My husband and I having been having problems for awhile so we sperated but still lived together. Anyway we got bak together and I was happier then I had ever been my kids were super happy to see mommy and daddy happy again(We have 3 kids). Then he went to see the girl he was seeing to give her back her stuff. Well when he came back he was different he broke it up with me again. We still lived in the same house until, about 3 weeks ago I moved out I just could'nt take it anymore the girl is pregnant and she calls and calls and calls. Then when I hear him tell her that he loves her I die a little inside it hurts like a sharp knife stabbing me in the heart. I now live on my own and the guy I was seeing does stay a few days here and there but I hate it. I was told to have him meaning my husband I had to let him go. I moved about and I'm tring to not to go anywhere near him unless I have to. When I am around him I try to keep it all about the cars or the kids. Besides that we don't talk.
2007-04-06 04:32:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What do you want? Something like this is a sharp sword, but it is an opportunity to grow.
Since you now see what happens in a relationship that has another person you may have to sit back and wait and be work things out for yourself.
First he is going to have to raise a number of kids and have to work for a long time. Second he will always know you and see you in regards to the kids.
Since I went through something similar it is easier to immerse yourself into items that will assist you in growth mentally, financially and physically. I would try and stay clear of relationships for a while due to it may just be a rebound and really mean nothing except simple pleasure and a moment of relief.
Be civil and just look at where you want to be in a couple of months, years and when you are in general as opposed to your previous situation.
It sometimes takes men a long time to see what was in front of them and it also takes a us a little longer to understand how to take care of what we got.
2007-04-06 05:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by lancesn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is expressing his love to another lady then I would ahve to say sorry it is over. The only plan of action now is to file for divorce. Really did you not anticipate this answer it is the only logical one I can think of. It is time to move on and I hope even if and when you divorce the kids will find a way to be happy with spending time with you and there dad.
God Bless and Best Wishes
P.S. I know that you want to work it out for the kids but staying in a marriage that has already failed and has had the husband cheat and impregnate another women well just for that I would end it.
When you kids get older you can always explain to them why you split up with there dad and they will be sympathetic and understanding to the reasonyou did what you did. You have just cause to terminate this marriage. Take him to the cleaners that's all he deserves for running over you with adultery.
2007-04-06 04:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a tough situation, i think your being smart about it. Keeping it about the kids at this point is what you have to do. Sometimes they think the grass is greener on the other side, and they find later it's pretty full of weeds. Sometimes it works out. In your situation you need to do for you and the kids now and not focus on them (ex and gf ) so much. Make yourself ok so you can function and be ok for the kids. He's obviously made his choice so you need to move on to be ok. Hang in there, time heals all wounds. I speak for experience, went through the thing. Now, i have an amazing husband, a gorgeous daughter, a great job, I love who I am and I thank my EX every day for being an *** and a cheater! I wouln't be who I am and wouldn't have what I have and the man in my life if my EX didn't make his mistakes. And trust me...the grass isn't greener on his side.....
bummer for him
2007-04-06 05:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by deana s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to be your ex-husband. As bad as it hurts and regardless of how dark it appears, you will be better off with him in the long run. Obviously there is no security with this guy and now he has another baby on the way. You will find someone that deserves you and will treat you right, just do not let the current husband try and be him, he will only let you down again and again.
2007-04-06 04:42:21 · answer #4 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off if you slip up, then split up. Don't live in the same house! That only brings on issues.
Next is cut the chord. Obviously there is no change of reconciliation here. You need to think about you kids and providing them the most stable environment possible.
2007-04-06 04:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by Chazzer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you want is to be happy and all you remember is when it was you he loved and now it feels as though youll never be happy again and you need someone to love more then ever. But right now i think you need to worry bout your kids and how they are responding to the situation. Just talk to them. Don't force any relationships. Just look at your life right now and think about Who is most important in this situation. Im only in highschool i dont have much experience wiht marriage but i hope i helped, and i hope all gets better soon.
2007-04-06 04:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by Sydney I 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems, your husband will never be over with his relationship, kids or no kids. He is obseesed with the other lady and indecisive, you better leave him for good.
File a case in the court to sue him for bigamy and seek the custody of your children.
Better give rest to the other guy for the time being.
2007-04-06 04:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by sanjay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for what you are going through, I think you need to close that door in your life and focus on your kids and begin to let your heart heal. Personally I think it's too soon to be starting to be with anyone in a relationship, but that's just my opinion.
2007-04-06 04:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to keep moving forward. Nobody's going to work on your happiness but you. Focus on doing just that. Spend time with your kids and things that you always wanted to do, but didn't for some reason or another.
2007-04-06 04:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by bardstale 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, some husband! You'd better forget him girl. Sounds like nothing but pain for you if you don't. If he truly loved you, he'd be there no matter what. Sorry to be so blunt, but take it from someone who's been there and done that! If a guy truly loves you, he will never leave your side.
2007-04-06 04:39:15 · answer #10 · answered by karenhar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋