The verbal abuse is only when we are arguing, We can't have a agruement without I being called all kinds of dirty names. I am a very conservative and faithful young woman and never have been called names like this before in a relationship, I know he is angry at the time and other than these times he is a good guy. I try talking, he apologizes and does it again. He says he's trying.
2007-04-06 08:25:48 · 11 answers · asked by Kim 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
let me ask you....how much self-respect do you have for yourself? if you feel like he's stepping on your identity and you have expressed your dismay towards this and he still doesn't change, then you ought to just save yourself. abuse should not be tolerated. period. don't ask how much more you can take. leave a little dignity for yourself and get out of the relationship while you still have your spirits in tact. as i can see in your case, your relationship has become a vicious cycle of petty and hurtful name-calling and apologizing. i know it's hard to let go, but whoever said that it would be easy? if you will choose to stay in that abusive relationship then you will never come to experience a relationship with some better. i know that you know that there's another person out there better suited for you who will love you all the same but will treat you with respect. stand up for yourself and what you believe as well as your values. just think, you weren't tediously brought up by your parents to be the great woman you are now just to be disrespected that way by any other person.
if all else fails, pray.
good luck! =)
2007-04-06 08:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by fidesgrabefides 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it! The longer you stand for it, the weaker you'll get. I suggest you find someone that no matter what won't verbally abuse you at all. You never should have stayed with someone who verbally abused you. If its every once in a blue moon, that's okay because people say things they don't mean when they're mad. If its every time you fight, don't stand for it.
If you leave now, you'll be stronger in the end and you'll know you were able to walk away from the abuse no matter how much you cared about the person. Obviously, he doesn't seem to be trying if he keeps doing it over and over. If you're not used to the abuse, that's probably why you can't leave. You're not sure if you're handling the situation the right way but I guarantee that you will be by leaving.
Good luck!
2007-04-06 08:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by Akilllaaaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's unstable, and all the signs of physical abuse are there. It will happen; it's just a matter of time. If you continue to listen to this garbage, you will eventually believe you are unworthy... and you know that is not true. You are not a child.. you need to move on with your life and enjoy life. The days go by too fast, and you can never take them back again. Your days are passing with this man, and this relationship is going nowhere. One day you will be 35, and then 40... and you'll still be listening to him degrade you. Is that what you want from life?
2016-05-18 22:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you shouldn't put up with that at all. Abuse is abuse wheither verbal or physical and if he is like this now it may get worse later. Tell him in a non-heated situation how you feel when he does that. If he does it again then maybe its time you think about moving on! Good luck.
2007-04-06 08:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by lil~confused~one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tolerate it at all. The more you put up with the more he'll try to get by with. Lots of abusive relationship begin with calling names. If he honestly loves you and cares about you, he needs to learn a little self control.
2007-04-06 08:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likely has some unresolved conflict/grief from his family of origin. Was his father or mother abusive to him during childhood.
I would encourage you to encourage him to go to a men's counselling group. We have one in my city, there should be one in yours. YWCA might have a men's group...but ANY counselling re: anger management should suffice.
My advise is to tell him that you want counselling (for him and later for both of you) or you will not tolerate it again. Yes, it's an ultimatum...and this is when it's ok to give. He needs to learn what abuse is and how to manage his anger. Otherwise you're signing up for another week of abuse.
2007-04-06 08:47:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now. This is only the beginning. It is a way to make you feel bad about yourself, and him better about himself. After listening to these comments over and over alot of women start beliving them. The more he can get away with, the worse it will get. And PLEASE remember, If there is real love and respect in a relationship, this would not be happening.
2007-04-06 09:12:08 · answer #7 · answered by barbara m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not married, then why would you volluntarily stay with a guy, date a guy, sleep with a guy, live with a guy, cook & clean for a guy, or be with a guy that verbally abuses you?
2007-04-06 08:42:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
verbal abuse seems to be abuse unless a women is the one doing it, inwhich case it's still somehow the guys fault.
2007-04-06 08:38:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i wouldnt put up with it at all
2007-04-06 08:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋