Would u be mad if ..?

Question

your sister who is 1 1/2 year older than you already has 2 kids and she is on welfare and in no postion to have another kid. well you are on your first kid and are 5 1/2 months pregnant. would u be mad if she ran out and got pregnat a 3rd time because she is jealous?? i mean i am in this siutaotin and im mad as helel because she is going to take away any support me and my baby were gonna get as far as family goes and she already has 2 the government is paying for. she isnt evne marreid so its not like she is in a postion to be having kids.

Im not tryin to sound snobby about her not being marreid. my babys dad dumped me as soon as he knew and im supporting myself through a cleaning job and i am not recieivng anything even wic and having a hard time eating some of the times i feel she is just taking away the family support i was hoping to get while theyve already supported her trhrough her first two. and yes i know its becuase she is jealous its a long mental thing she has going on where she is jealous of me having ANYTHIGN ever since we were kids. other family members notice it too its some kinda mental illness she has.

Answer 1

Wow, getting pregnant out of jealously? That's unbelievable. But yes I would be mad, but I was also try to be more adult about it since it sounds like she isn't. Talk to your family and tell them how you feel and that you need some support as well. And as far as the Wic and things are concerned, if you qualify for them and could use them, you should go ahead and get them. They will help to ensure that you get the proper nutrition for your baby. Unlike your sister, you can continue to try to support yourself. Sometimes you may need a little help from government programs and you shouldn't feel ashamed for signing up for them, as long as you don't continue to just rely on them and not try to help yourself. Try talking to your sister. Maybe it will at least make you feel better.

Answer 2

I think that you have a right me be angry yes. Also you can't hold things against your sister if she has a mental illness. If that is the case then your sister needs to be put on some kind of meds. That should have been first priority along time ago if she already has to kids. I don't think you will have anything to worry about though. Family is family and I am sure they will try to help you both out as much as possible and who knows they might help you out more knowing you are not on welfare. Good Luck.

Answer 3

When you or your sister decided to have children... (You did make this an active decision, didn't you?) the issue should have been "How will I support this child?" and not so much "Where else can I get support?"...
Stop worrying about your sister and start planning on what you will do to take care of your new baby. What steps are you taking now to get a better job? Are you going to make your ex accountable for support as well? He should be helping out even if you two aren't together. File for child support!
How is being mad helping this situation? IMHO, I'm more worried about your child and his/her cousins than I am about the relationship between your sister and family.

Sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear... You need to do what you can for you and your new baby. To heck with what everyone else thinks or does!

Congrats on your little one and take care! Do what is right; God will provide when all else fails!

Answer 4

i would be very angry about that. i know you're not trying to be a snob. your parents have done a lot for her already, i'm sure, and now it is your turn and because you've tried to do the right thing you are being ignored.
i feel this way in my family, but for different reasons. I graduated from college, and got married at 25 instead of having a lot of kids at a young age. I feel like the women in my family who have less education but more children are treated like adults and I'm still viewed as a kid because i'm not a mother. that might change now that I am six weeks pregnant, but we'll have to see.
I'd be very mad and very vocal about it in your situation. but i'm kind of a jealous brat too so its hard to say.

Answer 5

You really need to give up on the "sibling rivalry". It will really tear you apart from your own child. Just focus on you, and your baby. Plenty of women have raised chidren without family help (remember this country was built on people who didn't have family there to help them). Me included. You'll feel more self-suffecient the more you raise this child yourself. And what about welfare? People who aren't even related to you are sucking off the system! I'm sorry to sound so brash, I just want you to know that your pregnancy should not be lessened by hers. Be happy, you have a beautiful baby comming...enjoy that!

Answer 6

Hell yes I would be mad!! You should seriously talk to your family members and tell them that you really need their support right now.. How stupid can your sister be.. Having kids out of jealousy?? Wow.. Amazing.. Some people shouldn't be allowed to be Mom's!! I'm not trying to diss her or anything.. I just think that's a really selfish thing to do.. But your family should be able to see that you need their help and you are trying to do it right!! Good luck.. I hope everything works out for you!!

Answer 7

Well first off me and my cousins are very close they are all like my sisters. Well my cousin found out she was pregnant, and 1 weeks later i found out i was pregnant, then a month later another one of my cousins are pregnant (things happen in 3's in my family=D lol) i dont think me or them did it out of joulesy, it was just a considence. but i dont no your whole situration or your sisters, so i cant judge either of you guys, it sounds to me your a little upset because you think shes goin to steal all your attention. But im sure your family is happy for both of you guys. good luck

Answer 8

trust me, sibling rivalry can cause problems after the baby comes.....just focus on you and your baby, and see who ends up the happiest. nine times out of ten, it will be you who smiles. and get some help for your sister, she sounds more unstable than you are, and being the strong person you are, you could do your sister some good by helping her. jealousy will get you no where....it sounds like she needs more help than you do...god gave you two hands for helping others when you can.

Answer 9

I would chop it off to she is a hole. Secondly there is nothing wrong with collecting assistance If you NEED IT! Sounds like you need it and especially you need WIC. If you cant or dont breast feed formula is expensive....good luck because you need it.

Answer 10

Yeah. I think you have a right to be mad. I know it won't put food on your table, but at least you are trying to do the right thing by working and striving and trying to do the right thing. I respect that.