I had an abortion about 6 months ago. I regret is badly iam wanting to try with my boyfriend again i been with him for 4yrs now. do u think i can get pregnant again? If so how long after should i wait to try again?
2007-04-06 04:38:20 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Honestly, after you get some counseling. Also please consider why you want to try...are you trying to replace the child you aborted? Because in all honesty, you can't, that loss may well be a part of you forever. Also if you have been together with your boyfriend for 4 years why haven't you gotten married? If it's cause he won't commit to marriage, perhaps he is not a good choice as a father, because a child is a greater commitment than marriage because a child's life depends on you. Good Luck, I wasn't meaning to be condemning just wanted to give you food for thought.
2007-04-06 04:47:19 · answer #1 · answered by gourmetkid 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I don't understand....why try to get pregnant if you just choose to end a pregnancy? You should do what makes you happy but maybe you should spend some time thinking long and hard about what you really want. Having a baby is more responsibility than most realize. My son is 6 weeks old, I'm married and fairly financially stable and I am overwhelmed with this new responsibility. Just make sure this is what you and your bf wants before you try to conceive another child.
2007-04-06 05:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by **hope/faith**1744 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an abortion with my first pregnancy as well and I regret it as well... But to answer your question you can get pregnant right after. A month and a half after having my abortion I got pregnant with my second child. Im 30 weeks right now. Good luck!!
2007-04-10 03:42:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably need some more time. Marriage is the best choice. Having a baby out of wedlock creates even more guilt than you may have felt before the abortion. Commit your life to him and take that step to marry either him or "another" if he isn't the right one. Then, build a family.
2007-04-09 18:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by Questions by Kristin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you shouldnt say anything if you dont have anything nice to say but you are on a question site and want opinions. if you dont want a negative one, stop reading this ...now.
I think you should wait. What changed in six months that you can now care for an infant when 6 months ago you were so not wanting one that you killed it. you let someone rip the arms and legs off your baby. I think you need to let your body heal and your mind grow a little more to make sure you really are ready and want this baby. i wouldnt want you to change your mind halfway through and kill another beautiful child that someone out there WANTS to love desperately. I wish you luck if you do decide to have and keep a baby. love it, care for it. I think you should wait the full year though. sorry to hurt your feelings but i weep for your baby in heaven
2007-04-06 05:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by learnin_toluvme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a choice that was right for you at the time. You shouldn't try not to feel regret, but I know that can be hard. Everyone's body is different. Some women can get pregnant easy, while others have a hard time even though they already have kids. Every pregnancy is different. If you are really ready now, then go for it.
2007-04-06 04:56:04 · answer #6 · answered by msjackaloane 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should be able to get pregnant right away but be prepared for the emotional impact that this pregnancy is going to have on your life since you gave up the last one. You will feel alot of regret about the past abortion and you might even grieve all over again.
2007-04-06 04:43:34 · answer #7 · answered by southernmel1st 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Forgiveness is yours if you ask for it. You don't have to carry the burden and guilt around about the abortion. God has been taking care of your little one in Heaven since the day you made your decision.
Begin or renew your relationship with Jesus Christ and let Him guide you to make better decisions. For starters wait until you find the man you want to marry and if you're ready to try again - start trying after the wedding ceremony. Your child deserves to have a strong committed family to grow up under.
The Lord will be your strength - You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you (Phil. 4:13).
Please search for the One who has lovingly been pursuing you all your life. He's the only One that can fill the emptiness inside of you. He's the only One that can complete you. His love for you is completely unconditional! You could never do anything bad enough to make Him love you less & You can never do anything good enough to make Him love you more. His love is perfect. Ask Him to forgive you and let Him teach you the way to a more fulfilling life.
Lord,
Please bring people into this women's life who can guide her to You and minister to her needs. Heal her inside and out and let her feel Your loving arms around her. Thank you Lord!
2007-04-06 05:15:26 · answer #8 · answered by serndip80 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone is assuming the abortion was elective- for all we know, she had to get an abortion for medical reasons. And even if it was elective, she's clearly wishing she hadn't done it and likely didn't get unbiased counceling to begin with, so leave her alone! Abortion hurts women too you know!
Talk to your Ob/gyn about conceiving again. And when it comes to grieving for your lost child, there are lots of resources out there where you won't be judged. I listed some below but there are more.
2007-04-06 07:06:35 · answer #9 · answered by Kelsey H 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Resources for Help After Abortion -
As people who have personal experience with abortion, we know this can be a difficult issue to deal with. We applaud your courage for recognizing that your feelings associated with an abortion(s) deserve attention and need to be addressed. Our goal here is to connect you with the people and programs that can help you unravel and understand your feelings and behavior related to your experience.
http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/resources/
2007-04-09 09:30:53 · answer #10 · answered by covakid360 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋