I can't believe what she just told me, this guy said he's not going to take care of the baby he calls and harrasses my wife.
he said he'll pay for an abortion,but not child support.
I really don't want her to have this baby either, but two wrongs don't make a right. I've gotta go back to Iraq in a few weeks. I hope he doesn't start coming around again when I'm gone. what should I do?
2007-04-05 21:55:29 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should file for divorce, Monday. Stop all money, and boot the cheater out. It's bad enough you have to risk your life, don't allow this subhuman spouse to drag you down into her stupidity. She caused this, let her deal with it. Dump her, and move on. Yes, it'll hurt. But, she'll just cheat again. She didn't even care enough to use birth control when she decided to cheat. I guess it was just too much trouble.
2007-04-06 04:47:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your wife agrees to it, move her as far away from where you are right now so that this guy can't harrass her while you are away. Perhaps she could stay with some family until you can come back home safely. Whatever decision you both make about the coming child, just remember it didn't ask to be conceived or born into this world so if the baby is born and you are both still together, don't take your hurts or frustrations out on the child, because it is not the one at fault here. Good Luck and God Bless.
2016-05-18 03:25:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't even have enough respect to keep her legs closed while you were AT WAR????? Then she gives you the sob story about how the guy is harrassing her??? Who cares, it's not YOUR problem, let her deal with it she's the one who created the problem, let her deal with it. Get a divorce and find someone who really loves you, she obviously doesn't. If she was going to sleep around on you she could have AT LEAST made the guy wear a rubber, but she couldn't even do that.
You sound like your buying her crap about being harrassed; oh poor baby, SHE BROUGHT IT ON HERSELF. I'm telling you get out of there while you can. She's trying to manipulate you with how bad the other guy is being to her. Get a divorce while you are back home, you know they are going to make up eventually, as soon as you walk out the door to go back to Iraq, is when they will make up.
She made the bed, now let her sleep in it. She wants to be with a black guy, then let her have the kid, not get child support, be with the guy and get beat by him and cheated on while she is pregnant with his baby.
TWO WRONGS DONT MAKE A RIGHT?...Okay then have fun looking at that little black baby FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE and knowing that it's NOT yours, paying for it and taking care of it, and the BEST part is EVERYONE ELSE knowing that your WIFE (whatta good one at that) CHEATED ON YOU with a *****!!!
HAVE A NICE LIFE, MORON, if you stay with her.
2007-04-05 22:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by juniper 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. She cheated. Period.
2. An illegitimate child is not your responsibility as a lawful husband.
3. There's nothing you can do when you are in Iraq and she ends up giving in to him, and sleeping with him again.
4. The legal redress she deserves from him for conceiving of his child is not your responsibility either.
Last but not least, the only responsibility you have now is towards yourself and your job. Try not to get distracted since it is dangerous in Iraq.
2007-04-05 22:15:46 · answer #4 · answered by ET 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DIVORCE her sorry a$$ dude. Once a cheater always a cheater. You shouldnt be married while in the military anway, I know, I was in the Infantry. Its very rare to find a women that will stay by your side while deployed. Divorce her, be happy the child is not yours, and move on. She is trash. Let me guess, shes spending all you money while your gone too?
Dont forget, it is a serious crime in the military, punishable under UCMJ. If he is a GI i would pursue some punishment.
2007-04-05 22:02:12 · answer #5 · answered by JASSY 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! I'm sorry for you having to go thru this. (Thanks for serving our country). Abortion is NOT the option. First, he needs to stop calling your wife and harrassing her. Second, she needs to agree (in writing) that she will give this child up for adoption at birth, and as to if you want her to still be your wife, that is your decision. Please talk with her about it, let her know how you truly feel, and let her know also you need support for what you are going thru in Iraq, from your wife. Meaning, she is to NO LONGER cheat on you, not with this guy, or anyone else. Marriage is a committment, and communication is vital. So is trustworthiness. Please speak with your CO or chaplain, and see about before you head out, getting some counseling on this whole matter. As a part of our troops over in Iraq, please keep in mind, that there are a whole lot of us supporting you with our respect and appreciation. I truly wish you the best. Take care.
2007-04-05 22:09:16 · answer #6 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry for the pain you're going through. You don't deserve it. However, I think most people here are correct. You need to divorce this woman. She is a HO. I'd change the locks on the house, throw her belongings out on the porch and tell her she doesn't live here anymore. Get a lawyer and ditch this woman ASAP. The baby is her problem, not yours.
2007-04-05 23:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do. This is a situation your wife needs to resolve for herself. If she is being harassed, she needs to file a complaint with the police. If she chooses to keep the baby, the father will have to pay child support. But that decision is not for you to make. The only decision you can make is whether you wish to continue being married to her or not.
2007-04-05 23:25:40 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave her, any woman that cheats on her man deserves to be left alone. You are better and are too good for her. If you stay with her and keep the baby you'll always be reminded. Atleast that's how I would feel. I wouldn't be able to do it. Good luck. Hope you fine someone who will truly love you.
2007-04-05 22:11:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a wrap! While you were out fighting for your country your wife was betraying you in the worst way. She'll do as he tell her and get the abortion and things with them will pick up where they left off (in your bed). What she did was unforgivable. AND NOT BECAUSE HE WAS "SOME BLACK GUY", but because not only did she cheat but she didn't care enough to protect herself.
2007-04-05 22:05:41 · answer #10 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋