Bad situation,please help out of money,girl friends seeing someone else,wife won't let me see my kid.?

Question

I'm for ready to pack it in,I always said how could anyone quit so easy but who wants to be held back on all levels,.......I'm really scared for the first time{please guys and gals don't be jerks}------I got no family and really don't have many options or people to turn to...???

Answer 1

Divorce your wife, find girlfriends who won't cheat and ask you wife why she does not let you see you child, if you are paying child support you have the right to see the child unless there is another problem you have omitted...

Answer 2

Sh*t, welcome to LIFE!

There will *always* be something that goes wrong or several at the right time. Sit down and try to think of what you can do *for now* that will better your predicament in the long run.

I can't tell you what to do, but little steps tend to make things easier than going all out at once. Remember these things though:

1) money comes and goes, it will always be a problem for everyone in their lives. Start preparing better, start a savings account when you can.

2) The ex has to let you see your kid, especially if you have joint custody or visitation rights. If you are desolate, Legal Aide might be able to help (look it up in your county)

3) Girlfriends can be much like money (see above)...

Hang in there, hope things get better eventually.

Answer 3

The fact that you mention you have a child is important. No matter how bad your other relationships are - a child makes life worth living. Your child does not care that you have no money. You are what is important to them. Even if you are having trouble seeing them right now - that will pass. You will want to be here and be the best person you can be when that time comes. You need to get an attorney to deal with your visitation issues. Look in you local phone book or on ;line to find your state legal aid provider. All states have legal aid offices who will provide you with a lawyer at no cost if you cannot afford one. They will guide you through the necessary steps to see your child. In the meantime - try talking to a mental health professional to work through your feelings. I would also suggest you see a physician about the possibility of depression. There are medications they can prescribe to help you through this rough patch. I DO believe in the saying "what does not kill us will make us stronger." You CAN get past this. Good luck!

Answer 4

Not trying to be a jerk.. but are you and the wife dvorced? if so is there a court order to allow you to see the kids? i gather you and her dont have a good after relationship.. as for the girlfriend.. sad when they take off when the money runs out.. was she the cause of the breakup in your marriage?
as for packing it in, why not forget the ex's concentrate on you.. grab yourself by the boot straps.. and show your kids you are a good man and maybe the wife will see this also and let you start seeing your kids.. taking your own life is the easy way out.. you have to ask yourself am i really a quitter.. do my kids deserve this and im sure you will see that the answer is no...i wish you luck..

Answer 5

Hi
Well first ditch the girlfriend instantly then make moves legally for access to kids think of you for a change you have a right to see them !! Take sometime out and get yourself back on track!! The old addage time is best healer!! Focus on getting to see the kids get to gym to make yourself feel better !!
DO NOT start sitting wallowing in self pity god knows we all been there at some point!! Keep busy and things will look up!!....... By the way i'm in similar position and it working out so don't fret

Answer 6

First of all, dump the girlfriend. You don't need to deal with that right now. Second, ask your boss if you can have more hours or something at work, or pick up a second job if things are pretty bad. You may need to file for public assistance until you get on your feet. Third, call your divorce attorney. Your wife cannot withhold your child from you if you have visitation rights.

Good luck to ya

Answer 7

So you let your little head do the thinking for the big head?

The g/f should be your last concern, so let her go, totally.

Now, we come to the wife. Meaning, you're still married? Are you legally separated? Filing separate taxes?

Child: If you don't have any visitation rights, then you need to get that squared away along with support payments.

Answer 8

Start with an hour...just see if you can get through one hour.
Once you master the hours, they will turn in to days.....months....weeks.....years.

In other words take it one thing at a time. If you look at the entire picture it can be overwhelming and consume you. That is not good....when you feel like that you will feel like it is all too much to overcome. However if you work on one thing at a time you will see that it is possible to get through this.

If you need someone to talk to and cannot afford a counselor....go to church. Talk to a clergyman....they can offer great insight as they deal with these types of situations everyday.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 9

Take control of your life. Forget the gf if she's cheating on you. Get a job and get money to live and then go to court to get visitation to see your child. You have options. It is not the end of the world We all go through bad times and they pass. Do something to change your situation. Don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself. I hope I helped. Good luck.

Answer 10

I'm not really sure what you're asking. If you have no money, go out and try getting a job, even one that you think is beneath you - at least you will have money then! If you think your girlfriend wants to cheat on you, first try talking to her about it, and then if she does cheat on you, you don't need that in your life. As for your ex-wife, threaten to sue her.