I was ready for a boy, their so hardy and what not. Yesterday I found out I'm having a girl (90% chance). I'm really worried she'll end up like me (totally f****ed up)...am I crazy or has anyone else felt this way??
2007-04-06 10:35:54 · 17 answers · asked by EYoungmom88 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
let me just say, I'm not saying I'm worried she'll be more messed up or easier to mess up then a boy. I'm just worried because my mother wasn't the greatest mother to me, and I've thought about how I was going to be a good mother. And now I have to worry about things that I went through do to my low self esteam. I still haven't fixed my own self esteam, how will I help her be healthy and happy within herself?? See my fiance has great self esteam, but it's all "maucho man pride"...
2007-04-06 10:56:00 · update #1
That is absolutely normal. I'm pregnant and my husband is absolutely terrified of having a girl. Needless to say the female influences in his life have not been very good. Scratch that they were the worst you could ask for. For myself its not an issue, but then I grew up with alot of strong, independent, well adjusted women. You have to remember that your daughter will be a product of you, not your mother or any other women. If you show her how to be strong and nuture her self esteem she will be a wonderful woman someday. Everyone has a chance to do better for their children than their parents did for them. Good luck.
2007-04-06 17:15:32 · answer #1 · answered by CalamityJane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! Not because I'm afraid she'll be like me...but because I'm afraid of the influences in the world that could affect her. You see, I had a boy years ago. He's now 25 years old and a really awesome person. My siblings all have boys. I'm used to boys. No one has a girl. Now...I'm 42 years old and pregnant with a girl. God help me...I don't know anything about raising a girl, lol! I don't want to be over-protective, but I don't want to throw her to the wolves either! It's a scary proposition, lol! I guess I'll just do the best I can, and hope I do right by her. After all...I had never raised a boy before I had my son, either...and he turned out fine.
2007-04-06 10:38:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was extrememly worried about having a girl. My husband is very much the outdoors type and will be a great dad to a boy! Boys have it easier I think too, they don't have to worry about their self image as much. There is too much pressure on young and teenage girls to be perfect, and I didn't want a daughter to have to go through what I went through. I was lucky and we had a boy three months ago. However, if it would have been a girl, I would love her just as much. The parenting is just a little different.
I want to tell you though, don't worry! I never thought I could be a good mom, but you really just kind of fall into a groove and most things come so naturally. I really amaze myself at how much I have learned in just three months about being a parent. Just relax, you will love your beautiful little girl!
2007-04-06 11:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a girl doesn't mean you're having a weakling. Girls are just as strong as boys and I hear from parents with mixed offspring that girls tend to be harder. The latter probably isn't much comfort, but the point is that girls are not more likely to end up "messed up" than boys. You have equal chances of doing right or wrong by each individual child. So long as you honestly are looking out for the best interest of a child, they will turn out as fine or better than the average person.
2007-04-06 10:45:05 · answer #4 · answered by erythisis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am scared to death of having a girl!! I have one boy and we are praying this next one will be a boy as well!! Our son was such and easy baby, he never fussed and has always gone to bed all by his self. We had two friends that both had girls at the same time we had our boy and they had and still have so much trouble! And they are all two now. So yes i feel the same way and i dont think it is messed up. Good Luck!
2007-04-06 10:42:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girls are so fun. My daughter is only 21 months but she is already my little buddy. You'll be fine. It'll make you appreciate your mom. I was scared about all the things that girls have to deal with later on, but I'm going to raise her with good morals and a high self-esteem.
2007-04-06 10:39:07 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to cope with that is to tell urself that u will do everything in ur power to make sure ur girl doesn't turn out like u. everyone wants their childern to succeed. and the best way to assure that is to teach them right from wrong. and if u have done alot of wrong in ur time then u can teach ur kids not to do what u have done. u r actually in a better position to teach ur kids than parents who have never been through these things before.
2007-04-06 10:40:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I truly believe that how she "ends up" is all up to you. Whether you have a boy or a girl just make sure you are the best parent you can possibly be. Good Luck!
2007-04-06 10:45:30 · answer #8 · answered by tubzoflard 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband is afraid if we have a girl, she will end up being a slut! I totally want a girl. You just have to be sure to raise her properly. Make sure she has great values and morals. It all depends on your parenting skills. If you are a good mother, she won't be f'd up!
2007-04-06 10:40:38 · answer #9 · answered by agkwatson@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, I was not worried at all about having a girl. She's only 4 but she's my best friend for life. It's great!
2007-04-06 10:42:10 · answer #10 · answered by Katie Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋