because we play by our own rules, not by natures rules. its not right. i guess the whole thing of how other people affect us plays in too. its who people are more comfortable with. humans have all these emotions that mess with how they work and it causes things like that. some people are just born that way too. your sexuality isn't something that you can choose.

Answer 5

What about those who think that sexuality itself is sinful, no matter what your style or orientation, because of "lust"? Like what, during passion one is supposed to feel nothing but how the act will produce a child, maybe? People like that are out there, too. Sex is not a disease, none of it. Unless one is drawn to children, violence, or animals it is entirely normal !

Answer 6

I didn't choose to be a lesbian I WAS CHOSEN!!!! Why do straight people come to the gay and lesbian section and talk about us shoving our sexuality down their throats? Guess some straights can't read.

Answer 7

Came out as bi at 13.

Dated boys and girls until 22.

Now I'm gay.

Not a choice, I just think it feels more natural for me to be with boys and that is why heteros feel it's more natural to be with the opposite gender.

It's genetic.

I wouldn't chose to be gay, but I am, so I have learned to be okay with it, cause it is something that won't change whether I 'act' on it or not.

I'll still be gay just like others will still be straight whether or not they are having sex.

Answer 8

No. People are born with their sexuality. I just am not interested in having it shoved down my throat that someone is gay. If you want to be open about it, marry and adopt kids, fine. I have no opposition to it and it doesn't bother me. It is the difference between openness and being pushy. So you're gay and you mention it at the office, fine. You mention your boyfriend occasionally. Fine. I don't need anyone walking around with a banner, yelling about it five times a day and insisting that it is the only topic of conversation that matters.

Answer 9

Sure we all have choices. Many times in my teens and twenties guys hit me up for sex. I could have said yes, but I didn't. They were just looking to get their rocks off, women wanted relationships, and that was my goal as well.

Saying you were born gay is nothing more than avoiding responsibility for your actions.

(If you don't like an honest answer, don't ask the question)

Answer 10

I am straight because that is what God intended.