2007-04-05 23:39:58 · 20 answers · asked by leedsuniteddan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No custody papers? She can do whatever if she is custodial parent. It would be just more headache, but if you want more of a say so, you need to see an attorney and draw up some boundries. That hurts but life goes on. She can't be expected to never go anywhere if she has a child. At least her new partner is willing to have your child along.
2007-04-06 00:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by Stitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about this situation. It must be very hard for you all. It sounds like he's either very confused -(maybe going through a mid-life crisis)- or very smart and manipulative. Actions speak louder than words, in my opinion. IF he has done a MAJOR fuckup like getting another woman pregnant, he must feel very worried about what is going to happen next. Chances are he never planned on this pregnancy and this hit him like a brick wall. Right now, you are his wife and you hold the cards. You have to sit down and try to think what your options -and what the best one is for you and your son. IF he has said he doesn't want a divorce, it's either because a) He loves you and knows he made a big mistake; or b) He wants to be with this other woman but doesn't want to anger you and make you take him to the cleaners, financially. (Maybe he is stalling and gaining time when he said he doesn't want a divorce.) When my parents went through the same thing (many years ago; dad surprised us by telling us he had an infant son with his secretary...had been married 30 years...), my mom almost died of heartache. So please contact your family, get the support you need and do two things for yourself and your son: A) GET advice from a good lawyer, so you can protect yourself; and B) GO to counseling immediately. You'll need help here because your mind and your heart are separated right now; and you need someone's fresh and cold perspective so you can make the right decisions. Finally, I'll say this: Take care of YOURSELF and your son. Do not let this freak you out so badly that you get depressed and stop sleeping or eating. (My mom was bedridden for two years; now she's happier than ever. Long story.) You cannot control your husband's feelings or actions; you can only control your own. He is a grown-up and he has to pay the price of the damage he has done. You will be in my prayers! FOCUS ON YOU and your son now.
2016-05-18 03:35:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time yes. She's going on vacation, not moving. Some custody agreements require the permission of the non custodial parent as well, if the child is leaving the country, but if she has full custody, she doesn't need your permission.
You can have this changed so that you would have to consent, but you need to go to court to do it and I doubt there would be a hearing in time to stop her if the trip is anytime soon. It would still be worth doing though. This way she won't be able to relocate to another state without cause either.
2007-04-06 01:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont have parental responsibility then you have no say at all. But if you were present when the birth certificate was created and your name is on it you have parental responsibility and could have a say.
But its only a holiday whats the problem if your son is well cared for and happy then he will be back soon and at the age of 2 will have a happy memory to keep.
2007-04-06 12:30:35 · answer #4 · answered by BigMomma2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your ex-partner the biological parent of the child? If not, then the answer is Not without your permission.
2007-04-05 23:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by Lesley M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if there is no custody agreement (you don't need to be divorced or married to get one just biological parents) that states that she can not take him out of the county or country with out your consent than yes she can take him and unfortunately because there's no agreement she doesn't have to bring him back so get a lawyer and get those papers or she can do as she pleases
2007-04-06 00:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by auntie s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it your biological son? if not you have no rights. is so you have everything to say on it. A child only has one mom and dad ONLY. No matter what happens later if the parents don't stay together.
Honestly,
Martie
2007-04-06 00:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by Martie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. Not married precludes rights that accrue from marriage.
2007-04-05 23:45:47 · answer #8 · answered by Finbarr D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course she can.
I know how hard it must b for you - hang in there and b the best dad you can to him!! He'll realise in time and thank you for it. Good luck x
2007-04-05 23:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by Leesa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she can but you can also request details of flights, hotel etc for peace of mind
2007-04-05 23:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by Dooleys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋