Thoughts about 'True Love'?

Question

Is it worth searching and not going out with anyone to find/until you find your 'true love'? what are the chances that you will find it? should one just settle??

Answer 1

If you never go with anyone you'll never find true love, you'll never experience those things you need to in order to truly appreciate it when it comes to you...true love is very possible, one needn't settle for anything. You don't necessarily search for it because sometimes when you do that, it can be right in front of you and you are missing it because you are looking too hard and not seeing the full picture...

Just let it all happen, you'll know...it will find you, so go out, have fun and let it just work its way towards you as it should

Good luck

Answer 2

Well to answer your first question, no. You should absolutely take up opportunities if they present themselves, unless of course you are in a committed relationship. I believe it is definitely possible to find true love, perhaps even more than once in a lifetime. There is someone out there for everyone. Loving yourself and finding your self-confidence will make a great foundation for being open to truly finding your love. As far as "settling", my brain is telling me that you should never settle, but then again, I know far too many girls who use this as an excuse to make themselves single when they were in perfectly healthy relationships. I think you have to know when to find the balance between your "dream" and reality. Make sure the person you are dating has a good heart, treats you well, turns you on, is responsible, and makes you happy. If that person can meet those things and you still feel like you're settling, take a good hard look at yourself and your relationship. Figure out why you're still bent on looking elsewhere. If it's a problem you can fix, take care of it right away. Otherwise, if you still aren't happy, end it with that person and move on. Love is out there! Embrace it!

Answer 3

Is love worth it? Oh yeah. Nothing can compare to falling completely in love with someone and having a positive relationship. I have yet to find my "true love" but I have been very deeply in love with some one once before. As time went on we realized that we were not what each other needed in the long run. That didn't take away the fact that I once had these intensely deep feelings for them. Love is always worth it. I would never settle and I don't think anybody should. Would you want someone to only be with you b/c they were settling for you? If you end up settling eventually the fact that you're not completely happy with catch up with you. I believe there is someone out there and he or she is waiting to find someone just like you.

Answer 4

Never ever ever ever settle. It's the reason for the high divorce rate. Wait for the right one. But that doesn't mean sit in your living room waiting for him to fall from the sky! The more lines you cast in the water, the greater your chances of catching a fish. You can always throw the bad ones back! There are plenty of fish in the sea. Date often. Keep an open mind. The more people you meet the greater your chances of meeting the "right" one. You'll know when you find him. Don't settle for less. I believe in soulmates. & don't beat yourself up if you make a mistake. Sometimes you think you've found "the one" & then discover he isn't what you thought. Sometimes we fall in love with the idea of someone. We want to believe the best & we ignore the warning signs (or they hide them from us). It's not the end of the world, once you know better, you do better. If it's wrong then get out. Hopefully you find this out BEFORE you march down the altar. Too many people find out after.

I've managed to avoid marriage so far. I spent 9 years (off & on) with someone who wasn't the one. I watched Sleepless in Seattle & realized he was my Bill Pullman (a nice guy, but not Mr. Right) not my Tom Hanks (magical soulmate love connection). It was hard to let go after all that time was invested but if it's not right & you feel it in your soul, then you can't settle.

True love is the perfect combination of lover & best friend. You connect on every level. You feel intense chemistry & excitement with them yet they make you feel safe & comfortable & you're able to be yourself (& they inspire you to be your best self).

Good luck.

Answer 5

If u believe that true love exists then it should be worth looking for. But I may say one never finds everything perfect, settling down for something good will not be wrong either.
But what truly matters is the extend of ur desire. If u really long for one then u will find one.
But there are opposite cases as well. For instance I have been waiting for 20 years but never got one. Now I am too old to go out looking thats why I encourage u to go out and find someone for ur self.

Answer 6

It depends on what level of truth you are satisfied with?


A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.

After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.

Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.

I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.

I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.

If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.

I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.

Love and blessings

Your brother
don

Answer 7

I'm a 37 yr old mother of 3. I married the man that I thought was "The one". True Love...we both felt it, thought it. WRONG!! we divorced 2 yrs later. I then met a man whom I dated for 2 yrs, the relationship was on & off...ended up getting pregnant...didnt really WANT to get married. But did, had the baby...we grew together, and became so much in love, and became best friends...however it took 12 yrs. He was killed at work suddenly...Now 3 yrs later...I am with a man that is almost a mirror image of me personality wise. He is also a widow, he is my best friend.
So, to answer your question; fate is a funny...scary..wonderful.. hellish ride through life. Dont EVER think you have it all planned out in front of you. Just grasp & understand that with each door in your life that closes...another one opens...learn & grow from every relationship in your life...they may or may not be permenant. Follow the balance between your heart & your mind, always do what you think is best for you, life will change & evolve...embrace it & enjoy it...good or bad.

Answer 8

One should never settle if you know that person is not "The One".

However, it's still good to go out on dates with "the wrong ones" because you will know the right one that way.

When you find the one meant for you, you will just know.

Answer 9

It is not fair to waste someone's time being with them, to just settle for them when you don't think that you could ever truly, wholly love them. But if you find someone and there is something telling you that there is something special about this one person, something that just pulls you toward them, something about them that makes you want to believe in destiny, and if you could imagine spending the rest of your life with this one person and being perfectly, truly, amazingly happy; love them, care for them, be with them, and settle for no one else.

Answer 10

Don't settle for anything but a man you really love, and that really loves you.

If you can find it, its well worth it. You have to go out to find out though.