Divorce : My wife wants to rip me financially?

Question

We separated 1 year ago. She was abusive and 1 year ago beat me up. I called up the California police , they opened a criminal felony case. She hired a smart attorney and got away from a sentence. All she got is a attorney 1 year probation after which her charges will be dropped.

I feel that it is not fair for the system to not even punish her for her crime. Now she is coming to rip me off financially. I filed a divorce and she is asking for document, interrogatories etc.

I sometimes feel that how can the whole system be so unfair. I was the one abused in relationship. She did not get any punishment and in a way i am getting punished in financial senses. Any advices on not having to pay a lot in the divorce.
By the way I make 110,000 a year and she makes 30,000.

Answer 1

Sounds like you need a pretty shrewed attorney.(never too late to fire and hire new). Be sure YOU are filing for the divorce and the reasons are physical and mental abuse. Have documentation on hand!! Good luck with that

Answer 2

At least its on record. Why did you hire such a good attorney for her, at 30k you can't do that, lol.

You don't have to give up any info unless a judge tells you to.

The system is unfair that's why you need to have this documented to lessen the blow of divorce when time comes.

$$$ No children, she is the cause of the divorce, hire yourself a good attorney and you should be ok. She has a job and can survive. Alomony is used when one doesn't work or is >50% dependent on that person, kinda thing.

Answer 3

i will tell you at the begining and i will tell you at the end you had a lucky escape here and my friend is priceless.she got off with probation (this time)so she has a record.despitw how frustrating that is for you.sit back and watch and listen over the years,cause she will go her life being abusive and you will hear about it..and you can turn arounsd and say its not my problem thank god.as for the finance you move any money you have from a current acct and tell the legal people u dont have much money at all.sometimes you have to play dirty.by right its 50/50 ,in divorce.no matter how ugly it gets,and how much you seem to be in a dark tunnel.i can tell you gone through divorce myself.you do come out of that tunnel , and you do smile and laugh again.dont let her run you to the ground.keep forcusing on the end of tunnel.and i tell you again.you have had a lucky escape and that is priceless

Answer 4

looks like you will pay a price to having chosen the wrong partner. It happens to many divorced people. Just take it as a lesson. It sounds like she was a very angry person or had major issues. There are always two sides to every story. If you want to be happy, try to just forget the fact that she didn't get any punishment and go on with your life. The only way to happiness and success in life is to let go of a bad past. Its better to just let a judge decide whats fair and let go and go on with your life. California is a community property state so you really have no choice in that. Quit worrying about her getting punished and know that you can have happiness again and that worrying about that makes it so you don't let go of something you need to try to forget. Feel blessed that you have the capability to make over 100,000 a year and count the blessing you do have.

Answer 5

You didn't mention kids, so I assume there aren't any. You need to look at it this way: For starters, probation really is a punishment. She can't just get up and go anywhere on the spur of the moment. If a family member in another state dies, she can't go to the funeral without getting specific permission from her probation officer, which is a long, drawn out process. She has appointment that are very inconvenient, and there is no way out of them without getting in trouble. You can't oversleep and miss them, like you can other things. It really is a pain in the rear.
As far as her trying to get alimony, all the documentation in the world doesn't necessarily mean that she's going to get it. Just get a good attorney, and hopefully they can argue that if she really wanted that lifestyle to which she claims to have grown accustomed, she wouldn't have hit you. That really is what alimony is all about. It also depends on how long you were married. Don't let it stress you out. Asking for it doesn't necessarily mean she'll get it. Good luck.

Answer 6

From what you have written it looks like, worse case scenario, you may have to pony up 40 thou a year for the next three years over and above a division of the assets acquired during your marriage. More than that is a reaming.
Remember this the next time you get married. Besides...who said life was fair?

Answer 7

I don't know much if anything about these situation, but maybe one thing you can do is to "pay" a very trustworthy relative or friend for (financial)services rendered(no reciepts of course) once or more a month by signing over your paychecks and have them open an account in their name or some investments in yours and his/her name?
get more and different legal advice from other attorneys?
good luck

Answer 8

I would find one of those GREAT attorneys. Actually, with the wage difference though you might not have a leg to stand on. I agree it is not fair, and I am female.

Answer 9

Welcome to the real world... the law not only protects the weaker side of women but at the same time it also opens up new avenue for women to exploit men.

Like every other above have said... get a good lawyer.

Answer 10

U have done nothing wrong. Don't take her back she will ruin you completely. She's good riddance. She never loved u. Keep busy and find meaning in ur life on ur own. She's a nasty user.