Gynecologist help? women only please?

Question

im 15 and i have never gone to one before. im very nervous, and really dont want to go....can someone please give my adivce?

what should i do before i go there?


please, im very scared!!!!

Answer 1

Sometimes a visit to an OB/GYN is so that the dr can talk to a dr and become familiar with what goes on in that office thru talking so that it won't be as scary when it comes time for needing an actual exam.

One of the organizations that oversees the field of OB/GYN (Obstretrics and Gynecology) has started putting out info to encourage parents to bring their daughters in to do this, starting as young as 12 since so many young girls hear scary stories from those that need an actual exam by a gynecologist.

Now if you are in real need of having an exam done by a gynecologist because there is thought that something is wrong they will start by taking your blood pressure and weight. Then the MA (Medical Assistant) will ask about any kind of symptoms you are having such as pain, itching, etc.

When you get in to the room they will have you undress from the waste down (depending on which area is being examined, gyns also take keep an eye on issues with the breast if there are any going on) and put a sheet over your legs to keep it covered until the dr is ready to examine you.

When the dr comes in they will ask you some questions about symptoms you are having (go back over what the assistant will have asked to make sure it's all clearly understood) and how you are feeling. After a bit of talking they will then have you put your feet in to the stirrups and have you scoot down a bit.

Then after that they will get a special instrument called a speculum which is shaped like the bill of a duck. Many drs use plastic ones so you won't have to worry about the metal ones. If they use a metal one you can ask them to warm it up first before it is inserted. They have a size speculum that is designed just for those that are virgins (didn't know this til many years after my first pelvic exam and pap smear).

Depending on the reason for the exam they may go ahead and also take a pap smear at this time. The pap smear is just a special test designed to screen for cervical cancer. They do this by using a special brush to scrape the cells from the cervix and have it sent off to a lab for analysis.

Some spotting (bit of bleeding) is normal after this exam because of the irritation of the brush taking the cells. The spotting only lasts about a day or two. If it continues past that let your mom and the dr know what is going on.

The pelvic exam (where they actually feel the organs to make sure that there are no abnormalities such as masses or bigger shape of organs) and pap (if necessary depending on the reason for the exam) should not hurt at all.

If it does hurt then it's for the following reasons:

1. being tense (normal for someone who is nervous about a first time experience which is why it is important to relax)

2. the dr is too rough (and one can ask the dr to stop)

3. there is something wrong such as an infection

Because this is your first time there ask to talk to the dr in plain clothes before going on to any exam so that you can feel a bit more comfortable with this.

With the exam part, a really good dr will explain everything they are doing so that it isn't as scary.

Your mom will most likely be there in the room as well so that will also help a little bit to relax you.

But in the mean time there is not much to do before the visit other than to try and relax.

Answer 2

My daughter is 15 and facing the same thing. The important thing to remember is that this person is there to help you, not to make things worse. It probably won't be the first time they have seen someone who has never gone before, and they will answer any questions that you have before, during, and after the examination. There isn't a lot for you to do before you go in except decide what you want to ask. Without knowing why you are going there, I would consider questions like what exactly is going to happen, what any tests are for, and for pete's sake don't pee. Seriously, if they need a sample you want to have one available, and if not they will let you go to the bathroom. Go to the bathroom like 30 minutes before going into the office, that should give your body enough time to prepare another. Relax, it is never fun, but we all do it at least once a year pretty much.

Answer 3

There is -nothing- to be afraid of. :)

Take a shower before you go and wear clean undies. Not thong underwear! Being clean will probably make you feel better.

Ask your doc to explain what everything is and how it will be used. That's what my doc did for me and I felt much better about the whole thing (and my doc is a man!).

It's really quick, only a few minutes. The only part that is slightly uncomfortable is the pap test. It pinches a little bit but only takes a second.

It is SO important that you get regular check-ups like this. The first time is kinda scary and that's normal. Ever after it's not scary, just sort of annoying! Hehehe...

Answer 4

Relax. The more uptight you are the more likely a pap smear will be uncomfortable. If it makes you feel better, get a "cleaned up" before you go. Empty your bladder and wear socks because the exam rooms are usually cold. It also helps to be informed of what exactly the doctor will do. He/she should come in and talk to you with your clothes on first and tell you what he will do before they have you change and do the exam.
Don't be self conscious. Doctors have seen it all and they really could care less if you are bushy, have an odor, etc. Relax and get it over with. Good luck.

Answer 5

Just make sure you tell the stand-in nurse, or even the gyno that it is your first time and that you are very nervous. If you gyno is a male, and you dont feel comfortable with that, you can request to see a female one instead. The gyno or the nurse will talk you through everything they're going to do. Just try to relax, nothing they do will hurt much, just sometimes you might feel a slight bit of pressure (not pain though). Just remember to relax and listen to the proffesionals. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

Make sure you wash and shower before you go. Wear clean socks and undies. When you go in they will weigh you, ask you about your last date of menstruation and questions like that. Youll put on a paer gown and when the dr comes in they will have you put your feet up and scoot your bottom down. They will then insert their fingers and press on your belly and ask if you have any pain. Aslo they will insert a speculum which is uncomfortable but only lasts a minute. It spreads it open and insert a long qtip thing for a pap smear. You may have some cramping and bleeding for about 2 days afterwards but overall should be okay.

Answer 7

Honestly, its not as bad as you think- I've had a couple bad experiences (with doctors) and well, you really just HAVE to get used to it, when you go once a year every year until your old!! But they are supposed to explain EVERYTHING BEFORE they do it- otherwise, it wont be a great experience for you!! But most of your first appointment is paperwork and answering questions . . . they do a full exam I'm sure- breast exam, pelvic exam, then they will swab your cervix to do a pap smear . . . check out the links:

And definitely ask questions- if you are not sure, get sure. No question about he gyno office/exam is stupid!

Answer 8

You do not have to do anything , just be clean that's all, and do not worry, millions of women have to be seen by a Gynecologist, you are not the first and will not be the last. I hope you get the help you need, just relax and do not worry!

Answer 9

Honey, relax. Remember...ALL women do this. It's never like going to the amusement park, but it's something you have to do to stay healthy. You're not alone. I don't know anyone who wasn't nervous the first time (and sometimes even after) but try not to be embarrassed, because we ALL do it.

I actually think it's good that you're going at your age. Best to start good habits when you're young! You're taking charge of your reproductive health and that's important. Hang in there and just 'get through' it the first time. I promise it won't be nearly as bad as you think. After that, it won't seem nearly as scary!

Answer 10

have your mom tell you the basics of what will happen. Dont worry about what the doctor will think because they go through hundreds of women a day. Also make a list of questions you have to ask so that you do not forget them when you get there. Dont Worry, Itll be fine. :)