My husband and I are having a baby. Even though we have another 6 months until the baby is born, I am feeling lots of pressure to get things done around the house so we can be prepared. I have been battling morning sickness that actually lasts all day long so I have not been motivated to do anything!:( My husband has been really helpful however the things he is doing is not high priority. How do I go about getting him to look ahead as to what is to come and do the more important things first? I would hate to make a "honey do" list!
2007-04-06 05:24:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I already talked to him about it but I feel like he thinks I am nuts! The hormones and everything! hehe
2007-04-06 05:30:46 · update #1
some of your comments are really funny and it makes me feel better. I dont want to be a nag, thats why I wanted some ideas that would be better so I dont seem so harsh or make him feel like "here we go again..I cant do anything right"
2007-04-06 05:39:50 · update #2
I would just tell him that you are unable to do these very important things since you are dealing with nasty morning sickness so could you look after them. Really sometimes making a list will help us men out. Remember men are very visual so if we see something we will likely pay more attention to it rather then hearing what you are saying.
Congratulations and Best wishes
May God Bless your marriage and your baby may he/she be strong, beautiful, healthy, and smart!
2007-04-06 05:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First Congrats on the baby, and second you are NUTS! Raging hormones are to blame. My wife and I just had our first so I understand. Motivation? Well really all you can do is remind him. He'll come around, but try and be nice about it. Its kinda like telling a over weight person to loose weight and exercise....but if they are not ready to do so, then nothing you say is going to sink in. It takes time and patience. He'll come around, I did. Good luck with the baby, its one of the most satisfying things ever.
2007-04-06 05:34:58 · answer #2 · answered by biggdaddy1669 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its okay to let some of the things go. I just had a baby and trust me I wanted to get everything done at once but I have a husband that is very laid back and he taught me that everything will come together. Just enjoy your pregnancy (the morning sickness will end soon). Congrats!!!
2007-04-06 05:37:15 · answer #3 · answered by kammigirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have a natural affinity to be the "problem fixer"...appeal to his sense of "Mr Fix it" by presenting your wants/needs as something for him to fix for you.
IE - you want him to help prepare a nursery
you say " honey help me with the nursery - WRONG!
You should say - Honey , I can`t seem to get the crib together, I just cant seem to do it, Imust be doing it wrong, can you show me how? -DING DING DING
His brain speaks up and says " My woman has a problem and I can fix it, this will make me more manly in her eyes and I will be a success"
UNDERSTAND???
It`s all in the presentation honey, if you NAG and whine about it , you might as well forget it! If you make him think he is the only big stong male in the pack that is able to solve your problems for you - you`ll never do another thing alone again ;)
Men want to be respected, and valued. Appeal to that in your man any his world is your oyster!
GOOD LUCK WITH THE BABY!!! :)
2007-04-06 05:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by jojitsoo28 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax, you have time. The most important thing to do is take care of your body right now. Why don't you both sit down, make a list and stick it on the fridge. As you each accomplish things, mark them off. That way its not a "honey do" list. It's a "To Do" list for you both.
Good luck :)
2007-04-06 05:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it.
You can talk to us and you do not know us.
What is the problem here?
2007-04-06 05:28:51 · answer #6 · answered by mikey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋