Ok my friend Jake has a friend named Sean. I've met Sean before through a church function, but I didn't really talk to him. My friend Amanda, who goes to the same school as Jake and Sean said that Sean never talks to girls and Jake told me that Sean thinks that girls are a waste of time. I like Sean, and I want to get to know him better, but I don't know how to approch him. He seems kind of shy and klutsy because he is really tall for an 8th grader.....he's 6"3. I think that he's kind of unsure of himself. How do I strike up a converstation with him? I'm going to see him this week.
2007-04-06 04:54:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Be yourself. Dont run after him like most girls would. Be a friend first and foremost. Learn what he likes and dislikes. If he likes something like sports ask what his favorite team is or ask him what he likes to do for fun maybe you all (friends icluded) could all get up and do something together. No one on one pressure. Be open. Go with the flow...
2007-04-06 05:01:31 · answer #1 · answered by Lucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you should hold off dating, maybe until 9th grade.. 8th graders are still young...
But anyway, if you absolutely insist, then wait for an opportunity to approach him. Don't just go up to him and start talking, because that'll seem kind of weird. Wait until something happens that you can talk to him, like if he trips, say, "Are you okay? Nasty spill, huh?" Just start a conversation from that. If he doesn't seem interested, back off and don't persist. He's already made it pretty clear he thinks girls are a waste of time.
2007-04-06 12:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by QueenKatrina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, THATS TALL! What ever you do, don't bring up the poor kid's height. That'll make him more unsure & ackward.
Is he in to sports? Clubs? Collect anything?
Just ask how he's doin'. Striking up a conversation could help him feel more comfortable around girls. If he plays a sport, find out how his season's going!
Don't b afraid 2 start it! Oh, & start out slow. if u come on 2 strong, u might scare him more. Trust me, its just like that in high school. Good Luck!
2007-04-06 12:02:09 · answer #3 · answered by Javgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that since he is 6"3' that has allot to do with his shyness. Just talk to him like you would a girl friend. Don't think to much about it, just say hi. Try not to make it out like you have to think of things to say, just let it come naturally you will do just fine.
2007-04-06 12:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by Diane T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you focus on your life instead of some guy that cleary isn't ready (obviously) for dating.
You go to church I see, why don't you just enjoy whats there? Getting tied up into relationship problems and in the 8th grade....
2007-04-06 11:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by NR 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity. I wonder what you see in the guy. If he can use his mind to actually cancel his hormones then he has none. Let him live on and he'll grow up to an interesting 30 yr old.
2007-04-06 13:33:56 · answer #6 · answered by Russly F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go right up to him and talk about somthing you love. if he seems bored then change the subject. example, if you love music, talk about that, if you love football, talk about that, talk about school, it doesn't matter. if you know what your talking about and try not to be all flirty and/or "tough girl" then you'll be able to find out what he likes and talk to him. start off slow and if he's not ready then he's not ready. BUT if you like him enough then wait fo r him to warm up to you. just act like his friend and he'll fall for you in no time. : ) hope i helped! good luck!!! ; )
2007-04-06 12:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're the one who's going to have to lead the relationship. He's shy, so you can't be or else your relationship won't go anywhere. Avoid asking "yes" or "no" questions, ask questions where he has to talk more to answer them. You can't be shy to get the guy! :)
2007-04-06 13:00:09 · answer #8 · answered by Sayla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try to talk to him as a friend first. See what his interest are and take it from there. Try not to rush into things your young. Try being friends with him...
Hope this helps...
:)
2007-04-06 12:00:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Direct approach is recommended. Say straight, hi, how is it going, you look great, I like your style and so on!
2007-04-06 11:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by Sami V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋