Is a good way to make a friend out of a stranger complementing their clothes?

Question

If a stranger came up to you and was like "hey that's a cool jacket," how would you feel? Would you want to keep talking to that person? What's a good way to start conversations and make friends with strangers? I'm a 20 year old guy and new in my town and I'm trying to make new friends.

Answer 1

Depending on what town you live in I may be worried he wants to steal it. But in general, saying things like "hey thats a cool jacket" is not typical for a man who is a stranger to say. Of course the way to make friends is to get to know them and I guess this could be a way of breaking the ice.. The guy could also be Gay and was flirting with you.

Answer 2

There is a very famous quote that says, a good friend was always a stranger first. So there you are.If you have a cool attitude and you are quite an extrovert, then go for it. It's quite an art to pick up a conversation and be friends with someone.Complementing some one on clothes might be a li'l uncomfortable for some, who might take it personally. I feel being witty, cracking a nice joke in a social gathering could be a great way to attract friends. That gives the other an opportunity to interact with you.

Here are some points that might help you.

1. Just be yourself. Don't be afraid to express your opinions. If someone makes a rude remark, just ignore them- they don't know what they're talking about.
2. Be optimistic. Even if you are feeling really down, remember that there's always something out there to smile about. A positive outlook will make people want to be around you more.
3. Crack a joke. Having a sense of humor is important, but don't get too carried away - you have to be serious about some things, sometimes.
4. Smile as much as you can. Signs of encouragement let people know you care about what they are saying.
5. Share interesting/silly ideas.
6. Listen more rather than talking. Instead of nodding and smiling and occasionally wiping the drool off your face, try to take what the person says and run with it. Add your own thoughts into the mix - but don't hijack the conversation.
7. Start by doing little things if you are very reserved. For example, every time you go to school, work, or wherever, say hello to one person and have a one-on-one conversation with them.
8. If you know nothing about the person you're trying to get to know, say little things like "whats up." If they are hesitant about answering your questions, share something about yourself, such as where you're going or why you're there. Avoid talking about the weather. As Tom Waits says, "strangers talk about the weather." Try a compliment, that is, if you find something worth complimenting.
9. Don't expect perfection out of anyone, especially yourself. For example, if you forget your own name while introducing yourself, just make fun of the situation and say you've been eating too much aluminum and mercury and thus developed Alzheimer's, but be careful not to offend anyone.
10. Be patient. If you are still among strangers, the apprehension of a conversation may cause a delay in comments. Don't worry, that will go away in short order.
11. Talk to older people, maybe even your own folks. They will be less likely to ridicule you, therefore making it easier to learn to talk well.
12. Place importance on making social contacts. The people who are considered popular may not be the sharpest tacks in the box, but they are making important contacts that may come in handy later in their lives. They have networks that may help them get decent jobs later. It is never too late to feel that being popular is important. If your work environment allows for it, host a party, organize a sports game, etc.
13. Love yourself. It is difficult to like others when you do not appreciate yourself for who you are. Bootstrap yourself and work and play day to night until you feel good about yourself again. Try exercise to improve your self-esteem.
14. Be loyal. Little things count: If you make an appointment, be on time. If you're in a group, show up early, and stay late (even if you don't have anything to say at the moment).
15. Be nice to others. Always give compliments to those, but don't try too hard. If you are shy take a deep breath and risk it. You never know what might happen. Also crack a joke every once in a while. Again if you are shy, but inside crazy, let it out once in a while. Wear your hair up high and spin around, or dance, others will laugh, and find you fun and funny to be with.
16. It's easier to talk to people if you have shared an experience with them. Clearly the friends you have at the moment predominantly talk about interesting things they did in the past.

Answer 3

That might work especially with girls-but they also may think you are hitting on them!!Try going to local sporting events that you are interested in and strike up a convo with the person next to you.Or if you play,join the club.A gym is also a good way to meet friends if you are into that.
Be confident and happy and you will have friends in no time!!
Oh yeah,if you commented on my clothes and appeared to be genuine,I would continue talking to you!!
GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 4

great way too meet new people. People love talking about themselves usually. And the compliment to get that started... you're in there.

Answer 5

Juz act cool and go up to a lady and say "nice *** baby"!! Thats how i start my conversations!! Sometimes it works, sometimes it just doesnt!!

Answer 6

I'd talk to you, but that's me.