Im depressed because I am an obese person who has never had sex before. The thing that depresses me is that I'm 34 years old. Idont know what to do. Woman dont find me attractive, I try, but they all reject me. What do I do?
2007-04-05 19:33:40 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I've known many obese people who were very attractive-- its really more in the attitude.
Work on your self-confidence first and find something that gives you joy. That will show through and you will meet the right person.
Stop trying to impress women and start working on YOU. It will happen.
2007-04-05 19:37:45 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Well you're looking for the right women. obeseness has nothing to do with anything. my boyfriend is about twice my size and we're having a great life together. if women dont find you attractive, tell them to screw it. i know you've heard it all before but i have to say this to you anyway, it's the inside that really counts. dont believe? or you're saying "this person would never understand because she's not obese herself". you're right, i probably don't understand, but what I do understand is that beauty is not on the outside, and whoever thinks it is, should get stuffed. so long as you're out going, nobody really cares. take fat man scoop for instance... everybody loves him. another option you could take is (i might have to apologise in advance because it might seem offensive to you) to go those 'fat camps'. people there will help you overcome that depression... plus there'll be other people there like you... a great way to meet new friends and possibly a girlfriend ;)
2007-04-06 02:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by mrsjoshgroban 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are you concentrating on sex? If you want cheap sex just go to a prostitute. As far as you go you need to work on your personality and stop being depressed, if you want to meet women go to a club or something. Get some self-esteem and do whatever you want and be yourself. If you really despise the way you look so much then do something to change it but if not stop using it as an excuse and try and meet people that you can connect with. I used to be overweight but i still had girlfriends because I was myself and got to know people. That is all it takes. Remember; to get someone else to love you you first have to love yourself. Change what you want and keep trying.
2007-04-06 03:14:51 · answer #3 · answered by Black F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to judge you, but your question makes it sound like you are more worried about getting sex than having an intimate, trusting relationship with a woman.
I did not get married until I was 35 -- and yes, I waited to have sex until marriage -- and I remember saying when doing dangerous activities: Please Lord don't let me die a virgin! I remember in college, my buddies were dying because they wanted sex from girls==and the girls would not oblige them. At the same time when the girls found out I was not going to have sex with them, many tried to convince that I should try sex with them. Sometimes Reverse Psychology can do wonders!
Develop your career and interests. You are more likely to meet a good match for you when you are doing what you are most interested in!
Attitude has a lot to do with it. So does hygiene, grooming, and sense of style.
Good luck!!!
2007-04-06 02:57:37 · answer #4 · answered by hunter621 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best thing i would suggest to find someone who is attracted to you legitly is workout. I would suggest walking 45 minutes a day... just around the block would work. No need to jog or anything because your body will burn fat after 20 minutes of activity anyways. To lose weight you will need to do longer workouts 45+ minutes at low intensity. You could even stretch... that is a form of working out.
2007-04-06 02:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by aderholdtw 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you have probably heard this before but what matters is on the inside, there is a match for everyone, there is someone out there that is your soul mate, but first you have to accept yourself. Accept yourself for who you are, be confident, if that is acompanied by a great personality, you will soon find your perfect match. Well good luck, and dont give up on love!
2007-04-06 02:43:31 · answer #6 · answered by LaLa 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried getting medical help for this? I'm serious and far beyond the age of believing that people are obese because they somehow 'choose' the wrong lifestyle or don't live their lives correctly....You don't have to be depressed...the medical profession can help you...and if not---what have you lost?
2007-04-06 02:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry be happy that you are not saying I think I am HIV positive what do i do. Someone will come along and love you for you regardless of your size and when they do you will be able to give them something that no man or woman has ever had. Good things come to those who wait.
2007-04-10 01:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by April W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hang in there, i have found that heavy set people are very friendly nice pleasant people. i was 36 before i had sex and i am slender and some what good looking. some get it and some dont. i didnt for the longest time.
2007-04-06 02:39:48 · answer #9 · answered by droopydawg001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe losing some weight or taking some pills to help you.if you want sex i think you should try that first. I'm not trying to be smart either. Hope you find that person
2007-04-06 02:39:49 · answer #10 · answered by loveme 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋