im a mum, been with my partner for 10 years and happy. in the last 5 years my partner and i have slept with my best friend and i have slept with her and husband. i have never regreted this and we all stay 2gether at her house on a weekend. this might seem abnormal but i seem to love her and my partner, i know she feels the same as she tried 2 find a house big enough for us all 2 live in. my b/f and her husband loves the idea of my friend and i being 2gether but im not sure if this would end in tears. what do u think, am i being stupid or can some1 really love 2 people at the same time. thank you for all advice recieved
2007-04-06 03:40:55 · 22 answers · asked by michelle6 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
we r not moving in2 a house for all of us, i couldnt do that. this is just some weekends we stay at each others houses. we always make sure that the kids are with sitters so the kids dont know. thanx again for the advice
2007-04-06 04:38:05 · update #1
I think you should ALL sleep together. It can be a very special event if the right people are involved. The caring and nurturing can actually be very liberating. :-) Yes, you are normal. You are more sensitive than most.
2007-04-06 03:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are happy do whatever you feel is right. Don't let anyone tell you are abnormal or it will never work. It is possible to love more than one person at once. My (female) partner & I are in a monogomous relationship & personally I wouldn't want it any other way. However there was a time when we thought we couldn't be together & figured that the next best thing would be if we all lived together as 2 couples. I admit I hadn't got as far as thinking about us all having sex together, but who knows what might have happened if we'd been faced with that situation? There is a risk that it might all end in tears, but life is like that. We mustn't be afraid of living & loving incase we get hurt. Good luck & I hope it works out for you.
2007-04-06 11:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really do believe that someone can love two people at the same time. The difference to me, is whether you are "in" love with them both?
I love one guy, but am in love with the other and I just can't live without him. You need to figure out which one that is.
When there are more than two people in a relationship, things are going to get crowded for someone, and you may end up losing them all in the long run.
I'm afraid for you. I know how you feel, but, you and your partner have history, and you say that you have been happy with him. Can this relationship stay strong this way (with others involved), or do you think the novelty will wear off for him at some point. Talk to him, and see what he sees for the future "for the two of you", do some soul searching, figure things out, and go from there.
Good Luck!!!
2007-04-06 11:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by phanti 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well u have a big decition to make. First of all there is nothing wrong in having desires and passions for both sex.
It seems to me like all of u are enjoying ur mutual activitis.
BUT - bcs there is a but - having sex together with friends and do a lot of other things good friends usually do is one thing - all of u know that its temperarely bcs sooner or later u and ur husband will go to ur own place and everybody have their dayly privacy. If u all at a sudden lives together all of u 24 hours a day - things might change dramatical - then u would have to accept a lot of things in dayly behavior that u only were able to accept before bcs all of u knew u would go back to ur own lifestyle. Believe me - even though ur b/f and the other girls husband likes the idea of u and the girl having sex with eachother - the jealousi will show up sooner or later if u start living in the same house.The risk that ur relationship will crack is to big. To my opinion the best thing for all of u will be to let the
situation be as it is and enjoy it to the fullest in all its aspects.
Now have fun and best of luck to u.
2007-04-06 11:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by leifp2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being normal is not part of the answer.
What you need to do is mediate with both partner and best friend and see how they feel about the whole scenario. In the long run they might have some objections and only doing it to keep one of you or even both of you happy.
2007-04-06 10:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by The_Informer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've known people who have said they shared a similar, strong degree of love for more than one person at a time.
I personally don't think I'm capable of making this choice, I tend to be the jealous type and wouldn't want to share someone with someone else; at the same time I wouldn't want to share myself with others and make my other partner feel bad.
But if you and your partner are comfortable with the whole arrangement and keep open communications with each other, I don't see anything wrong with it.
2007-04-06 10:54:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, by typical American standards that is a bit unusual but who cares? It is totally possible to love two people at the same time. My advice? All of you should sleep together :)
2007-04-06 11:07:40 · answer #7 · answered by Karina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should just follow whatever you feel and let the love show the path for you....be yourslef and stop thinking whether you are normal or not. This may lead you into confusion and desperation.Be happy and thats all i can say....
Good Luck !!
2007-04-06 11:12:44 · answer #8 · answered by bearbear w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's what happens when you try drugs too...Sex is a drug, so where do you stop? So far, you didn't go too far, if that's gonna make you feel better. Actually it seems pretty good, but you know what they say: all good things come to an end...eventually.
2007-04-08 06:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by Fuku 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i do not think you are normal and i feel sorry for your kid / kids what do you think will happen in one big house with the four of you jumping in and out of each other beds
do the kid a favour get out the yellow pages find a good shrink before you mess up there life as well
2007-04-06 10:56:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋