Friend has secret, double life..?

Question

True Friend or Phone Friend?
I have a friend, and we talk on the phone several times a day. I thought we were best friends...until I got invited to her daughters graduation party.

while at the party I noticed through conversation that almost everyone there was also invited to the graduation....except me. My friend didnt mention to me that anybody else was going!

On my friends frig were many many pictures, of all the people there at various events that I also didnt know anything about. Of course I was crushed. I truely thought we were best friends! I mean we talked about everything for hours!! If either of us had a problem we ran to the phone to call each other. Something new, exciting, ran to the phone. We both are rasing families and are very busy and I thought that was why we didnt see each other.

Were we friends or not? She keeps calling. I told her we should get together and do things although she doesnt seem interested inthat. What do you think is going on? I am really crushed.

Thanks

jordano8- I did talk to her. Told her when I saw the pics on the fridg I felt as if I didnt exist, and said that we should start doing things together. Her phone calls lessened and we made plans to go have coffee but that never transpired.

Its so strange having a relationship like this isnt it? How we can be so smart about some things but this just slid right under the radar.

Thanks for the well wishes. Hope youre doing good as well.

Answer 1

don't keep things bottled up, tell her how you feel......

i know how that feels its really weird

my friend always wants advice but never wants to really hang out

I hope you are feeling okay!!!!

Answer 2

You are her confidant and friend. But it seems like you have become each other's support buddy. You run to each other with problems, but both have busy lives. Maybe you won't be friends other than on the phone for a while, but what you have is still good right?

She did invite you to the grad party, so she's starting to integrate you into her other life as well. Take it slow and just enjoy the conversations in the mean time.

Answer 3

This reminds me of an episode of one of those court shows.

You might not realize what might seem as a "best friends" to you is not to her. There are many different types of friends in the world. Some may be the ones you tell secrets to and some might be the ones who you hang out with. There are some friends who only call you because they need something or they will benefit from you somehow.

Have you ever consider getting other "additional" friends? Keep your distance for a while and see what happens. Don't feel bad about her living a life outside of yours. It may be time for you to live your own life with some other friends. Also consider that to some people, family or loves ones come first before friends.

Answer 4

For one thing, most graduations require tickets, and a graduate only gets a certain number of tickets. Someone has to be cut. It can be a difficult decision to make, but don't feel bad if you were the one who didn't get to go. An invitation to the party is good enough.

Don't look into it so much, maybe she really is too busy to ever actually get out and truly enjoys your phone time. As a busy mom, I wish I had someone I could just call and blab to more often without having to get dressed, get the baby dressed pack a fifteen pound bag of food, diapers and clothes, strap the baby into the car and spend all my visiting time keeping my baby happy... =)

Answer 5

No, yet i do not care. My associates produce different social networking cyber websites they pass on. Like my pal maggie spends alot of time on Gaia making characters and walking round places chatting with human beings. that's truthfully more suitable respectable.

Answer 6

sounds like she is friends when she needs a sounding board but not a friend to you enough to include you in her life. Withdraw so you wan't be used anymore.

Answer 7

You might think she's your best friend, and she just think you are one of her friends. I don't think there is anything wrong with that.

Answer 8

i think she is using u to get her problem off her chest.....find another friend that doesnt use u

Answer 9

whats wrong in that? everybody has double life.
Only thing is how you notice

Answer 10

ur question makes no sense u said u were invited and so was everybody....except you! no sense.......