2007-04-06 11:06:02 · 9 answers · asked by LUCKY3 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
How do you set inter-personal boundaries, that draw the line between individual and outer world...which serve to honor the individual (i.e. not compromise their beliefs, feelings, well-being) while at the same time leaving room for compassion, interaction, learning, empathy...
2007-04-08 09:03:55 · update #1
My boundaries seem unfixed. They do have limits to their flexibility, and are being adjusted as I encounter life with the idea of trying to stay open enough to experience true emotions, good and bad, accepting, or at least knowing I should accept life without judging.
I’ve seldom been let down from the results of being honest, respectful, and patient.
I’ve never been rewarded for attempting to look out for myself.
2007-04-09 11:29:44 · answer #1 · answered by Rockvillerich 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You set boundaries by getting to know people, and letting them know through your words and actions what you find acceptable/non-acceptable. Also, don't let an aggravating behavior go by (if it means a lot to you) even one time. Speak up and state your wishes, so that the next time that behavior occurs, it cannot be said that "You let it go once, and why are you now making an issue of it?".
Setting boundaries is different with different people and circumstances, and IMO, men and children generally need women to set the tone of the relationship for them.
As a previous poster said, you can't shut everyone out, but you can have it known where you're coming from and what you expect to receive as well as give in the relationship.
Good luck
2007-04-06 11:20:18 · answer #2 · answered by Croa 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I "feel" I want to answer this question, yet I'm unsure as to what you mean. Perhaps I can try this way. Opening, or closing the door? Boundaries that keep distances from "certain" (selected) others, or boundaries you have drawn that isolate parts of you from "transmitting" to others?
I speculate it's the latter? If true, only your experience & introspection can determine these boundaries. Yet, boundaries are always evolving. They are not "stagnant." You may "set" them today, & through new insights, change them tomorrow! I wish you had given just a tad more in details, since I don't like to speculate. I'm sorry if this didn't answer your question.
2007-04-07 08:16:52 · answer #3 · answered by Valac Gypsy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Comfort Zone Awareness
2007-04-06 11:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-03 10:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by kimmy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question would be: Are you trying to set boundaries on someone concerning how they interact with you or do you want to learn to set boundaries for yourself?
2007-04-06 12:14:44 · answer #6 · answered by cavassi 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Thoughtfully. i mean, you don't want to shut everybody out of everything, but you don't want to be walked all over either. One way to do so is to go into therapy, another is just to sound out friends who know you and see what their opnion is.
2007-04-06 11:13:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess the easiest answer is "To thine own self, be true"
2007-04-06 11:48:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You question is way too general. Specify what you mean.
2007-04-06 11:10:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋