One day she's nice and the next ,she wants to rip somebody's head off.
2007-04-06 06:33:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Depression is a very difficult disease (dis - ease of the mind) to understand and comprehend. The average person cannot and does not know how to deal with a person who suffers from it because there is no 'one way' they will act. You have to be secure within yourself and have an unsurmountable amount of love to give - no matter how many times you are cursed out, hurt. You cannot be offended by a depressed person. It seems sometimes, they have no feelings, but they do. You have to see them as individuals with circuits in their brains that have run amuck. Remind yourself that you love your relative and she is not herself. She needs help. But protect yourself. If she is violent, you need to stay away however, you must make sure they are seeking help. One does not have to be depressed. There is help.
2007-04-06 06:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well... you must try to observe and interview her discreetly and carefully. Meaning, stay with her for a while and ask her if she needed something or ask her if something is bothering her in a non-interrogating style. Sure, medicine can cure the depression but it will make her sicker than before because of the side effect and etc., in other word, worse. The only thing that I know cause depression is mostly because of the people around them. It may come from her husband, sons, daughters, pets, friends, material possessions, things, her parents, other relatives and even you can cause her depression. The alternative way to know the cause of the depression is to find a good psycho doctor and ask him to interview her. But I reccomend the first because the latter may make her misunderstood or crazy.
Oh yeah... if she is the type "One day she's nice and the next ,she wants to rip somebody's head off" , just in case, bring a friend or any relative that does not cause depression to her with you because it might get messy.
2007-04-06 07:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by wbsy08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been on both sides of this coin. I'm a counsellor but I have also suffered from depression for many years....here are a few tips that may assist you.
1. Know your own boundaries, let her know that you won't tolerate it when she is mean to you (and then of course don't be mean to her :) ).
2. If she wants to talk and you can handle it, go for a coffee or walk. Depression really is a chemical imbalance and affects both body and mind.
3. Know that your relative may disappear for a bit, its part of the disorder, so you may need to emotionally distance yourself so your not hurt.
4. You can't life for this relative - suggest that there are community resources out there ie counsellors.
5. There also may be an underlying cause for the depression such as an addiction - alcohol and pot addictions both produce major depressions.
For myself and others I know, once I got into active recovery most of the depression went away. I now take an extremely mild anti-depressant, as depression runs in my family so getting clean didn't make all of it disappear.
Hope some of this helps.
2007-04-06 06:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by ladylore 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
simple conversation.....do not force yourself onto her but when she is in her good mood ask her, very politely why she acts the way she does and what triggers her to act the way she does...also let her know that if she continues being that way she will push people away, especially those who care about her. The main thing is to try and get her to trust you so she could open up and express how she feels and if it is really serious you could suggest that she seeks professional help......hope this helps
2007-04-06 06:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by miss b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very supportive. Don't feed to his/her depression. Try your best to cheer them up. If they insist on feeling sorry for themselves, some harsh criticism (Get over it, Snap out of it already) might do them some good. Good Luck, I hope your relative can pull him or herself out of it.
2007-04-06 07:47:47 · answer #5 · answered by Mandy<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dealing with depressing is so hard i have been dealing with it for almost 24 yrs and i can tell you that it the person who you deal with is eithe having problems with their meds or they need to get meds but you want to know how to deal with them you need to just take time to help them realizee that it is ok to vent their anger but they also need to be told that they need to take time to relax and you especially need to be there and listen to their feelings and concerns cause they really do not have control of what is going on they just need frioends who will be there and let them vent and not take it serious but also want to help them and above all else you need you to get this person to a doc
2007-04-06 06:47:50 · answer #6 · answered by skyppolar_green 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she need antidepression medication
because that sound like a problem but be there for them that about all you can do
2007-04-06 06:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by Linda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Convince them to seek help. Though, there is no "magic cure all".
Above all, be supportive when they try to get over this. It may take awhile, so be patient. And, please don't desert them either! That's what happened to me, and it's devastating - trust me!
2007-04-06 06:42:07 · answer #8 · answered by Varcan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to encourage her to see a medical person and get a diagnosis -- go from there.
2007-04-06 06:43:15 · answer #9 · answered by Lynda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she needs to know that shes bipolar !!
2007-04-06 06:39:23 · answer #10 · answered by pivotalperson111 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋