A girl I know cried rape....?

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A girl I know cried rape....?
she wasn't though. She didn't intend on going to the guy's house for the sexual action, but things led to it and now the guy is being an *** to her. To be expected in my opinion, when you give it up on the first day! So she called me yesterday making some wild story up, one that just didn't make sence. Her cousin was there, not in the room, but close enough to hear her scream, if she would have. After the supposed rape was done, she left and the guy told her cousin, I told you I'd F@8k her. Don't think a guy would brag if the girl was a victim of rape. So she asked if she could be pregnant or have an std from the incidence, and of course she can, since a condom wasn't used. It just seems like she wanted information on where to go to be tested, and that the sex was a willing act, she only buttered the story in her defence because the guy is now being a jerk. She told a couple of friends, maybe that she was raped, not sure if they got the truth. Can anything be done to stop the girl????

I told her to go to the Hospital for a rape kit, evidence is key in this situation. She refused, said it'd be better to leave it as a lesson learned. Sorry, but if it were me, I would be there now, especially if I could possibly be pregnant by a guy who raped me! Doesn't make sence, why would she just let things blow over!!??

She hasn't said anything about pain, the first time is always uncomfortable, especially if it were rape. My fiance and I are sexually active, even have two kids together, he can't just point and insert without trial runs, if you get my drift. I don't see how there wasn't tearing or discomfort. I'm not trying to say she's a liar but nothing makes sence in this situation.

Answer 1

She needs to be reported !!

Answer 2

"cried rape" You sound like an a s s. If she says she may have been raped then she probably was. Rapists usually DO brag about banging a girl they raped. The rapist usually doesnt believe he raped anyone, even though he did!
And her not going to the hospital is a normal reaction. She just had some guy violate her so she doesnt want more people to poke at her body and she is probably embarrassed and ashamed. If you are her REAL friend you need to tell your school counselor (if you are still in school with her), or convince her to see her own doctor asap. Or have her call a rape support hotline (look in the phone book or search online).
Usually rapists dont use condoms so that should be a sign to you that it WAS rape. Many rape victims go into shock during the incident and DO NOT scream because their body goes limp and shuts down from shock and terror.

Answer 3

If it were infact rape, she would be more than willing to report him, or really scared and not....it's a delicate situation. The guy would never brag about it being rape but would infact brag about having sex even if it were rape. Maybe she's scared that she may be pregnant or have an std and that's why she's claiming rape....who knows. But as far as the scream thing, don't base anything upon that....that could infact not been possible if it were rape. But if she's lying she needs help..and it needs to be made clear to her that she can ruin a man's life by claiming false info.

Answer 4

Of course she could be lieing. Confront her and try to get her to tell the truth. If she sticks to her story then maybe it really was rape. Have you ever been raped? Many people say I woulda done this or woulda done that, but you dont know until you're in that situation. The majority of raped women always blame themselves first. Try to get the truth out of her, but dont be too over bearing either, especially if she doesnt plan on pressing charges against this guy, then there really is no point in making a bigger deal out of the situation.

Answer 5

Well, first of all, not ALL girls want a thigh gap. Second of all, first world problems will always exist. There will always be starving people in the 3rd world just as there will always be squandering people in 1st World Countries. You can't judge people for being self conscious. Thirdly, you're implying all girls who want a thigh gap are anorexic and waste food. You can be self conscious about your looks and STILL give money to charity to help other people. Saying you can't be sad because someone else is sadder is exactly the same as saying you can't be happy because someone else is happier. But frankly, the whole 'I want a thigh gap' thing is all the fault of the media and the horribly manipulated and photo-shopped pictures of figures that teenagers idolize. Teenagers (It's not just girls) see them and think 'well, if he/she can have a body like that, why can't I?' Even from a young age, children are shown an unrealistic standard of beauty in Barbie Dolls, Disney Princesses (Did you SEE what Disney did to Merida when they redesigned her from Pixar?!), superheroes with muscular toned bodies and such. Real people aren't perfect and perfect people aren't real. It's easy to forget.

Answer 6

she's probably afraid she's pregnant or has an STD and so she wants to be the "innocient" one in the situation.
it takes two to tango! but she wants him to take all the blame if she is pregnant or has an STD.
She's going to want sympathy for her situation (and get back at the guy at the same time) so she's crying rape.
she probably has some STD signs and is pissed. so she's going to put the blame on him so she doesnt look irresponsible.
The best thing you could do is tell the guy what she is saying .. he can get her for slander!
If shes not pressing charges .. she's admitting she was a willing party.

Also, if she WAS infact raped .. it could be proven because usually there will be tears in the lining of her vagina from forced entry (and she wasnt turned on so no moisture to smooth the intercourse) .. so if she infact was raped .. she needs to report it! there will be proof.

good luck! God bless!

Answer 7

Short of being vicious and spreading rumors about her, you rally can't stop her. How many people is she talking to--is she going to ruin his reputation, or is it going to stay with her friends?

Rape is simultaneously the most underreported and overreported crime--mostly because of its emotional nature. I don't know what you'd say to her--the only thing I can think of is to listen to her tell the story and ask the rude questions or give her an unbelieving look when she gets to places where she stretches the truth. And maybe encourage her to tell people he's a jerk, and not a rapist. It's a tough one--she might really believe she was raped.

Answer 8

I cant say if she's lying or not but seems like you lack the ability to be a good friend. I was raped at 14. Hardly anyone believed me. He said we had sex. I had bruises on my throat, scratches on my face. Noone believed me bc he was "cool" and "would never do that". My friends continued hanging out with him, while the truth came out I was #5. Anyway, I did a rape kit(exam) and I was torn up inside and he went to prison after I took his loser a$$ to court! 5yrs and 3 yrs priobabtiopn, but went right back in after his release. Im off track here, sorry, maybe you ought to help her get checked out, to be sure. I had a bad rep for no reason, I lost my V in the rape, ppl, especially kids are ignnorant, dont be one.

Answer 9

The thing is that you don't know for sure if she is lying or not. You can't use him bragging as proof that he didn't rape her because alot of people do brag about it. You weren't there and I don't think it's your place to run your own investigation into it. If it did happen and you're running around telling people that it didn't, then you're helping him get away with it and making it easier for him to do it again. In my opinion you should stay out of it a bit.

Answer 10

Some people do stupid things to matter what. If she's a good friend sit her down and tell her to deal with the fact that she did something she regretted. Can't cry rape every time some guy is an @ss - that's all us girls would be doin then!

Answer 11

Unfortunately depending on what state you live in. If the girl cries rape (even if the guy never laid a finger on her) he can be prosecuted and deemed a sexual offender.
It does sound like she is crying wolf probably because of the fact she "gave it up easy"
I'd suggest that she need to talk to her friends more before she goes and starts trouble it could probably be pretty damaging to her and any future relationships.
Sad but true sometimes women try to hard to get exactly what they want and it turns sour, before they ever taste the sweet. It's what I personally like to call the
"Will you like me better if we slept together?" syndrome

Some women are just too much in a hurry to get into some kind of relationship even if it's going to be a bad one.
She's probably got no one but herself to blame.
If you know her pretty well I'd talk to her and talk to the guy and let him know what she's saying about him before things get out of hand, and as long as things are not too "heated" between them. Then they need to have a talk as well, (perhaps even with a witness for both sides)
Just to clear things up.
Guys aren't always aware that women tend to become a bit attached to a guy after sleeping with them, and that not having a positive responce to being "open" with him on the first date probably came a bit as a shock. Especially if it was the first time it had happened to her.
Young women need to particularly understand that men have feelings too even if they do seem disattached.
It just may take a bit longer for them to become emotionally attached. Physical attraction is easy it becoming emotionally that gets us confused.
You gotta stimulate a mans brain before his dick to really get their attention.
If this was her way of trying to "connect" she needs to definately rethink her approach, and her friends might need to explain that to her.
Good luck hope it helps.