I knew my ex bf for 4 years and due to situation,he married a malaysian in order to stay there legally. I live in Singapore. I didnt know till I call him one day his wife pick and ask me many question. Due to my heart is broken, I just marry this man now my husband only after knowing him for 4 months. My heart is still with my ex bf. I m going to meet him and I know I will be physically and emotional involve. Half of me want that and other half say No. What should I do now? Forget him and move on with life? What is the best thing to do now? Please help.
2007-04-05 23:32:09 · 21 answers · asked by abonoyah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HOW WOULD YOU LIKE IT IF YOUR HUSBAND DID THAT TO YOU,I DON'T THINK ITS RIGHT YOU COULD HURT THE ONE THAT LOVES YOU NOW,THEN STILL NOT BE ANY CLOSER TO YOUR EX THE MESS UP YOUR FUTURE WITH THE ONE YOU SAID YOU WOULD LOVE TILL DEATH DO YOU PART....NOT UNTIL YOU GET BORED OR TILL YOUR EX COMES TO TOWN BUT FOR BETTER OR WORSE,JUST THINK OF HOW YOU WOULD FEEL IF YOU WERE YOUR HUSBAND,IT WOULD HURT LIKE HELL WOULDN'T IT...
2007-04-06 00:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by trouble13d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do, is forget about your ex-boyfriend. You are a married woman now, and you need to spend time with your husband, not your ex. It doesn't sound like a good situation at all, especially since you're keeping it from your husband. Do the right thing, break off all contact with your ex, and focus on your marriage.
2007-04-06 01:24:45 · answer #2 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with you ? you just gave all the right answers to stay away from him. Either clean the air and bring it out in the open and tell your now, husband what's going on. It'll probably lead to a divorce but, it's better than living a lie.
Why did you leave him in the first place? or have you forgotten.
Get on with your life and tell your husband or get out of his life.
2007-04-05 23:51:12 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be perfectly honest, you are definitely about to set yourself up for the biggest heartbreak of all. Please remember that there are four people involved with this and that 2 of them have no idea what is going on.
You need to leave the ex alone and get your life right with your husband. You could be honest with him and tell him that you really don't have any feelings for him and divorce him. If you decide to follow through with your intention, YOU WILL WRECK YOU LIFE!!!
It's up to you to do the right thing.
Good luck
2007-04-06 00:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by Keith D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to move on. We meet people all the time that we think we should marry or be with. The real problem is we never ask God to send us the right person, we just jump into relationships thinking that we are lonely. We need to get to know ourselves first and love ourselves. Do not commit adultery.
2007-04-06 00:33:32 · answer #5 · answered by yona r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be wrong to go see him b/c you know you are still physically and emotionaly involved. Yet you knew that when you married this other guy four months ago. You need to be honest with your husband and if you want to see this guy take your husband with you.
2007-04-06 03:04:23 · answer #6 · answered by ~4NOW~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You took vows with your husband, not your ex. Nothing good will ever come from cheating. For all you know, he may of slept around with many many women and is infected with a STD.
2007-04-06 00:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its obvious that you are going to be incapable of keeping your pants on when you get together. What do you think?
WRONG.
Go do this ,husband finds out, you might get a beating.
That's the risk. Is it worth it? You tell me.
2007-04-06 00:57:18 · answer #8 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with feelings still being involved u have to ask ur self 1 question how important is ur marriage. cuz if u feel that way not being around ur ex, when u r face to face there gonna intensify. n things could go further than planned.
2007-04-05 23:41:04 · answer #9 · answered by surelybonafide 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're a silly girl, why do you girls do this. Your husband now, needs to know how you fill. He is the only one that is going to be hurt.
2007-04-05 23:39:06 · answer #10 · answered by Super Jase 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋