My aunt and uncle have seperated for little less than a year. My Aunt made the move and now she is feeling apprehensive towards it all.
My uncle seems really happy and she feels the need to come and help with everything.
The house finally sold but yet now she has mixed feelings. I think she is being selfish. Am i wrong, what do you think??
2007-04-05 20:39:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its natural for her to have mixed feelings. being together for any length of time is hard enough to let go of. alot of memories, some good some bad are in that household. she may be feeling anxiety of not wanting to let memories go when the house does. its more complicated then that i assure you. but i would try to be more supportive of her instead of judgmental. especially being you aunt. talk to her and spend time with her. she may be feeling lonely. she may be not handling the separation as well as she would like to. what ever the outcome, its their relationship, not yours. be supportive of both of them and objective for both. be a sounding board, not a deaf ear to one and not the other. if your uncle is happy and is able to live better with it, if you said to him you thought she was being selfish, i'm sure he would have similar things to say as it sounds like he was able to handle it better. dont' be so harsh
2007-04-05 20:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let them work it out, however they are going to.
It's very normal to have mixed feelings during a divorce or separation. And it's normal for the partners to have evolving views on it. I would say it they wind up back together it will be after both have done some adjusting to their individual situations. If they don't that is also going to take some adjustments.
I don't think there is much constructive that you can do in this matter. They presumably are mature adults.
2007-04-06 03:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right maybe try to find some one your aunt age that is single that would like to go out for a drink with your aunt to help her get her mind off of your uncle
2007-04-06 03:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me too, i am seperated for 3 yrs., but my ex often comes to check if we are alright. I think the happy one is your uncle, maybe he found his new love, and your aunt might still love your uncle. Its complicated ....
2007-04-06 03:44:57 · answer #4 · answered by emma l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have they had counselling?If you have been with someone a long time then those feelings of lovedont disappear overnight.Perhaps its time to move on and for her to make new life.
2007-04-06 03:46:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do to help too. Maybe you can try talking to your aunt, but she might not appreciate it :)
2007-04-06 03:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by Ashlyn Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right in thinking that she's selfish.. she didnt want him and yet she wants him to keep hanging on to her... you gotta speak to her fast...
2007-04-06 03:57:06 · answer #7 · answered by Melinda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now whats the point in thinking?won't get it back.hasty decision as most do.
2007-04-06 03:44:17 · answer #8 · answered by alec. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not wrong
2007-04-06 03:42:17 · answer #9 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
needs to move on............
2007-04-06 03:43:35 · answer #10 · answered by James k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋