My ex girlfriend and I split up around 2 months ago,and she finished with me due to stress at the time from other things. We still remained friends,but I always wanted more,and tried so hard to get over her. Yesterday, she invited me around her place to watch a dvd and have lunch. We watch the DVD and midway through I find myself holding her hand, and her not pushing me off. Then we play around for a bit, and I end up kissing her, she doesn't pull me away, and we carry on. This goes on for the next hour or so, she says she isn't over me, and misses me and really likes me, i say i miss her and like her too, and that maybe we shud get back together,but a slower relationship this time.she agrees,and i leave later. then i get a message saying that she hates me, that i realised she had feelings for me, and i shud have left it,& not come on to her! / Now i feel stupid,& she says she wants to go cold, as best for all, as her emotions are shattered!
2007-04-06 00:24:31 · 24 answers · asked by Rejhaven 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you're not an idiot...she sent mixed signals. The best thing you can do right now is to back off. She sounds unstable and will hurt you even more if you pursue any kind of relationship with her
2007-04-06 00:31:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A small answer for your big question...in romance we learn over the years through trial and error that if it didn't work the first time...it's not going to work the second time around. You give us the impression that your ex girl has emotional stability problems...and that she knows how you are...during the relationship did she do similar things to this incident? Stop and think...if so, it's best to let it go...and I'm sure your feeling that you can't move on...but trust me...you can! Please note that you are not an idiot, we all have done things out of the ordinary for the pursuit of happiness...but if you decide to give in when she wants to get back with you the next time...then you can call yourself whatever name you like. If you've decided to move on...then don't return any text messages...don't call her...don't cruise by her place...that is what she'll be expecting for you to do...sounds like she likes to guide you around by your nose when she feels like it...you have to teach people how to treat you and believe it or not...there is a "RIGHT" person out here for you...but you've got to clear out this riff raff first so you can see it.
2007-04-06 08:29:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not an idiot. Try not to put yourself down like that. What you did was show affection for someone you like and care about a lot. She didnt give you any indication that she didnt want to be intimate so dont beat yourself up.
It sounds like she is confused. Just give her some time and space and see what happens. Sometimes when you love someone you need to let them be free - then they can choose what they really want without the pressure. Just be a friend if you can (if she lets you after this inital setback). She might actually need someone she can talk to about all the other things she is stressed about. The best advice is to just listen! Thats what us gals need the most! Not advice or solutions to our problems - just a listening ear to vent our frustrations and talk about the millions of chatterings our mind creates!!
I wish you all the best! You sound like a very nice and caring person.
2007-04-06 07:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by Nic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Off you go, move along...she's absolutely not worth your consideration. If she's that easily persuaded by others in her life, you'll never get anywhere in a relationship with her. What's to bet tho you'll hear from her again. Do you really want to keep going thru this roller coaster ride with her? Find someone who is really in to you and you them...it will be hard, but in the end it will be worth it. It's time for you to go cold for awhile and take back control of your life and emotions rather than leaving them with her to muck with.
Good luck
2007-04-06 07:39:05 · answer #4 · answered by dustiiart 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad, man. You have have had a close call with one of the scariest entities known to man - the psycho chick.
Get out the back, Jack, make a new plan, Stan, drop of the key, Lee....
2007-04-06 07:38:15 · answer #5 · answered by XOUT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel stupid for responding to her cues. She is mad at herself and it is easier for her to blame you than to face the fact that she is equally responsible for what happened. She may be right though for you to go cold. A cooling off period sometimes clears the head and can allow you to think about things in a more rational way.
2007-04-06 07:30:07 · answer #6 · answered by jingles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You split up because things aren't working smoothly for both of you. If you get back together, there's a high probability that you'll break up again. The girl's messed up - so why mess up your life!
2007-04-06 07:32:53 · answer #7 · answered by thatsraven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well shes definetly playing you, if she felt like that she should have stopped when you were over there. You were both just "going with the flow" Seriously I'd move on if shes going to play you around like that, stay friends if you wish but i wouldnt get back with her
2007-04-06 07:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by n4w05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is playing games with you. Not wanting to reject you face to face. Stay away from this girl & don't feel guilty about what happened at her place as she didn't tell you no.
2007-04-06 07:28:09 · answer #9 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch man that sounds pretty bad i feel your pain man. hey just think of the bright side no more of her alright just find someone else or just stop dating for a while until (if your young) highschool people tend to mature up and start really feeling things for people then.
2007-04-06 07:28:33 · answer #10 · answered by kyle_hayden987123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋