My "best-friend" always has to point out what I'm doing wrong in any stressful situation. Sometimes I just need her to listen and not play devil's advocate all the time. She's always been this way. Sometimes I totally disagree w/ what she's "advising" me to do but I keep my mouth shut to avoid conflict. I stood up to her today and she thought I was angry when I just asked her to listen instead of giving advice. Is this friendship doomed?
2007-04-06 07:28:56 · 11 answers · asked by Karla Marx 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
A true friend is one who is always on your side. A friend listens with out giving advice unless asked. Friendship is a relationship the grows with time and requires work on both sides Talk to this person tell her what you need from her. If she does not understand and is not able to see what you need then maybe it's time to find a true friend.
2007-04-06 07:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by dettie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my friend were always like that. Most of the time is because the other Friend id jealous. Our friendship is now gone. It matters if you really want to have a friendship. Maybe try to get new friends or/and spend time apart.
2007-04-06 14:34:18 · answer #2 · answered by mychemgurl888 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not doomed. Just explain to her that you don't need advice, you just need to have someone listen to you. Tell not be offended by this, that this is all you need for the moment, and if you want some advice you'll ask for it.
2007-04-06 14:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by Dee G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if you accept that she's an opinionate person, and she accepts that sometimes you don't want to hear it. My two best friends I've know for 15 years. We fight all the time, i'm a total boss, one's a total coward and the other one LOVES to get angry, but not to ever tell anybody about it, and sometimes we just have to fight it out, but we love each other, and we know each other's flaws, and recognize our own, and eventually we're all hugging it out!
2007-04-06 14:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right...she should listen instead of flapping off about what you SHOULD do. It's good you stood up for yourself; she sounds judgmental, but it could also mean that she's trying to help you out and make you think about your actions. I advise, but I usually listen and let people fall on their own faces...
2007-04-06 14:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by gobraghomagh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound like she always wont to be right but that good that u told her how u feel she is not always right and we all need a friend to talk to as well as listen to good luck maybe u need to found a friend u can talk to
2007-04-06 14:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by Tam Tam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she does not back off then yes it is doomed. Tell her she is not your mother and you get enough of that crap from your parents. If you wanted another mother youd go look for one. She is supposed to be a friend not a mother. Tell her that and then tell her if she doesnt lighten up you will go find someone who wants to be a friend and not a mother and leave her behind.
2007-04-06 14:36:09 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. If she's really your best friend she will respect that you need her to just listen sometimes. She should know that when you need advice or comments then you'll ask for it.
2007-04-06 14:33:24 · answer #8 · answered by barbiegrrrrl194 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, it's dead in the water. Is she a German. A lot of Northern European types have only one response to just about everything: NO. They don't get better, they get worse, and if they drink they are obnoxious. Get somebody around who is a little more positive. It's very possible to develop a very strong negative if they think you need it. do you?
2007-04-06 14:35:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not doomed ..
my best-friend do the same things for me but she advices me because she loves me and she doesn't want me to do wrong things .. i hope that you would understand your friend which make me bite my finger .. i know when you feel stressed you want to do crazy things 2 get out from this situation .. but she advices you as a friend who loves you
2007-04-06 14:37:40 · answer #10 · answered by a7la_banoota98 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋