I have two wonderful boys. I have a wife who I am just friends with. She is a great person but over the years the emotional connection has died. We have not had sex in years. I have achieved much in life both in my career and in my personal life. I am a respected leader in our church. I have now come to that place where it seems like the train of life has made its final stop and I must get off. I am seeing a psychiatrist plus taking a drug called celexa and have been in counseling. I have prayed but I can't get over the feeling that I've done everything I am suppose to have done in life. I eat..I sleep...I go to work and that is my life. Can you help me?
2007-04-06 10:04:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds to me like you are keeping yourself in a secure bubble in which you feel safe. By doing this you have limited yourself to see all that is out there. First that is wonderful that you and your wife are friends, but you are missing companionship, if there is no chance of a spark again cut eachother loose while you both are still friends. Second if you are not craving companionship at the moment why not offer your help to others. Volunteer some time with the homeless or with the children in the hospitals. To see a child smile will brighten most peoples day, dress up as a clown or a character costume and visit the childrens hospital. There are so many out there that have it worse that could use the help of those of us that are willing to give time that we have. You have two boys, maybe get involved in a sports as a coach if they are in that age group. Your life is what YOU Choose to make of it. Get active and be an activisit for you own life. Keep faith and show faith to others.
GOOD LUCK, BEST WISHES AND GOD BLESS.
2007-04-06 10:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by 20+ years and still in-love! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up! u are going thru life sleep walking like a robot, that's not living that's just existing! U are responsible for your own happiness-take charge of your life-get up and get a hobby, do some volunteer work, finds things u are interested in and do them 2 keep busy. Perhaps go 2 the gym 2 relieve stress and boredom. Take your wife out on a date and reunite your love life, talk 2 her about how u feel. U are in church so u no GOD wants u 2 have a full life, he didn't put u here 2 feel sorry 4 yourself, take life by handle and ride it until the wheels fall off. U will be faced with trials and tribulations but that's the whole point OVERCOME it!
Take your kids out 4 entertainment and watch them smile and have fun (if u r sad and hurting they feel that.) Take some of their energy and excitement and be thankful 4 those 2 beautiful blessing.(sons)
It is not fair 2 your family 4 u 2 give up on life they feel your negative vibe!
Negative thinking equals doing nothing- CHANGE YOUR WAY OF thinking- think positive and positive things will happen n your life.
I don't mean 2 sound ugly but we all get depressed at times we just need someone 2 shake us and speak the truth so we can overcome!
God Bless u-make a difference in your life decide 2day not 2 b bored and depressed and take action!
Last note- give your wife a second chance, talk 2 her more, take her on a date (send her flowers) u may be surprised that u r still in love with her add more excitemnet/adventure. u may be the one who caused the emotionally deattachment. because of your depression..
2007-04-06 10:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need a change in your routine. Maybe you and your wife should start doing activities together; take dancing classes, volunteer at the local hospital together, take an art class together, somthing to get you two to spend some time together outside of home and work. This will break the monotony of your life and possibly re-ignite the spark between you two. If she doesn't want to do any activities, you should go out and pick up a hobby of your own. You'll meet some new friends, learn somthing new, and maybe after she hears about how much you enjoy it, she'll want to join in. God love ya and I hope you find what you need!
2007-04-06 10:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by cs_ds_02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are these guys outside the bars down in Mexico - for $5 bucks you can grab onto 4 car batteries wired together - you'll come and sh*t your pants at the same time.
That ought to do the trick.
If you want meaningful deep answers, you have come to the wrong rumpus room, my friend. Everything here fits on a bumper sticker. People will say "buy a new shirt" or "change your life"- yeah, that'll do it.
The long answer is - there are no short answers.
2007-04-06 11:01:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember when you where a kid care free and happy ? Try real hard to remember .That's what life really is . It isn't the sex nor the career not the money the achievements .Its you and how you see yourself . Stop looking for other things to make you happy .Clear your mind and just be you .
2007-04-06 10:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by dad 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i,ll try..your not really living a life are you..think your just in a routine and every day is the same..thats not a happy life it,s mundane and from what i,m reading you are not happy with the mundane life that you have..think you need more than what you have right now..email me direct maybe i an help a bit..
2007-04-06 10:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by hawthorn330 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fight for something.
Find a cause that is being neglected that you can really deep down inside care about and make a difference.
Passion for one thing spreads to a passion for everything quickly.
2007-04-06 10:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋