My ex girlfriend and I split up around 2 months ago,and she finished with me due to stress at the time from other things. We still remained friends,but I always wanted more,and tried so hard to get over her. Yesterday, she invited me around her place to watch a dvd and have lunch. We watch the DVD and midway through I find myself holding her hand, and her not pushing me off. Then we play around for a bit, and I end up kissing her, she doesn't pull me away, and we carry on. This goes on for the next hour or so, she says she isn't over me, and misses me and really likes me, i say i miss her and like her too, and that maybe we shud get back together,but a slower relationship this time.she agrees,and i leave later. then i get a message saying that she hates me, that i realised she had feelings for me, and i shud have left it,& not come on to her! / Now i feel stupid,& she says she wants to go cold, as best for all, as her emotions are shattered!
2007-04-05 23:42:10 · 11 answers · asked by Soliloquy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hmmmm?
She said Hates you?
A minor problem. There is a little more to it than that. It sounds a little like you got all hot and bothered and that somebody said that maybe it was a mistake .
Or go see her and ask her to jump up and down. Listen carefully to anything that may be making a noise inside the skull area,
Other than that , you have to call her back and ask why she said that? Better still go over there and ask because you would really want to try and make it work this time . Correcting all the differences you had before . By talking about them and paying more attention to her . Not going with your friends , picking her up early , Giving her some space and caring more about what is going on with her instead of being thoughtless.
Or Stay as far away from that one as physically possible.
2007-04-05 23:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by grainy33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't screw up, you were taking a chance with life and love. The fact that she invited you over for lunch and a DVD tells me that she still likes you. But, she is afraid of her emotions and her feelings for you. She doesn't really hate you, she's just overwhelmed. And I'll bet she feels pretty stupid too. She needs time to sort things out in her mind and her heart.
If you no longer care for her, then just walk away, and try to put her behind you, as hard as it may be. But if you still like her and want to get back together with her, let her know that you weren't playing with her, that you were sincere in your feelings for her, and you thought she was being honest with you too. Try to be patient and understanding, and give her space and time.
Once she's had a chance to sort things out, and she sees that you were sincere and kind, she'll come back to you with love and appreciation.
2007-04-06 06:51:10 · answer #2 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her not to blame you for her participation in the evening. Tell her that you thought she really wanted to try again, that you were not playing with her emotions. Tell her that if she feels this way, maybe you two should not spend alone time together right now. Say that you are sorry you misunderstood her feelings, and if she had asked you to stop, you would have stopped immediately.
2007-04-06 06:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you do know what you want, and that would be a relationship. I don't believe that she knows what she wants, or even if she is emotionally stable enough to have one. She either likes to play games or doesn't know what is up. She sounds like she is very confused, and you will continue to be hurt if you don't move on. But you deserve a great effort for trying again.
2007-04-06 06:52:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So now you know. A typical, run of the mill exercise of reassurance. She just wanted to know you still love her, and with that in mind she gained her self confidence to seek the other guy and still have you in her back pocket as a spare.
Time to go.
2007-04-06 07:31:03 · answer #5 · answered by emiliosailez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is scared of falling for you in a big way
... has she been in a bad relationship prior to meeting you? this could affect her.. maybe she just has commitment issues! on the advise of the others, you could just walk away and leave her to it. sounds like theres a split personality going on with her!
2007-04-06 06:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a man. Act like one. Walk away and don't look back!
2007-04-06 06:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like a manipulator and that she is just messing with yoy, forget her completely and just move on shes not worth the heartache
2007-04-06 06:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by Magzyg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a good opportunity for you to get the hell away from that psycho without looking like an ahole.
2007-04-06 06:46:17 · answer #9 · answered by icehawk00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe someone eles sent that massage!! Talk to her!!
2007-04-06 06:52:45 · answer #10 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋