what would you do if you went to a meeting and someone?

Question

a professional did not but put you down and alot of it was not true it was someone gossiping. i did stand up for myself but in the end i began to cry and walked out. Never had an experience like it in my life it was awful. I cant, stand the man who was doing it

Answer 1

the bad part of me would glock his butt, the good part would treat him like the garbage that he is. rot in hell ( that was the evil lois haha)

Answer 2

What I would do is try to take as much positive feedback as I possibly could from the situation.

Someone has given you a hard time in front of an audience and you've gone to pieces. This means that you have a particular set of buttons that can be pressed by someone else, either accidentally or on purpose, to achieve the same result again - make you go to pieces.

It's important that you've discovered this can happen, because now you can take steps to ensure it doesn't happen again. Imagine what it might be like to have discovered these buttons in a few years time once you're successful? The effect would be more devastating, so it's good that you've found out so early.

So thank the person who made you angry, who you can't stand for revealing something important about you, to you. Now you can stop focusing your energy on the negative and begin the positive transformation you must undergo in order to ensure that this never happens again.

Answer 3

There's nothing worse than feeling belittled in a meeting, especially when it is not true and just gossip. I think you're best bet is to set up a meeting with this person and tell your side of the story to him one on one. If you have anything to back you up, take it with you. Be prepared and make a list of notes to help you keep your mind and thoughts organized while discussing this with him. First of all, it is very unprofessional to do that in a meeting. If he had something to talk to you about it should have been done privately. I seriously think you need to have that meeting and let him know that you are a professional and want to be treated as such. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

I was in college and the classroom was full of the students that were in the class. I walked in Last and The instructor said to me(My Name) who do you think you are cinderella?I have roots from a ghetto ,and I am sure he knew this since he was my advisor.I did not know what to think of this and still do not as of today. This instructor has a Masters Degree and I just do not understand why he would announce this loud and clear.
I went to his office the next day and gave him a head full of words! This was wrong on my behalf! I should have let the old dog lay on the porch! This was really hard for me at that time in my life to do! Now I would let it go! Some people will get to you, but Do NOT allow the people to upset you! Walk Away!!! SMILE!!!!!!

Answer 5

He sounds a right bully. I know it's hard to control the tear when you feel frustrated but, next time tell him that his insecurity and childish behaviour (gossipping), it's going to land him in trouble as you will report him for being a bully and for acting unprofessionally. Good luck

Answer 6

Report the b*stard to HR. This is shocking behaviour, if he had a problem with you and heard rumours then he should have asked you in private, not made snidey comments to you.

This is bullying and should be taken further. At worst this man should get a verbal warning over his behaviour. If he worked for me I would sack him on the spot for harrasment and slander

Answer 7

i dont know what i would do if someone put me down because of someone else's gossip. i would probably cry too!
did you talk to your boss? or someone higher up than the person who put you down?

let them know what's bothering you. its a professionals job to make the work environment comfortable for everyone. if you dont know where to start or who to talk to, try talking to someone in human resources, they can help direct you to the right course of action regarding the incident.

hope this helps.

Answer 8

Go above his head and report him, it was totally unprofessional, there are ways to conduct these situations and he wasn't doing it. He sounds like a bully to me and if he is allowed to continue in this way then he will, he needs someone to take him down a peg or two.

Answer 9

Its unprofessional for anyone to bad mouth you in front of others,if he had something to say he should have taken you to one side,away from colleagues.What he did is misconduct,report him for him,next time he'll think twice and cheer up,don't let him or the gossips get to you.xx

Answer 10

he doesn't sound very "professional" if he did this.