why is it so hard to accept yourself for who you are?

Question

and why do you see yourself different than other people do?

im not talking about myself.
i love myself :] im talking about you!

Answer 1

because we're told everyday it's not ok to be who we are, and after so long we start to believe it.

Answer 2

Because we all put up this front and try to show people we are doing better or look better etc. than the other person just for the simple reason of competition. Yes competition; nobody wants to be out done by another. If you say it doesn't bother you then I say BULL$HIT you are lyin your A$s off. Nobodly likes to lose and I mean nobody. So there is your answer it's hard to accept that you are a loser and someone is always doing or looking better than you are no matter if they are just putting up a front or not. If it looks real then it gotta be real right? You believe that and I got a bridge I'll sell you as well.

Answer 3

Because most people are conditioned at an early age to conform what society thinks is normal and we start to second guess ourselves and have a weak barometer. When I was young, I was influenced on how people perceived me: ugly and an outsider. I had a low self-esteem, depression and became an introvert. I have created this distortion of myself for all my life and into adulthood. I now realize that I am a good person who is worthy of love and I must accept myself in order for other people to accept me. I've turn into a swan, sort of speak but I still have self-esteem issues which I'm working on. I remind my self sometimes when I'm feeling low that God loves me unconditionally, as I am....warts and all....and that humbles me. Its ok to be different and stand out.....My differences is the very key to my success in life.

Answer 4

hmmmm...the truth hurts?reality sucks?people are mean?...maybe,im sure these things are all true...at times. i think it may all be relative to the situation youre in.think about it a minute,if youre happy and having a good time you probably dont even think about acceptance,or when your mom or dad gives you a hug you probably dont think about worthiness,when a younger sibling or friend needs you,i mean really needs you do you feel worthless?people who arent living life,sampling lifes little details,enjoying the company of others even strangers at a movie or a ballgame or a play OFTEN find themselves with time,time to crush themselves with doubt,judge themselves,often way more harshly than others ever would,and drown themselves with dread.dont soak up good moments and forget them then dwell on the bad.turn off the pc and go do something real! the net will still be here you know.the surgeon general says the internet is not a good substitute for a well balanced life so go get some air and soak up some experiences worth typing about!---jim s.

Answer 5

Are you trying to accept yourself, or peoples perception of who you are. You see yourself differently because you know of the deeper parts of you that aren't revealed. Perhaps you haven't had enough time to find who you really are yet. A metal untested, unknown by anyone. But don't despair, accept who you know yourself to be. And as you change with time, accept that too. But don't burden your soul with things that others perceive you to be. Just be who you are, and improve what you can. We are all a work in progress, accept that.

Answer 6

I even have very low self-properly worth via being advised how stupid and ineffective i became with the help of the kin's matriarch whilst i became a baby (at each and every threat ..... I additionally occurred to fairly appear like this aunt, which she took as a great insult everytime somebody pronounced it) people in many situations think of (and tell me) that i'm amazing ... an extremely constructive individual. I smile, thank them and think of that they are mendacity.

Answer 7

Because we compare ourselves to other people.. In the comparison process we other find ourselves falling short or elevated above another. Neither of which provides a true sense of happiness. I just started reading a great book called "Freedom from the Known" by Krishamurti. My favorite quote so far..

The primary cause of disorder in ourselves is the seeking of reality promised by another..

when we look to others to tell us how we should be, then we inevitable will not meet expectations. Look to your higher self, not to others for your value.

Answer 8

i think its hard to accept yourself because sometimes other poeple put you down, by telling you your bad looking or that somethings wrong with you...but you shouldn't care what other people think...just think of all the people who like you..
[[could be family, friends, ]]...


you probably see yourself different because YOU ARE DIFFERENT...but that doesn't mean theyre better than u ...your just unique, && different....
[[sometimes its a good thing]]=]

Answer 9

When you learn to like yourself as you are, all will change for the better for you. You were not put on this earth to impress others.

Answer 10

Why accept something you had no control over building or designing.

I thank God daily for my Life.

As for how others see me I can't comprehend.

Answer 11

I think it's because we so desperately want to fit in and we don't want to know that we will be alone. If people don't like us for who we are that feeling of aloneness starts to creep in and we change ourselves to accomodate that.