If hurting people unnecessarily is a sin, and in life, you cannot please everybody, how should one act? It is natural for there to be discrepancies in life where as with lovers, one is chosen and the other is not. Such decisions hurt people. Should one not admit to one’s feelings in order to omit the pain? Should one avoid these life cycles completely in order to avoid the chances? (Surely, in life people should take chances.) How can we justify to ourselves living in these vicious circles?
2007-04-06 08:50:25 · 8 answers · asked by oneclassicmaiden 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Hurting others deliberately is a sin. Hurting them accidentally is not. Guilt implies intention. Also, depending what it is, sometimes hurting someone can be for their own good. Tough love. If someone is a drug addict & you take their drugs away & put them in detox, they would say you're hurting them. But you're actually saving their life. Follow your heart. You know what's right. What does your conscience tell you? Make decisions based on the greatest good. If you're contemplating two actions, which course of action will hurt the fewest people?
Using this logic, I would recommend capital punishment for serial killers, rapists. Here is my logic: if you kill one person you of course would say that is a sin, but by obliterating him you are saving the lives of all future victims (innocent lives) that he would have destroyed. So by killing him, fewer people are hurt. By letting him live you actually cause more deaths & they are the deaths of innocent people, not guilty.
We are not perfect beings. & everything is not black & white. Many moral decisions are shades of grey. Follow your own conscience. Do what you believe to be right. Try not to hurt anyone if at all possible, including yourself.
When it comes to matters of the heart, people often get hurt. But you have to be honest. Lying to someone, telling them what they want to hear, or lying by omission, is doing them no favour, it will hurt them more in the long run. Speak your heart. Life is too short not to. Be honest & let the chips fall where they may. Never be deliberately cruel. Be as kind as you can when delivering bad news, as you may need to. But don't withhold news that people need to hear. I would want to know the truth (even a painful truth) if it were me..
Good luck if this is something you're grappling with. I can only hazard a guess. The fact that you're asking the question shows that you have compassion for others so I don't think you would hurt anyone on purpose (cruel people wouldn't even worry about it or care.)
2007-04-06 09:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by amp 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Simply act in a way that you yourself would wish to be treated. Choosing to be with one person over another is not vindictively hurting them and therefore can't be classed as such. Sure people get hurt but through time and life experience they will come out the other side a better person. These people that you meet from time to time who just seem to know what to say or do in a bad or tricky situation, aren't just blessed with this knowledge from birth. The knowledge that they possess is gathered throughout their life so far and so by experiencing pain or hurt and moving on, growing and learning from it, they can pass on their wisdom to others and thereby ease (or even prevent, if the person is listening properly) or lessen their hurt.
2007-04-06 09:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by Tatsbabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, understand there are no wrong choices, only different choices that produce different results.
Every choice you make is the perfect choice for you.
Pain is never a bad thing luv, even when others may become hurt by your choices.
Pain is representative of fear.
Fear is a place within you that has yet discovered love.
Your emotions are there to teach you about yourself.
The entire goal is always to return to yourself.
If you are able to always treat others as you wish to be treated the pain will be lessened.
If you are talking about unrequited love; the person that the love is not returned to has yet to be able to love themselves and others to the point of giving without receiving, without grasping...the source of suffering.
That is something that they can only teach themselves through their own mind and heart.
Do not carry that burden with you.
May you all be happy.
May you all be peaceful.
May you all be free from suffering.
2007-04-06 10:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by sapphire_velvet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may seem like a vicious circle but you have to remember the person you are hurting may be sinning not you. Maybe they are being selfish by getting hurt by the choice you made. You are going to have to make decisions in life and they shouldn't upset someone who deeply cares for you genuinely. They will be understanding of your choices and not make you feel guilty about them. This all takes lots of practice by the way, it is natural to get your feelings hurt, I have been the one getting them hurt and have now realize you have to love people for who they are and if you truly love them then you stand behind them 100% without letting your selfishness or greediness get in the way.
2007-04-06 08:59:05 · answer #4 · answered by zyann0102 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have ponder this question a long time. and the answer is that there has to be bad for there to be good in this world. This is the consept of duelism. As humans we have that side to us that cant help but be selfish or just plain evil. its part of our nature, given some people are more prone to act this way than others. To truly enjoy life, act the way you would like to, tell the truth or lie, it all doesnt matter. because we have to experince all that negative behavior to truly appreciate the good around us.
good luck
2007-04-06 08:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by ahen411 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure if I fallow your logic.
We should be able to stand up for our self without hurting other people. Perhaps you are getting yourself in to situations that are too deep too soon and that sets up your means to the end become justification for hurting.
Reanalyze how you live your life.
2007-04-06 13:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since the basic source of morality is FEAR, any action by any person will be both good for some people and harmful to others. The real question becomes do we try to take the road of least harm to others or to ourselves. Because of fear, if we choose harming others instead of ourselves, we also cause mental anguish within ourself.
With the above in mind, any action we take is in the long run both harmful and beneficial to us as individuals.
2007-04-06 10:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by scotishbob 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One should never act in their own benefit at the expense of cruelty to another, and I don't mean hurting one's feelings, I mean in actual effect, causing severe adverse consequences.
2007-04-06 09:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋