I have known my best friend for 7 or 8 year. I love her to bits and we have so much in common its unreal. When she left for university she seemed to change a lot. I understand that she got new friends and has lots of work to do. But everytime I try to arrange something for us to do she is always to buisy, but it seems that she always has time to do things with her new friends. I thought this would change after a few month but its been over a year and its still the same. I know she has changed, so have I, but we still get along perfectly when we do see each other. It makes me sad to think about it. Has this happened to anyone else?
2007-04-06 00:19:26 · 13 answers · asked by oohtea! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My mum always said to me cherish the people in your life cos you will never know when they go. A sad line but true, you need to understand that your friend is still a good friend but she has expanded her friendship with other people. Be fair to her and incourage her in what she does. I have had so many friends in my life but I only have one true friend.You said a really important thing about when you meet up now you still get along, thats true friendship. My best mate and I can go for months without seeing eachother but when we do it's like we were never apart. Let her go slightly and I promise she will always come back to you and you never know you might find a few new friends on the way.
2007-04-06 03:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by pheobe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think this is pretty common. I'm 45. I am no longer friends with any of my school friends. They've all moved away, are caught up with family, husbands, work, and new friends.
I'm a lot different than I was back then. I doubt I'd have much in common with my old friends. Even if I did, I have many new (last 15 years) friends now and being a friend takes time - especially if you want to be a good friend.
2007-04-06 00:30:10 · answer #2 · answered by J F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey friend, i can absolutley sypathise with you, i was a boy who was usually very quiet in school although i had my happy fun side,, but since i was small i had one friend and she was a girl,im a guy, cuz i used to find it hard talkign to other people , and we were friends for many years and we finished primary and high school together, however in final year at school she met her boyfriend who i dont rele get along with, and she was the only friend i ever had and to this day i feel sad cuz since we left school, everytime i call her shes busy but shes always out with other friends and her boyfriend most of the time mainly, and im talkign 2 years on im 18 now, and she was my only friend and i feel like iv lost my only friend, but then again we have both changed a lot, but she always had a place in my heart cuz she was always usually there for until 2 years ago, i mean as you say,everytime we see each other we speak and etc etc its perfect, but its not how it was before ,because thats the way it is unfortnatley some people change, and i think its time you tried to move on and find happiness in your life, i completly understand what your saying but from my experience try and move on and create a future for yourself, you don't getfriends easily,it takes time, i still feel lonly sumtimes even now cuz i have friends but not as special as her... good luck be with you , take care
2007-04-06 12:48:46 · answer #3 · answered by Izzy10 S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is completely normal and as you get older you will realise this... I had a best friend, known her since we were 5... she went off travelling after college and everything changed, I moved on and she moved on and she then returned and went of to Uni... however, I still talk to her, and when I see her its like nothing has changed and I'll always be friends with her and vice versa.... Just accept it you will never lose the connection with her... I havent.
So just live your life and let her live hers, you'll always have each other no matter what.
2007-04-06 07:42:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it has happened to me. Partially because college changes a person - not really a bad change, just makes you look at things differently. First of all, I really believe you need to talk to her -tell her how you feel, and that you value her friendship, that you can definitely understand she is busy but you would love to spend time with her.
Ask her about college, try and find a commonality with it - it may not seem interesting but the topic itself may lead to something you are interested in
2007-04-06 00:25:03 · answer #5 · answered by bluebettalady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it happen to a lot of people. I was friends with a group of girls for 7 years and when we left college I realised that I didn't really like them and didn't grow apart from them I just decided not to see them any more.
Sorry back to your question. I think that as you still speak to your friend she is still a mate. Remember:
Good friends are those who care without hesitation, remember without limitations and remain the same without communication.
If it really bothers you, I think that you should address the situation with your friend. She should understand how you feel.
Take Care XX
2007-04-06 20:44:04 · answer #6 · answered by Darkchild 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes yes yes ur story is like reading my own its exactly the same with me and my best mate she went of 2 uni 2 years ago and i thought things would stay the same but weve grown apart over time and wen i arange nites out she always lets me down but then manages to go out with other people or somethin, it makes me sad to cuz she was like a sister my partner in crime!! but i guess you change and move on but will still have that bond. its life init.
2007-04-06 03:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by ruthiebaby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had a best friend that i had known for 6-7 years and she left to india because her parents send her and her brother 2 a bording school there..and like whenever i try to talk to her on msn she never has time 4 me and now we hardly ever talk...its because she has new friends and so have i... and its sorta hard to communicate and find something to talk about since we have grown apart..when we met up one day after 1.5 year of not seeing eachother it was asif talkin 2 a stranger... its really weird..but i guess after a couple of hours you sort of get use 2 each other and start remembering and laughing about old times..so i guess its better after talking for a long time
2007-04-06 00:32:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
here friends do grow apart but it doesnt mean that you dont love each other any less....just try and plan something like once a month for both of you, and just spend a day with each other laughin over old times. no matter what happens, you remain friends for life, just for circumstances you grow apart x
2007-04-06 00:28:09 · answer #9 · answered by NoName 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes my best friend and i were inseparable, there wasn't a day that we didn't see each other, then she starting seeing this guy who was jealous with the amount of time she spent with me so she started seeing more of him and less of me, she's married to him now and I've only seen her twice since the wedding.
2007-04-06 03:00:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋