Serious problem I’m having, I recently told my mother that I intend to date only women. And she keep pursuing me to talk to guys. She even goes so far as to give some of the my phone number. What can I do to stop this? I feel like she’s disrespecting me. Its starting to cause a strain on our relationship, because now when I go around her. I’m pretty distant. What should I do? Its like she’s never going to accept me for who I am. I am an only child and my girlfriend tells me this is why she’s doing this. Not really sure about that. Any help would be appreciated.
2007-04-06 07:40:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
PFLAG (Parents and friends of lesbians and gays) is maybe a good place to start..they have lots of resources..give them a call....Or simply sit you mother down and tell her that if she doesn't smarten up she is about to lose her only daughter...because that's what will happen if she continues.
2007-04-06 07:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Confront her about why she's doing this. Get to the bottom of and also figure out why she's having a hard time accepting your sexuality and work on that. If you two have a hard time at it, you'll probably need to call in a professional. Let her know that you'd like to have a close relationship with her, but what's she's doing is tearing you two apart and you're just about to have to break off contact with her if this continues. Good luck!
2007-04-06 15:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long ago did you tell her? When I came out my family actually told me. Now that's a new one. I haven't told them I'm more bisexual then anything but they probably now that to by now.
Anyways, back to you, just give it time and act like its normal, because it is. If she starts saying phobic things let her know that you respect her and afford that to her and you would like the same in return. This is your reality and it isn't going to change.
I've known many parents that have come around and now avid supporters. So a little patience and let her know you still love her, things hopefully will calm soon.
2007-04-06 15:23:16 · answer #3 · answered by ladylore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar experience when I told my mother. She didn't want to believe it, and even kept suggesting guys for me. I had to sit down with her and explain that I love guys, but they're like brothers and best friends. Once she knew that guys have no affect on me, and I was very blunt and inescapably clear, she's been more accepting. Sit her down and have a very frank conversation. It'll embarass the daylights out of you both but you'll both be better off for it.
2007-04-06 14:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by akblake1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is what I fear would happen if I came out, along with the complete ostracizing of me from my family. You said you recently told your mom. Maybe you should just give it time and let it sink in. Or you can bring home a girl and show your mom that you mean business. ;)
2007-04-06 15:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by anon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write her a polite but firm letter, fully expressing how you feel about what she is doing.
Tell her you aren't speaking to her until she comes to terms, and stick to your guns. Carry a post-it pad and a pen around.
Tell all of her friends, neighbors and collegues that you're gay (as well as any of the guys that actually call).
2007-04-06 14:48:43 · answer #6 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it can cost you everything, your friends, family, ect. but did you really have them to begin with????? that is the question i have for you....... judge everyone in life, choose friends wisely, either teach your family, or disown them, before they do you. if your parents do not accept it, they'll or some will even kick you out, you'll be out of their will, lives ect. parents that don't accept their children is sad, but it happens.........
evaluate their intelligents and go from there with what you say, there's alot of fools in the world...........
2007-04-06 14:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her firmly that you're not interested in men, and that if she continues along that path she will break the relationship between the two of you. Ask her if she would prefer a gay daughter or no daughter at all.
2007-04-06 14:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
the keyword here is that you "recently" told your mom.....
I still think she's acting in shock. My dad wanted to do the same thing........
it stops eventually
2007-04-06 17:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time, denial is one of the stages.
2007-04-06 15:44:21 · answer #10 · answered by Luis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋