I have a good friend who is a male and he got married to another friend of mine. They have been married for almost 3 years and recently he found out that last year she cheated on him. She didn't tell him until another freind slipped and said something. He confronted her and she admitted to it but said she was sorry and loves him and will never do it again. Now he is about to divorce her but I think he should give her a chance and work it out I mean people make mistakes. What would you do?
2007-04-06 01:33:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, people do make mistakes. But, having an affair isn't a mistake. It is deliberate. Unless of course, the person was suffering from amnesia, and had forgotten that they were married. Being a spouse isn't something you dabble in, it's 24/7. We take vows, and promise to be faithful. Every married person faces the same decision. Cheat, or remain faithful. When you choose to cheat, your marriage should end. EVERY time. Zero exceptions, except amnesia, or perhaps when the person is legally insane.
2007-04-06 04:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen: If they have a good thing going on, why divorce? Is that the only solution to the problem? I mean people make alot of silly mistakes in their lives with their partners, wives, husbands, but it doesn't make them bad people.
Picture this: You are happily married, and let me break down happy to you, having a good communicative backgroung, are reliable, honest, considerate and are there for each other through thick and thin, you are not only lovers in bed but have an understandable friendship and can talk about anything to each other without the other party being offended e.g. he might say to her "I think susan is sexy" or she might say '' last night I dreamt I was making out with a hottie and it felt good". Why get vexx, at least you are speaking the thruth.
Now I am not say that fooling around is right, but all i am saying is why give up a good thing just because the other party stepped out of line once? Who's to say that it can't happen to you, and by the way NEVER SAY NEVER ok! Would you like to be divorce for that? Or would you like to have things smooth out?
Bear in mind don't be a fool niether, if you find that this person is still having contact or the connection between the both of you is going from bad to worst, sit down like to mature adults and get to the root of the problem, if it is something that can be resolve do it and please let the party say what is on thier mind without either of you getting vexx no matter what it is! How is this relationship suppose to work if he/she cannot say what they really want to say without upsetting the other party!
I think that's what makes realtionships/marraiges SO POWERFUL, honesty is the key whether it hurts or not come clean and your partner would respect you for it.
Over and out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-06 09:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by ysandia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should give her a chance, but statistically men are not as forgiving as women. A woman always wants to give her man a second chance. The male ego doesn't seem to be able to deal with the thought of their mate with someone else. Mainly I think because when a woman cheats usually there is more of an emotional connection. A man truly means it when he says" it was nothing, it was just sex!!"
2007-04-06 09:04:03 · answer #3 · answered by BROWNIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She didn't make a mistake, she knew exactly what she was doing and all sense of reasoning flew out of the window. He should divorce her, she has no conscious. The minute I found out, I'd be talking to a divorce attorney and would be telling them I want this over and done with ASAP, here's my money.
2007-04-06 08:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
So, she cheated after 2 years of marriage. Nope. I'd go straight to the divorce attorney. She didn't even have the decency to tell him until after she got caught! I hate when a cheater says they 'love' their spouse when they broke trust, lied, screwed and manipulated. Ya gotta lie a lot to cover all that up, too.....all while seeing your beloved every day...
2007-04-06 08:54:44 · answer #5 · answered by cgirl97 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally disagree with you. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Cheaters cheat because they do not respect their significant other. If you let a cheater say "I am sorry" and stay in the relationship, they will feel that they got away with cheating and will cheat again and again.
Every person should have enough respect for themself to dump someone who cheats on them.
Take care,
Troy
2007-04-06 08:49:23 · answer #6 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've known women that cheated before and severely regretted it. You get caught up in something and it gets out of control, which causes you to make a bad choice. He should look at if they are happy or not and how he really feels about her. True love is so hard to find and you don't throw it away over one mistake.
2007-04-06 08:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by teana 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mistake? MISTAKE? Bouncing a check is a mistake! We're talking cheating here! That's not a mistake, that's a character flaw! Bad thing is it's a reoccurring character flaw. He is right to escape! Hell, I'd have a vapor trail behind me I would be so outta that relationship!
2007-04-06 08:57:17 · answer #8 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that I would give the woman another chance. If she says that she loves him still; he should give her a chance to prove it. But the thing is; if she does it again, he should definately let her go.
2007-04-06 08:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by yellow44 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give her another chance to so she could prove herself as she already knows there will be a lot of trust to rebuild but as soon as she did it again i'd be out of there
2007-04-06 08:39:46 · answer #10 · answered by n4w05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋