i have a major overreating problem
i take the little things way to seriously, and i end up getting to angry at something so simple and exploding, or i think some thing is sadder then usual, i need help to get over this,
2007-04-05 19:44:26 · 9 answers · asked by robert m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you need to slow way down think about the situation and how your reaction might affect the enviorment around you and try calming yourself down, take a deep breath and think in a logical sense of manner "is it really that big a deal?"
2007-04-05 19:49:34 · answer #1 · answered by Okami 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a theory that some of us are just wired this way. I also think this kind of wiring has something to do with addiction. My father is exactly like you described and he's an alcoholic. His feelings and emotions are so deep, I don't think he ever learned how to handle or express them so he numbs with alcohol. I tend to be a very emotional person (crying at seemingly silly things). I just let myself feel it, react to it and then move on. There is a book out there called "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff'. It has an interesting take on the topic, you might find it helpful. Have you ever had an outlet? Some use sports, writing, anything you can put your passion into. I use music as my outlet, If I didn't have that I'd probably be in a bar right now!
Good luck :)
2007-04-06 02:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit thinking that you need to solve all of your problems and the world's problems too. Realize that many times people don't even mean what they say. They are just reacting to how they are feeling at that particular moment--not the rest of their lives.
Don't expect so much of others either. Not everyone is going to live up to your standards. Let's face it, everyone thinks differently. Allow others to be what they are, make their own mistakes, and pay their own consequences.
Just plain lighten up. The world is not here to please you. What makes the world interesting, as opposed to being boring, is the fact that everyone is different. Relax and enjoy.
2007-04-06 02:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its all in perception...how you choose to categorize a problem.
You can over-react or you can learn to laugh. Its good therapy.
The best thing you can do is realise that it can always be worse.
Take your current situation and compare it to the loss of a parent, or close friend. Does it measure up? Chances are, NO, it doesnt.
You need to learn how to rank your stresses an put them in their place. Some issues just arent worth worrying about. Your problem is that you take too many things personally.
You have to understand that its not always about you, ....it rarely is. The only person making it about you is YOU.
Deal with crap and move on...and stay off medication. It only makes it worse.
2007-04-06 02:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by Dan The Answer Man 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When you feel like exploding, take a walk and cool off. If your problem gets to a point where it's destroying your relationship with people, you might want to take anger management classes.
2007-04-06 02:58:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anna 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
therapy would be one suggestion. another would be to step back, take a few deep breaths, and don't react until you've thought about something with a clear head. good luck.
2007-04-06 02:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just breath... count to 1000 without taking a breath =P
2007-04-06 02:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by KennyV 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
do some strecting excercise in the morning.if you see the answers you get ,all will be towords keeping yourself at peace ,in some way, so decide which one will suit you,and follow.
2007-04-06 03:03:26 · answer #8 · answered by alec. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be u are too nervous about things in general, try relax
2007-04-06 02:53:27 · answer #9 · answered by FairGround 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋