I am posing this questions as i had many netfriends who in one way or another finally concede their virginity to their bf whom they get to know through the internet.
Often than not, more than 30 such cases they experience difficulty with these men for one reason or another.
What is your stand on my question?
2007-04-06 01:17:47 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thanks Bailey. i pose this question from perspective of a gal and hopefully some may read this question and find the answers useful.
for myself i need the answers too for my netfriends.
2007-04-06 03:00:00 · update #1
sleeping with someone you met online is never a good idea---you don't really know the person--you could be talking to a fake or fraud---remember it is through a computer (not face to face)---it is also not safe to meet people who have talked to online (unless you already knew them from school, work, friends, fmaily, church etc....)
also losing your virginity should be a special moment with someone you love and cherish and want to be with
for those of you responding please stop answering as though jason is a girl---please read his profile (male and 33 from singapore)----jason, please don't do such (you say you are catholic please wait until you find your soul mate)---there are way too many predators out there, stds, etc......
even though we don't know you there are many of us on here that want you safe and happy
2007-04-06 01:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by Bailey 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If the question was posed before you thought it appropriate, then this guy is just like the rest of the Internet guys, and you are just a potential victim. There does come the moment in time that the decision is made. It is never over a key board though. It's always after some hot and heavy kissing and cuddling, when the two of you lock eyes and just know it's time. That seems much more romantic than typing in "do ya wanna?" I'm going to classify this in a way you won't be too happy about. In fact it will definitely cost me 10 points for best answer but, hell, sometimes a whack up side the head is what is needed more than someone tickling my self esteem with more points. This relationship is about as immature as you can get! I'm not pointing my finger at any specific person but one of you are to young emotionally and mentally to take this to the next level! Good Luck!
2007-04-06 08:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, I would "never" give anything to anyone that I have "just met" over the iternet!
Instant Messaging? Thats a laugh and a joke!
It seems when you are "dating" over the internet, people make up the most outrageous lies, and the other person, unsuspecting, swallows it hook, line and sinker!
Simply because they have no "history" with the person, and cant verify anything. Your boyfriend maybe a child molester, rapist, con man, abuser, drunk or a myriad of other problems associated with him and you would never know it, because you dont live near him, see him daily, or knows of what he does from day to day. You get only his "rosy outlook" edition of himself, and dont know if he has a temper, what he "really" looks like...(yea, those pictures are "really" him ROTFLOL!).
The reason people date on the internet? A lot of them couldnt get a girlfriend otherwise! Sure, there are some legitimate dating services that match people up, but even then, you still are drawing staws and taking a big chance.
Do a search online for his name, check the Child Molester network to see if he maybe a pediphile of some other form of predator. Check the net to see if he has been in jail! I would do a lot of checking before I even met a person on the net, and to lose your "virginity" to a stranger? You may as well go to a bar and lose it to the first guy you meet, as he will tell you just as many lies when he is drunk enough and trying to get laid...
I wish you well...
Jesse
2007-04-06 08:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by x 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
from experience. Most people looking for love on line don't have a life. I have met with 4 women in person after I met them on line and found that is a very good reason that they are single and they can stay single as far as I'm concerned.
I suppose there is some good ones too, but I'm not willing to spend my time sorting through all of the others.
One I met said she weighed 120 lbs. It had been a long time since she had been on a scale. 170 would have been a lot closer.
2007-04-10 08:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by The 5 pound Robin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. There are a lot of sexual predators out there just looking for a victim. If you think the guy is lag it ask him to meet you in a public place like a mall. Don't go anywhere outside of the mall with him. You might even think about taking a friend with you to meet him the first time, but in answer to your question, I would say "NO" to any sexual praline that he may have in mind. If you haven't even met yet and he is already talking about sex, then I would say that sex is all he has in mind, no matter what he has told you. Just be careful and don't get yourself hurt.
2007-04-06 08:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by golden rider 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY, don't do it!!! All those men on the Internet are wanting is sex. The whole premise of the relationship is set up for sex, just by you asking this question. He is telling you what he is about. I would bet that most of the men your friends have dealt with were married. It is garbage when people think they are getting to know someone they chat with online. That is so far from the truth. You get to know someone by physically interacting with them. Real men will wait for sex when they really like a woman.
2007-04-06 08:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u r ur own person u shouldn't do anything ur not confortable with. now a days sex is just sex. theres ppl who don't respect the virginity outlook. thats prob why ur girls have had difficulty. alot of times the thought of "virgin" just makes mens want u more, not for u just being u though, of course.
if ur ready to go for it good or bad then why not. just make sure ur not doing it for the wrong reasons. whether he sticks around or leaves there will always b other guys. and for future reference if u wanna know what a guys about, try not telling him ur a virgin. tell em ur not at that point in ur relationship or u don't wanna jump into it. u'll b able to c how sincere they r about u.
2007-04-06 08:40:44 · answer #7 · answered by surelybonafide 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Jason, you ask an interesting question. As a matter of fact, you've asked over 1,600 questions. Most of them have to do with religious topics like can Christians explain mountain building, or about various US and Russian world leaders. So this boyfriend stuff is new for you.
If you want to give your virginity to your boyfriend - well that's a big step, Jason. It should be someone you truly love and who loves you and isn't just some guy interested in getting another Jason notch on his belt.
As far as meeting guys in person you met on the web - for the purpose of giving him your virginity - wow, that's kind of scary, Jason. A lot of guys want to meet a nice fellow like you just to get your virginity, then they move on to the next trusting guy. I think it's a bit dangerous and I think he's going to end up just using you for sex and then dumping you and he's going to break your heart, Jason.
So "I" don't think "you" should give "him" the sex he wants. Doesn't "he" want to know "you" as a nice young man of 33 first -- find out about you, spend time with you, all that?
He just wants you for your body, Jason. I vote no.
2007-04-06 08:39:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am an outspoken advocate for abstinence, refraining from sex until marriage, but that is just my take. I wouldn't, because in my opinion, if a man really loves you or cares for you, he would wait. Your relationship becomes stronger because it's not built on a physical level and dominated by lust, but built on a more spiritual and emotional connection that goes so much deeper. I wouldn't give in, simply because virginity is a rare gift these days, and truly the most precious gift you could give to a future husband. Respect is what it's all about.
2007-04-06 08:26:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think if you are questioning it you have a bit of doubt in your mind. If that's the case then I wouldn't. I think it is a big deal to have a sexual relationship with someone that should be taken seriously. Please do not feel pressure to do something you are not ready to do. And with all the STDs out there you need to be really careful and make sure you know your partner well.
2007-04-06 08:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by Ambre B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't have to compromise your self esteem and self worth for just an online pal. Just bear in mind that sex is much guys accomplishment and our lament. I am not too naive to say wait for marriage or wait for the perfect man. But at least do it with someone you really know and above all you do it for love, nothing else.
2007-04-06 08:35:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋