I married a man who's attitude was like a headache to me due to the fact that he had parents who was separated since his childhood years.There comes a time that he cheated on me and he told me that it was my fault etc.What will i do this situation?Please help!
2007-04-06 00:33:34 · 16 answers · asked by hurting 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Either get rid of him or stay with him. More sex usually helps, but only in the short term. Bottom line if this guy wants o stay, he will. Sounds like he's so used to the adversity that he is doing everything he can to keep the same lifestyle he's used to. In other words his formative years he never learned how to make a relationship work.
2007-04-06 00:37:42 · answer #1 · answered by jeff_marasso 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, dear, looks like he's following the only script he's ever read.....the one his life has been based on.
Ask him if he liked being raised by separated parents and if that is how he wants his family to live, how he wants his kids raised. Ask him if he'd like to stop the cycle. It's a lot of work but he'll have to learn how to be the other adult partner in the relationship.
I too was responsible for everything that came down the pike....because I was the one doing all the work!!! So if a situation developed, naturally it was not his fault because he never dealt with any of our marital responsibilities.
He just needs to make one decision....whether or not to honor his vows...to love, honor, and respect you....(comes before the death do you part part). If he can, great. If he can't then he needs to admit it.
2007-04-06 09:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a broken family life is no excuse for cheating on someone. I came from a broken family and I would never cheat on my husband.
It is not your fault either! Dont let him try to blame you.
It sounds like your husband is a bit immature and it will be hard for you to trust him in the future. You deserve better and I would leave him if i were you. I would only consider getting back together if he and you went to professional counselling (mainly for him to work through what he did etc,).
It must be so difficult for you. Just remember - if he has done it before he is likely to do it again - no matter what he says. I know that is not very comforting, but you need to put your best interests first here or you will only get hurt again.
I pray that he sorts himself out and i pray for you during this difficult time, for strength, wisdom and comfort.
Best regards
2007-04-06 00:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by Nic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously are married to a lying, cheating con artist. Tell him to grow up and start acting like a man and quit all his whining about his childhood. None of that is your fault and maybe if he can't get over it he needs to go see a shrink.
You may choose to give him a chance to straighten up and fly right, but make sure he understands that it is a one time chance and then he is history.
Good luck
2007-04-06 00:40:59 · answer #4 · answered by Sam h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So it was your fault he got a hardon and had sex with another woman? Sounds like a real winner you go on your hands there. Get rid of him. There are thousands of nice guys out there looking for a good solid relationship with a great girl. Don't settle and don't lower your standards.
2007-04-06 00:59:20 · answer #5 · answered by trikelkelley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chin up there is hope look back to when you first met im sure there are some great memories of when you first fell in love . my husband and i went through some real trying times as well infact we still getting over some bumpy spots. he had said some aful stuff to me and i wanted to leave....long story short we went for conselling and also started to go to church together. every day is as new day and we are slowly puting the pieces back together. the is key is talk and try to break the walls that are up dont give up
2007-04-06 01:33:22 · answer #6 · answered by rainbowlittle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's the issue with you? Are you a sociopath? What do you mean you do not sense sense sorry approximately? circulate see a councilor earlier you harm absolutely everyone else. there's a top thank you to get out of your relationship including your husband. in case you may not paintings issues out in counciling, you divorce him. Then in case you desire to discover somebody new, you seem for somebody who isn't married with toddlers.
2016-10-02 06:40:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favor and leave. You deserve better. Every minute that goes by in this situation you lose in life. You were not brought into this world to live in misery. Only you chose to live in misery.
2007-04-06 00:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee...what a tough question, you married this guy who was already a pain in the ***, and then he cheats on you? How blind do you have to be in order to miss such an obvious solution.
2007-04-06 00:38:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. He is making excuses for his unforgivable behavior. This man is selfish and does not deserve you. Get out before he takes the best years of your life, then leaves you for a newer model!!
2007-04-06 00:38:56 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋