i'm a great person, i know i am, i go out of my way to help everyone, i join in stuff i listen to ppls problems and care about them, but once i become really close to ppl, like theyre my best friends then i start to sometimes treat them like rubbish, its like i know they'll take it so i push them, why do i do this? i'd love to hear your ideas
2007-04-06 11:38:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i'm a great person, i know i am, i go out of my way to help everyone, i join in stuff i listen to ppls problems and care about them, but once i become really close to ppl, like theyre my best friends then i start to sometimes treat them like rubbish, its like i know they'll take it so i push them, why do i do this? i'd love to hear your ideas
FYI i'm canadian
2007-04-06 12:11:06 · update #1
FYI i'm canadian
2007-04-06 12:11:34 · update #2
Like it or not this is the reason.........you are probably a very good person the problem is you know it and in knowing it ,you are far from being humble about it. So when you suck in a new friendship and you know they just love you ,the thrill is gone and time to move on to someone else to see if they can love you as much as you obviously love yourself. And hey....a lot of people do this unintentionally, the problem is one day you will be old and you will have no honest to goodness friends because you chose to play games instead of cherishing the people that let you in there hearts and you crap on them. It must be nice to be so wonderful that you can play with people like this.......you are at the top of my pole for the people that are the most conceited I have ever heard....... You have to be British because they are they are the most in love with themselves for the least amount of reasons.......In closing I'd like to say I had a really had a hard time seeing things from your point of view, but that's probably because I couldn't possibly get my head that far up my @ss!
2007-04-06 12:07:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well basically what you're doing is taking advantage of those persons. You should continue to treat them the way you were in the first place. And MOre importantly; you should treat them the way you would want them treating you. That always works. You probably do it cuz' you can and you know they won't budge.. which is bad. If you start practising not doing it, you won't have the problem anymore
2007-04-06 11:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you are probably insecure with your friendships. You like to push people and test their limits to see if they really are worthly of your friendship. To see if they will be there for you no matter what. Your treating them bad so that you know that they are truly your friends. Either that or you just don't like the people once you get to know them.
2007-04-06 11:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by Twigg313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are such a nice person then why would you treat anyone bad especially someone you are close too? Maybe you are just not a people person.
2007-04-06 11:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by imissrascal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest a book called, "How to win friends and influence people." It provides excellent techniques for building healthy relationships.
2007-04-06 12:10:31 · answer #5 · answered by philly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing more about you, it would be tough to answer that question. Have you really cared about someone who turned on you & hurt you?
2007-04-06 11:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a void in your heart. look for it.
2007-04-06 11:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋