My husband is impossible to wake in the morning. When I do wake him, he's down right mean. Any suggestions???

Question

Seriously, I've tried everything from being sweet to yelling. A few times, I've left the room and closed the door thinking the alarm would eventually do the trick. This situation is out of hand because I work late nights and need my sleep, however, fighting with him at 7 am to get him off to work makes this impossible for me. I'm open to any suggestions that won't get me in trouble, like throwing water on him. Thank you in advance for your ideas.

Answer 1

Does he snore? I know it may seem like a silly question. But he may have sleep apnea. If so, then he is not resting well. If he gets diagnosed, a doctor can treat him. If he can rest, he will most likely awaken refreshed and less cranky. Ask your doctor for more information if you feel this is a possibility.

Answer 2

He's an adult. Let him wake himself up. When you're ready to sleep, put in a set of foam earplugs and go to sleep. If he oversleeps, that's his issue.

If this doesn't work, just go to sleep in another bed in the house or on the couch and then move to the bed once he's left. Under no circumstances should you make it your responsibility to wake him up anymore. He's used to being taken care of and doesn't appreciate it. Change your behavior and he'll have to change his or miss work.

Before you do this, tell him the night before that you wont be waking him up anymore. Don't be mean, spiteful or antagonistic, just let him know that you won't be doing it anymore and you just wanted to give him some notice so he can make other arrangements if he'd like to. If he demands an explanation, simply tell him that you don't know how to wake him up in a way that works for both of you and what you do now doesn't work for you, so you're stepping away from it. Leave it at that.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Talk to him tell him that. You should tell him that it is his responsibility to get up so just let him sleep through the alarm for all you care. or dont throw water at him but i got this tip from a doctor and it works if you put just a drip of water into his ear it will wake him up it even wakes people up when they are drunk. But i suggest he wakes up on his own because nobody like to fight in the morning

Answer 4

Hon, come home, go to bed and sleep until you are supposed to be awake again.

This may mean a separate bedroom.

I'm with all the folks who advise you stop waking him Now. He's an adult. He suffers the consequences. If he truly endangers his job just let him know.....

You're working, pulling your share, if he loses his job there will be consequences and not just at work. Decide what the consequences are. (You keep the separate room and cover all expenses, but he's got to maintain the house....) Whatever.....

Get some sleep.

Answer 5

First of all I would set like 4 alarm clocks!!! Let them all go off in a diffrent tone and If that doesn't help then let him know you won't be waking him up do too he is angry!! And let him be late for work and deal with the punishment.

Answer 6

Let him sleep, and be late. Is there another room in the house you can sleep in?

My husband and I used to argue because he would fall asleep on the couch and get mean when I woke him to go to bed. I started letting him sleep on the couch all night. He didn't sleep well there, and got the point. Your husband will get the point when he's late.

Answer 7

He really needs to be an adult and be responsible for waking himself up. If this is some kind of medical problem/side effect from some meds he's on, he needs to go see his doctor and let them know what's going on so they can adjust his meds or something. If not, you need to back off and let him be late for work so much that they threaten to fire him, and maybe that'll motivate his *** to get movin in the morning!!

Answer 8

He should get up on his own and leave you to sleep. If he loses his job for being late, it's a lesson he needs to learn. And if he loses his job for being late, through him out of the bedroom until he gets a new job.

This will only work if he knows that you are not going to wake him up. Don't just threaten to stop waking him.

Answer 9

Do you sleep in separate room? If not I would suggest you get your own room and don't bother trying to wake him up. He is an adult and should be responsible for himself. He will get into enough trouble if he doesn't show up at work or shows up very late.

Answer 10

Are you talking about your husband or your child? Suggestion: Quit making it your responsibility to get him up in the morning. He's a big boy, he's able to get himself up. Maybe after being late to work a few times, he'll begin to see that!