Nothing has happened between us, we've only talked and not even inappropriately. I find myself thinking of her all of the time. Should I discuss this with her? Should I discuss this with my wife or ignore it and hope that it goes away... I am horribly confused.
2007-04-05 22:41:44 · 18 answers · asked by Answer is Mine... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your in one of the worst positions possible for a married man, you let yourself into it without thinking. Now, get out and fast, leave it behind you and forget it. It will never work out, an office romance.
If it's that deep and there's no way out look for another job. You may have to spill the means to your spouse and hope she understand the situation. She may run for an attorney, you never said what your situation is at home.
This is a lesson for everyone, I've seen several marriages broken up for this reason and have never yet seen one of these come about, or make a go of it. All they are is a run through the hay.
They leave behind sorrow and broken lives, fatherless children and lost hope.
2007-04-06 00:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have said I think the feeling is mutual please think of your own marriage does that mean any thing to you be honest with yourself don't go their. Honestly if you want to see if you have a mutual feelings then do the right thing. End your relationship with your wife and if that's too harsh then forget about playing the field. Does your partner deserve any of this. Look at her and study her ask yourself why you married and if you have children look at them do they deserve for the sadness you are about to dish out to them?, Just don't do it you don't need the stress and that will be even harder if you find out she's not interested in you and then you will have to face her at work every day. Keep this as a fantasy and get on with your real life. Best of luck
2007-04-05 23:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are confused about this, don't do anything as far as the other woman is concerned . If you still love your wife or have any feelings for her at all, you should find yourself another job and leave the place of your employment and try to work something out to save your marriage. In some religions it is a mortal sin to commit adultery, which if you don't understand, is a sin that you can go to hell for.
2007-04-05 22:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having feelings for someone other than your spouse makes you human. Acting on those feelings makes you a cheater.
Don't discuss anything with anyone. Remember your marriage vows, remain strictly professional with your colleague and meanwhile concentrate on loving your own wife. Destroying two marriages simply because you haven't had a cold shower in a while is not worth it.
2007-04-05 22:52:14 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! First of all you are both married and should remain faithful to your respective spouses. Secondly you are colleagues and therefore it could interfere with your work. There could be a lot of stress related issues because of your marital situations and that could affect your work. How would you feel if your wife cheated on you? It just is not right to do.
2007-04-05 22:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by susie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to honor your vows!!!!! Why are these thoughts even in your head? If you follow through with these thoughts what then? cheating. divorce? and what after that! Jump for the next women that catches your eye! You are married and that needs to mean something! If your feeling about this women out weigh the feeling for your wife then your wife is the first one that should know. I feel sorry for you that your marriage means so little that feelings for another can over rule feelings for the women you swore to love and honor till death!
2007-04-05 23:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by dan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is your colleague, that's how your feeling develop, because you see each other often.I think it is just admiration, not even love, you think of her, maybe you imagine her sexually. Like you are fantasizing her all the time. If you have the urge of pursuing what you feel, it will affect your and her family. Better stop dreaming having others man wife, it is not good, you might regret it.
2007-04-05 22:50:46 · answer #7 · answered by emma l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about what's gonna happen if you cultivate this feeling. It's worse than a slap to a wife, so much more if u have kids, they'll hurt.
Venture to other things like your hobby or spend more time with your kids. You'll forget about her in no time when you are able to find your real priority.
2007-04-05 22:51:20 · answer #8 · answered by one hot momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you need to do is think long and hard about the consequence. Do you risk your marriage and your job? You better concentrate on your marriage or you could end up with nothing. What you could lose is considerable and if you think about it for a while you will probably decide its better to just be friends..
2007-04-05 23:13:02 · answer #9 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore the colleague. switch jobs if you can. avoid her at all possibilities. tell yourself that there's another woman back in your house doing everything for you and that you mean the world to her. love your wife! get over your colleague. don't let your emotions go ahead of your maturity level. think wisely.
2007-04-05 22:48:32 · answer #10 · answered by girlnumberone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋