My seven year old daughter knows that I am seeing someone. I just dont know how and when to make the introduction. My soon to be ex-wife says that she(my daughter) has been embelishing stories that they have already met.
They did meet once. This was before we were involved, and my daughter thought that she was "very nice"
So when is the right time to make this introduction? We have been seeing each other for about 5 months and are talking about moving in together.
2007-04-06 04:44:06 · 10 answers · asked by emsalpha20 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow, that's a lot on your daughter...I have a general rule no intro's until marriage is discussed....what a bummer your daughter gets attached and then you guys break up. However, the issue about you living together has become a concern and you can't hide forever...what's important is consider your daughter first and what's best for her. Your not even divorced, do you think it's the right time?
2007-04-06 04:51:48 · answer #1 · answered by deana s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're talking about moving in together, then definately do it before that happens. You don't want your daughter coming over some time and seeing that this woman lives there, without knowing beforehand. Make sure you put your daughter first in this situation, the sooner the better. Your daughter does know that you're dating this woman, and she even knows who she is, so it shouldn't be that hard. Go on a kid friendly date, the three of you, hang out for a couple of hours together so they can actually interact, rather than just being introduced to each other for 5 minutes, since apparently that sort of thing has already happened (even though you weren't dating at the time). Talk to each of them individually, make sure they are okay with meeting each other. Since your daughter already thinks this woman is "very nice", that's a plus. I don't think you should worry that the two of them won't get along. So get it over and done with, the sooner the better. The longer you wait, the worse the outcome could be. You want to start the relationship between the three of you off on a good footing. Good luck.
2016-05-18 21:17:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are talking about moving in together then you really should make the introduction very soon.
I would choose someplace that is fun for your daughter and the 3 of you will have a blast together.
I live in Co. Springs area and we have a couple of places for kids. We have an indoor playhouse that has gocarts, golf, bowling etc... We also have an arcade with outside rides.
This would be something fun for you all to go play some miature golf and just be able to laugh, not to mention the fun stuff is a bonus with the kids.
If your daughter is an outside girl then take them both on a hike and picnic!
I'd just make it something fun where you are not all in the house. Get out somewhere!
2007-04-06 05:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by Susan Goodknight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would until your divorce is finalized just so your daughter knows that you and mommy are not married any longer. I would then tell her that you have been seeing someone that you really like and would like to her me her. Consider going for a picnic or to a child friendly restaurant you know the tiype with vidoegames and pizza and such. Sometimes introducing someone to a young imressionable child is done best when in an environment that she is comfortable in.
I hope everything goes wells and if she has already mentioned that she said she is nice then maybe this introduction won't be all that difficult.
God Bless and maybe you will do right by your daughter and this lady maybe this will be the one you grow old with.
2007-04-06 05:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think moving in right now would be not good and you need to slow down and think about your girl's feelings. Slowly introduce her to her as a friend and do things together that you girl will like and create a nice, friendly atmosphere when those 2 are together. When you feel she can handle understanding that you gf is your gf then tell her how you 2 feel about each other. Also reassure her that your gf is not replacing her mommy and that your family is just growing and not getting smaller and that you always love her and you love her no less now that you have a gf.
The living together thing I would not rush into myself. Good luck.
2007-04-06 05:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is your job to make sure the next person you choose will be suitable as a (hopefully)step parent,,if you have no worries on that score ,tell your girlfriend it has been on your mind to introduce you as his new girlfriend who is very special to you and that all you are waiting for is a date and time,,,,she should have some input as this effects her as much as you now you are thinking of moving in together.be sure your way of parenting is hers too and you should feel that the two most important people to you meeting is just a formality and not a huge deal. do not take this as critisism but,,if you have chosen someone who shares your fears,hopes and dreams you have little to worry over.
2007-04-06 05:09:46 · answer #6 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU'RE GONNA "SHACK UP" IN FRONT OF YOUR KID? NICE. WHAT MESSAGE ARE YOU SENDING HER? YOU JUST WANNA "PLAY HOUSE"? CUZ THAT'S WHAT IT IS. IF THIS WOMAN ISN'T WORTH MARRYING, THEN DON'T PUT YOUR DAUGHTER THRU THAT. WHAT'S THE RUSH ANYWAY? YOUR CHILD COMES FIRST. NOT THE WOMAN WHO WILL "SETTLE" FOR BEING AN UNPAID WHORE AND NOT RESPECT HERSELF ENOUGH FOR A MARRIAGE PROPOSAL. TRY BEING SELFLESS INSTEAD OF SELFISH. . .
2007-04-06 05:14:41 · answer #7 · answered by girliegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until u are legally divorced...you do not want to send the wrong "moral" issue to your young and impressionable daughter
2007-04-06 04:58:51 · answer #8 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sooner the better...
Just bring her over for lunch or dinner...
2007-04-06 05:06:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 mths? Maybe too soon.
2007-04-06 04:55:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋