Married 2 weeks and she fu**in hates me?

Question

We've dated for 5 years!

I think Guns N Roses is right.... A little Patience!!!

We both don't have it.... But divorce, isn't our answer!!

Help with what you practice, please.....

Answer 1

you are just adjusting to being married. I'm sure she doesn't hate you, if she did you wouldn't be married. i would try marriage counseling if things are real bad but no i would not give up on the marriage this soon. you both need to learn to adjust to each other and your space. and I'm sure you will be fine. as my dad always said when you have a fight sit her on your lap and talk about the first thing that pops up LOL. you 2 will be fine just take time. good luck and congrats. :)

Answer 2

Patience is not required not alot of people these days have the patience for anything, Communication is.. if you keep the line of communication open and can speak to each other calmley and respectfully theres no reason to hate, what makes you think and why do you think she hates you, sometimes a little bit of space is required, so you can both clear your heads - Guns and Roses wont help just communicate the best way you know how, she would'nt have married you if she hated you, its called being upset, and thats what your there for, just hugg and hold her and your problem may go away! Sometimes thats all it takes to bring each other down to earth.

Answer 3

sometimes it can be hard when you feel like your tied down. but ultimately if you love each other truely you will both be willing to work on your problems. If she is already acting like she wants a divorce maybe she wanted to get ready for the wrong reasons. and maybe ya'll need to get that out in the open. I've been married 5 years, i got married when i was 17. it's hard and takes alot of work but you must want to be with her if you married her, and she with you. i think too many people today take the easy out of divorce. oh if it doesn't work then we'll just get divorced. but i also don't believe in premarital sex or living together before you wed. it's a hard line but if she loves you, and visa versa than you should be able to work it out. you need to have an open calm discussion, not a yelling match. tell each other exactly how you are feeling, this is not the time to hide stuff or be sweet not to hurt each others feelings. honestly something you both my say might hurt. but remember as corny as it sounds honesty is the best policy.

Answer 4

Wow!! 2 weeks....that not long enough to need a divorce, you can just have it annuled. But what is the root of it?? If you guys love each other, then try a councelor. Going from single to married, from living alone to sharing space can sometimes be an issue, for each other is used to how things were and haven't addapted to the "new" lifestyle.
I'd say help each other out, and talk, communication is the most important thing in a good relationship.

Answer 5

Lets face it. Dating is totally different from marriage. Being in those tight quarters, having to determine mutual goals, putting up with bad habits, what to eat, when or whether to clean, who gets the shower first, and on, and on, and on...

The first few years will be the adjustment. The next five will be wondering if you made the right decision. After that you have it made!!

Believe me it is a struggle, but if you love each other, it is well worth it.

Remember this--for every argument you have, you get two things in return--you become closer and you have good make-up sex after it is resolved.

As for you, you need to know the old saying, "When mama is happy, everybody is happy. When mama is unhappy, everbody will be miserable!"

I know a guy, married for 64 years. He told me that was the secret to a successful marriage.

Best wishes for yours and you wife's future.

Answer 6

Counseling is your best option.

Also consider one or more of these:
Divorce Busters by Michelle Weiner-Davis
Relationship Rescue by Phil McGraw
Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman
A Couple's Guide to Communication, John Mordechai Gottman
Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix

Answer 7

Fire up some candles - pick up some chinese & have a quiet chat about it over dinner, ask her what you can do to make it better for her. Dont get your back up about anything she says - remain calm & speak in low tones. Run her a bath for after dinner and while she is in there think about what she has said. If there were comments that you know you can improve on, then once she is finished bathing explain to her that you will work on them. Even if you know she is in the wrong - once you sort out the issues she has with you - then you will have all the defence you need when you bring them up with her

Answer 8

Did you live together? Somehow once you live in a house with someone, it changes things. The little things were the things I had to get used to, and at first they drove me crazy. Give it time. It's a new adjustment and if you lasted 5 years before you married, it'll probably be ok.

Answer 9

You shouldn't have gotten married, if she was gonna act like that. Some people change thinking they have you tied down after they get married. Maybe she is one of those people,or maybe she is just in shock from it all. It's hard being married it's a 50/50 thing. Maybe some counciling will help, but you have to want to make it work, to make it work. Good luck.

Answer 10

Relax...it's hard to adjust in the beginning, sometimes...I laugh about it now but when we first got married I "threw" him out...we're married 13 years and together for 20...it'll get easier...you have to learn how to live with one another in actuality, not an easy feat. Patience, is right!! Congrats!