2007-04-06 07:16:33 · 8 answers · asked by jess 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I felt the same way with each child I had. This is okay. It's not that you love your youngest more, or are showing favortism, they just need more from you then your oldest. Plus, they don't yell at you, hit you, and they always want hugs and kisses. It's easy to feel this way when they need so much from you, and they make you feel like you make their day when they smile at you. This too will all pass, all too quickly. Just enjoy every moment, and try to do something at least once a week just you and your toddler. That way they don't feel left out, or start to show resentment towards the baby. Just wait, your youngest will be doing the same as your toddler before too long, and the fighting between siblings will start. You'll miss those days when you could just hold them to calm them down. LOL. Don't be so hard on yourself. As I said, it's the norm. Good luck. :0)
2007-04-06 07:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by Jessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one thing you are not a horrible person! It is natural to feel closer to the baby than the older child. The 5 month old needs you more than the independent 3 year old. If you think about it how much time do you actually spend holding, feeding, changing, playing, and looking at your 3 year old? Not as much as your 5 month old, so give it time. The feelings and time spending will all level out.
2007-04-06 15:04:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because you're 3 year old is driving you nuts :-) Babies that just lie there and look cute are a lot easier to handle! I have an 18 month old and a new born and sometimes it's so nice to quietly just sit with my new baby- it's not that I don't love my 18 month old like crazy, it's just a new bond that I'm creating; I'm sure you feel the same way.
Hang in there- both of them will bug you equally soon enough :-)
2007-04-06 14:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by schmidtee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's an easy one! 5 month old babies are smiley and interactive and generally in an easygoing stage while 3 year olds, if they are like my dear daughter, are busy saying NO and arguing about every little thing as they develop their assertiveness! Just make sure they both know you love them no matter what. The difference in your feelings is normal though.
2007-04-06 14:20:29 · answer #4 · answered by surlygurl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal. Your baby needs you more, depends on you more than your 3 yr old. I feel the same way. My 7 yr old & 4 yr old are so independant that I don't feel as needed anymore. But my baby needs almost constant care, which makes me feel needed and loved. Not to say my older children don't need or love me. Try spending more time one on one with your 3 yr old without the baby. That worked for me.
2007-04-06 14:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by Carrie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like with puppies and kittens, everyone is naturally drawn to babies. While that may sound blunt and harsh, it's the truth. If you think the problem isn't lessening, then perhaps you should talk to your doctor about getting you in with a family therapist.
I wish you the best.
2007-04-06 14:19:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are probably attached to the younger one because (s)he is younger and needs more attention then the older one for instance my sister and i are ten years apart and when sh was born i didn't get that much attention i mean every once & a while i craved it but not the whole time 'cause i could care of myself better then she could.
2007-04-06 14:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by Keziah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is the one that needs you the most.
2007-04-06 14:20:20 · answer #8 · answered by Ands 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋