should i be ok with my boyfriend looking at other women and telling it to me?

Question

I just recently found out he had been cheating on me and lying to me many many times...and now he is always looking at some other women without even trying to hide it, even his collegues at work(he cheated on me with 2 collegues before!) and saying itto me as its perfectly ok, he says he fantasizes about them and things. he is looking at other women's photos and masturbating to them even when he is at my plave and then later he doesnt even want to have sex with me...and now he is telling me that he has been thinking about others while we have sex too and that is normal too and that im a ***** for getting upset over this...i try to explain what that makes me feel like especially after what he did to me but he just doesnt want to understand...what should i do??i feel like i deserve more respect than that..

Ok in response to what he wrote down there: we've been together with him for over 2.5 years. only to find out he was already in the beginning trying to get with others(he left a love letter for some ho).then in norway he was in bed with 2 people and would have slept with them if he only COULD have, as if it would soften things that he couldnt.before that there was one collegue that he was massaging-and if it was so innocent then why did he hide it from me(thers the answer in the question).then when i finally found out in september after he had just been ignoring my mails and everything for over a week he onlt told me about the czech, then later when i forgave him(although he didnt even apologize)said he loved me while he was going home with another collague and sleepin in her bed and things.i found that out by accident, then he swore there was nothing else, but in a 6 month period i would always find out something else.it started in sept, last thing i found out was in the end of jan07.

Answer 1

Dump his a ss you deserve better if you let him get away with it he will think you do not mind. Give him a wake-up call and ream him and then just tell him your through. I can't understand why women on this service keeping asking the same question when it is so plain as day in front of them to what they should do. You are not over reacting and I'm sorry to say if I were you and he called me that well he would be getting slapped and yelled at. You do realize her emotionally and verbally abusing you do like being treated like garbage or a doormat?

You are totally right in assuming you deserve more respect from him because you are right. He is playing you just tell him to get the F out of your life and go play someone that doesn't have the guts and smarts that I have. Since I have come to the realization that I have been dating a sack of SH IT! That I 'm wasting my time on someone that doesn't care about me or my feelings.

Answer 2

Oh, honey! You are not a doormat. Run screaming from this jerk as fast as you can. There are some really good guys out there and you definitely deserve one. You are a unique, beautiful, special person and you deserve someone who will recognize this and treat you as such. I promise you will find him and when you do, you will wonder why you ever wasted a precious minute on the SOB you are with now.

Answer 3

wow.... a love story... that needs a lot of talking (for now) to settle your differences. after reading both of you, you seem to love each other but lacks communication and i mean communicating,not just plain talk. find time for it & see if you can forgive each other and make up for the lost time. weigh if your love for each other is worth fighting and learn from your mistakes. nothing is too late to forgive and start again for a relationship worth saving.

Answer 4

OK IM THE HATED BOYFRIEND!
this was very unfair because she is not telling everything in this i look like a totally heartless ****.
so here comes my point of the whole thing and its much more complicated than it seem on the page.

for the first when she (still love her) say i was cheating i was never having sex with anyone not even kissing anyone probably i would have if i could but this was because i have never had another girl in my life not even been kissing anyone and i still wondered how it would be and i was moving to norway to work and i was extremely alone looking for a house at the moment living in a hostel.

it was very stressful time to look at apartment after apartment and get a NO in every place and work at same time, and there i met this man that i thought was really cool and think that he was my new friend forever.
and he showed me how to talk with girls and he was a real idiot but anyway i was not talking because im very shy person but he was talking and the girls liked me anyway but the most that it came to when i lived at the hostel was that we were talking in the tv room and once hugging one girl outside (standing not long hugs not long time)

and then me and my girl was always so different in some things so something was making me like one girl very much that was coming from csech to visit norway and i thought i was in love (well we didnt do anything not even hug and i dont like her today and not anyone else than my love that is angry onme)

it would be very longto explain evrything but i have been crying over this yes and i know what i have been doing and i was really saying im sorry never going to cheat on her and i was really happy that i didnt have sex with anyone i sleeped in the same bed once unfortunantely but both with clothes and no kissing I KNOW this is not going to happen again and i havent been doing anything after i said it now maybe 5months?(was being very much in love with my girl when we met again)

and for u that read the question fast didnt understand that i never said it was ok to cheat absolutely not.(thats why it was in these)
and the other colleague she is saying i cheated with i was massaging her back with a shirt on a chair after night work then she massaged my back in max 5min (really love massage) and took her bus home. thats it.

and she even liked me once and said that she is alone but i wasnt even touching her because i was thinking on my girl.

and she is saying that im looking photos of women and mast to them and then i dont want to have sex with her
=she is referring this to 1day when she was in school in 8hours and i was home i was taking the clothes comp catalogue and looking at the womens and then at the night i didnt feel for having sex (who want always anyway?)

AND SHE IS SAYING IM THINKING ON OTHERS WHILE WE HAVE SEX! for the first a big poll showed that every third man is doing it for the second i told her that i have been thinking dirty thoughts sometime (note sometime and not in the whole sex act only in the heat and not some exact person)

yes im looking at women if im on the town but there is a very very big difference to look and look and if i wouldnt understand what i did and if i wouldnt regret what i did last summer and if i would still look for a girl to be with but im not im just looking at a person and then forget it.(very big difference)

people dont judge me i know what i did and i have been crying too.im not a perfect person but i cant be judged in whole my life (she was going to meet a person from iran and she didnt knew yet that i was doing this he was just not coming because pass problems so there i got back a little)
so no one is perfect thank u for the word

Answer 5

Dump the dude. Get yourself tested for STDs and HIV/AIDS.
Make a better choice with a guy the next time.

Answer 6

Just get rid of him.....how nuch more of your life do u want to waste.