as far as stop down talking me teasing me and being so sarcastic about everything
2007-04-06 11:08:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
see this the thing i suggest we get couseling but he thinks by us having sex the problem could be solve
2007-04-06 11:22:54 · update #1
I almost want to laugh. You cannot "convince" or "change" anybody. It took me so long to "get" this. Most likely, this is "who he is". You have two choices. Talk to him about how much it bothers you. Then, if he doesn't give a flying flip, and continues, you need to do whatever makes YOU happy....and stop rotating your world around how "he" is. If he won't treat you with respect now, then for God's sake, do NOT marry him, because it will ONLY get worse. Pay attention to the red flags waving, Lady. Many of us didn't and lived to regret it.
2007-04-06 11:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Really why is it that women just want to change everything about the guy there with if this were the case we would just be a bunch dogs. Really though the change has to come from within him until he does this is even willing to do this I would not get married becuase you will just be placing yourself to recieve more disapointment in marriage. Really
if he loves you he should be respecting you not dissing you
and be caring to your feelings not causing pain sorry but to me he sounds like a JERK!
2007-04-06 11:18:23 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it seems that he has a lot of growing up to do. If it bothers you, then he should be sensitive to that. People don't become more sensitive over-night. In fact, once you are married, you will be an even easier target. I would sit him down and let him know that you are having 2nd thoughts about the marriage because you just don't like to be treated that way.
2007-04-06 11:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him when he is teasing you, that he is hurting your feelings. When he is being sarcastic, tell him he is hurting your feelings. If he doesn't stop, you need to just get out of the relationship because he doesn't respect you or your feelings. You will find this behavior will only get worse as he gets older. This is something you need to discuss with him. It is serious.
2007-04-06 12:11:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD!!!!! this is exactly the same crap i deal with,, dont get me wrong i love my husband but everything that comes out of his mouth is a smart azz comment ... he will do this soooo much that he brings me to tears. i had a talk to him the other day and told him that if he didnt stop i would leave, so far he hasnt done it cause i think it scared the crap out of him. i dont know how bad he does it but i couldnt take it no more it was honestly that bad....... tell him how he makes you feel and tell him that you aint going to take it anymore
2007-04-06 11:24:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's joking take a frickin' joke! Lighten up. You can't change anyone. If you expect to change him after marriage you're wrong, you shouldn't ask him to, or expect him to. Don't get married if you don't like the way he treats you. How is stopping being a smart @ss, and joking around with you being a better person? It's called being boring if you ask me.
2007-04-06 12:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by SillierKimmie! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't convince him to be a better person nor can you change him that has to come from him waiting to change. Tell him the marriage is on hold until he starts working on himself and talking down to you. If he is like this now your marriage will never work in the end.
2007-04-06 11:11:36 · answer #7 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
People don't change much.
Either enjoy the sarcasm and being talked down to (complete disrespect) or dump his sorry a*ss and find a nicer guy. Sorry, but your amazing love will not change him. You marry him - it'll just get worse.
You have been warned.
2007-04-06 12:16:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't change him, so either get used to his insesitivity now, or break off the engagement and move on to find someone who makes your feelings a priority. Why on earth would you even say "yes" to someone who treats you like that? And furthermore, I just love his way of dealing with conflict. More sex is going to help? Help whom, I wonder...
This sounds like a total disaster. Oy...
2007-04-06 11:26:57 · answer #9 · answered by Courtney 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Listen to everyone.....Especially Tacota..!!!
OPEN YOUR EYES and look at what you are getting into, hun. Listen to what others are saying....Don't rush into this!
MEN DO NOT CHANGE- If he is mean now, he will be worse in the future!
Please think of yourself now. Like and respect yourself, and don't settle for just anyone.
Better alone than mistreated or abused!
Good luck!
2007-04-10 10:48:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋