my boyfriend and i were perfect up till a coupl months ago. he used to want me around and would have more fun when i was around but now he is like sooo busy and doesnt want me around as much. i really do like him and dont want to leave him and i know he understands and cares about me alot but i feel like im not sure if its worth anymore time.
2007-04-06 10:40:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
SIT DOWN WITH HIM, AND U HAVE TO TELL HIM HOW U FEEL, AND IF HIS RESPOND IS THT HE KNOWS AND HE WANTS TO SPEND TIME WITH U, BUT HE IS TO BUSY, THEN ASK HIM WITH WHT, IF HE GETS ANNOYED OR MAD, U KNOW HE IS WASTING TIME WITH U
2007-04-06 10:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by island girl!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a dating relationship is new, each person can't get enough of the other. This closeness wears thin in time because each person is an individual with different other friends and interests. If you can allow him to be a individual with time of his own, you have a future. If you have to have someone that's in your back pocket 24 hours a day, you need to look for someone as needy and as clingy as you.
Enjoy the time you spend together and cherish the time that you spend alone. Do something that brings just you joy and then enthusiastically share that experience with your boyfriend when you see him. Be equally happy for him that he can have a good time when he's not with you.
2007-04-06 17:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...we should be friends...lol.
*My b/f is treating me the same way, in fact I think he's cheating on me to be honest. He has been a total jerk lately and blowing me off, and ignoring my phone calls/texts etc.
...So I'm in the same boat as you.
*The advice everyone gave me on here, is that I should dump his sorry *** and move on. Which is something I am considering.....very much so right now.
**I don't know......I guess the best thing to do first, is to talk to him, and see what's up.
~I'm just going to talk to my b/f and find out if he's lost interest in me. And ask him flat out if he's been seeing someone else on the side, and that's why he's been acting so funny towards me. Which it makes perfect sense if you ask me. I think my guy is sooo cheating on me.
Anyways confront him ask straight up what you want to know, and if when he answers you feel like it's a lie or he shows signs of lying while he's talking to you (sweating, figiting, can't sit still, looking around, won't look you straight in the eyes, mumble, stutters, changes the subject, turns the tables on you, nervous laugh, jokes, twiddles fingers.) you know stuff like that?
**Then I would be a little worried. But that's just me.
2007-04-06 17:49:28 · answer #3 · answered by Shut your mouth when u tlk to me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if it sees like he doesnt want you around anymore, confront him casually about the situation, and see what he thinks. If you get to notice that he really doesnt care, but you cre about him, then do whats best for you, leave, dont waste your time with him. Theres your true love out there, wholl treat you better.
2007-04-06 17:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by thfgbv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make a relationship work the boy friend would have to spend alot of time with you. If he is never there for you just dump him and try to find another boyfriend.
2007-04-06 17:44:48 · answer #5 · answered by Josh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he really busier now (perhaps with extra school work or a job or yard work at home) or do you think it's just an excuse? Talk to him in a calm, non-judgmental way and ask him. Your gut feeling is worth listening to.
2007-04-06 17:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves and cares about you, he wouldn't be making you feel as if he didn't care. Sit down and talk to him and if he doesn't give you any good feedback then maybe you should leave him. It takes two to have a relationship!
2007-04-06 17:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by mjaneG6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend had the same thing happen to her ..
she was always asking me for advice .. but i knew her and her guy - i dont know you or your guy so it was easier to give her advice but you know what she did ..
she explained to him how she felt about been left out as much .. when she arranged a date she felt used because he said no and went out with some other girls - dont get me wrong he loved her so when she explained they agreed that they had to split up but they're great friends still but now she doesn't feel used and knows where to stand ..
my advice to you is ..
explain to him you feel less special and less loved .. arrange to go out more as a couple and no one else ..
or
ask him if you can go out with him and his mates and get to know them so then you will feel more involved but listen if you do this you have got to make sure he doesnt treat you different infront of his friends .. you have got to make sure he treats you like a girlfriend!
if you still feel used and unloved after this you need to end the relationship even if you dont feel you want to because when in a relationship you need to feel loved and special like a princess no girl deserves **** by a lad .. try and stay friends with him if you end it!
i know because i get played alot and i know what type of guy i would like and ive had this happen before and felt unloved so i explained to him and we knew it was best to end it so we did and were great friends!
hope this works out for you and it all goes back to before x :D
sure it will take this advice!
2007-04-06 17:49:59 · answer #8 · answered by ♫ = ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him! Trust me. From a guy that knows...he is probably wanting you to break up with him, that's why he is acting like a jerk. Guys don't like to be the bad guy. We try and start fights or make the girl not like us anymore so they will break up and we don't have to do it. Trust me!
2007-04-06 17:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight up with him, tell him how you feel. See what he respondes and what he is willing to sacrifice to spend more time with you.
2007-04-06 17:43:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋