We have just been given a BIG contract in New Orleans. It is at least a year long, maybe two. I am in SC with my daughter. He is currently looking for us a house there, so that we can join him at the end of the school year.
My family is NOT going to like me moving there. It is far away from GA and they think it is a dangerous city. (We will be living in another parish outside of New Orleans).
Any ideas on how to make all this easier? Easier on my family and my daughter?
2007-04-06 03:11:10 · 14 answers · asked by Hot Momma 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
once married...you are commited to your husband..remember your vows.....I went through it with my job.I was moved and my wife hated it but had to go..If she was offered more money, i would go for it.
2007-04-06 03:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by jmillhimes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would first say that you "earned" the big contract, and I am sure the work that you husband is doing is important. I think you need to go with your daughter and be with your husband in New Orleans. Tell your family that this is the right thing for your family, and they will understand. As they have probably made sacrifices for their family such as relocating, moving, etc. And then once established in New Orleans, invite them all down for a weak of New Orleans jazz, and blues. Just not during hurricane season. Good Luck.
2007-04-06 10:29:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your family is just going to have to accept your decision. Your life now is with your husband and they have to respect that. I also moved away from my family 3 years ago and it was scary at first but we have all adjusted fine. They visit and we vist at least two times a year each. As far as the safety issues goes, try to ease their minds that you and your husband are going to find the safest section of the city possible. Good luck.
2007-04-06 10:17:34 · answer #3 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easier? What is hard about moving? People move all the time. Your family should just shut up about moving, it a decision properly made by you and your husband, and no other input is necessary, or even proper. Expressing fears or misgiving is OK, but after you've decided- end of story. Yes, things are rather messed up down there. So? There are lots of folks who are working to repair things, and they aren't living in some war zone or pest hole. It IS part of the US
2007-04-06 10:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi HT....sorry I have to contact you this way but you don't allow e-mail contact.
I have been trading e-mails with Princess P..., you know the whack job from India attending UCLA and blasting our troops.
I understand the two of you have also. I wonder if hers to you are as bizarre as the ones she sends to me.I just got another one tonight. If curious my e-mail is available.
By the way.... I use to have to move across country a few times in one of my jobs....California to DC and back type moves. How did I make it easier on my family? Luckily I had my family's complete support. But to make it easier...I let my wife pick out the house. Sorry....that's all I have.
2007-04-07 22:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by iraq51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its hard bcos ur family will miss you, but there are dangers no matter where u live thats a fact. You, your husb and daughter need to be together. Maybe as a present you could buy everyone web cams so its easier to keep in touch with family and your daughter can keep in touch with her friends. Think how ur husb feels being there alone.
2007-04-06 10:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by nicole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your daughter how advantageous the move will be financially to the family. She can still keep in contact with friends via internet or phone and possible visits during summer, etc. Your family (bros, sis, etc., will have to understand it's you husband's business and you have to follow his route, that your immediate concerns are for betterment of your immediate family.
2007-04-06 10:53:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change is scary, but remind everyone that no matter where you end up your family will be together and that is the most important thing. Your husband needs his family there, and you and your daughter need him as well. Let your daughter know that there is so much culture to be learned and it is a great one to experience (I am Cajun and LOVE my heritage).
2007-04-06 10:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your only concern right now should be for you and your daughter. It is a big move don't add the stress of the rest of the family on yourself
2007-04-06 10:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by Stitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you love your family,but he is your husband and I think you should go where he goes,and be happy that will also give your family the opportunity to vacation during mardi gras and not have to find accommodations because they have family in New orleans.
2007-04-06 10:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by leoslady3900 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
once married you and your husband have to do what you need to do.
FAMILY.......has no say and should not have a say this is what you and him decide, and you two do what you have to do to keep your family together...........I lived over seas adn my mom is St Louis and they were very close, My grand sons live 2000 miles away now and We are very close and talk about every day . You family does not have to live close to keep up with our child.
2007-04-06 10:21:57 · answer #11 · answered by Peggy C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋