tell me your relationship to them, how old you were when it happened, and how you got through it.
2007-04-05 17:09:22 · 18 answers · asked by corazon17 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I lost my husband 4 years ago and I'm still going through it. But my faith and family make each day a little easier.
2007-04-05 17:16:00 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Fuzzy Bottoms 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Great Grandparents when I was a child
Friends and acquaintances in Viet Nam
Maternal Grandparents when I was 21
An Aunt when I was 18 died from cancer
An Uncle when I was 24 died from black lung disease
My Dad died when I was 34
Paternal Grandparents when I was 36
Grandson when I was 47
Various and assorted other relatives and friends through the years. Some accidental, some natural, some murdered, some suicide
I have been close to God throughout all of my life. Sometimes in love, sometimes in hatred. I have come to realize that the times when I hated God for letting bad things happen were the times when God was carrying me cause I was unable to make it. He knew there was actually no hate but an unreal fear of allowing His Will to be The Way.
2007-04-06 00:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by Dalton K 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My wife was diagnosed with lung cancer in 2001 and went through 4 1/2 years of chemo treatment(in remission for a short period). For the last year I took care of her at home tending to her hygiene, cooking for her and feeding her(at times), giving her shots for building her blood up, and carrying her up and down stairs from one room to another so she could get a change of scenery. She died during her last month in the hospital. I stayed with her 24/7 for that last thirty days. I started my grief when she was first diagnosed. I still miss her, but would rather she were out of pain that she suffered. Know this - if it weren't for some grief in life you wouldn't know what being happy is really like. Without feeling pain how would know the feeling of pleasure? It's a tender balance we all must have in our lives.
2007-04-06 00:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The Worst that can happen Happened ~ I lost My 51/2 Month old Son. It was Years ago but I relive finding Him over & over..
All I can say is Time Heals a Mind but Your Heart NEVER Heals. I got through it By Pastor telling Me God Wanted Him Back... Everytime I'd think about it I'd Block Him from My mind. It was My ONLY Way to Deal with it.
2007-04-06 00:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by Always Curious 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when i was 7 my grandpa died. i wasn't allowed to go to the funeral and had nightmares for a long time. at 16 my grandma died and i thought i would die. the pain was so intense, i thought i'd never get over it. i couldn't talk about her for about 5 years. after her funeral, we left the church and it was a beautiful day and there were kids playing on the playground, and i was screaming inside, because i couldn't believe everybody wasn't mourning...how could anyone be having fun when my grandma was dead! the pain faded with time, but i still miss her and all the people i've lost, so much. Now my sister was given a few weeks to 6 months to live a few days ago... i've been taking care of her since she was diagnosed with cancer 1 1/2 years ago and all i am is numb.
2007-04-06 00:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by Queenie Peavey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Losing my best and only friend, after moving. We had stayed in touch about 5 months after my move, then she got mad at me, and never talked to me again. I know its not some heartbreaking story like people can have, but it was the worst thing I've known. I got through it by just facing the next day, knowing God would take care of me, and now I'm here, over it, and have friends I know he gave to me for a reason...
2007-04-06 00:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first personal experience with grief came when I was in seventh grade, so that would make me 12 years old about.....
The entire seventh grade class went on a week-long trip to Put-In-Bay (on Lake Erie) and one of the boys, Tom Backle, was having really bad headaches. We got to the lake on Saturday and by Monday, his parents had to come get him and take him home. By Friday, he had passed away from a brain tumor. It was awful. They told those of us at camp (we had a really small class, 57 people) that he died and when we got back home, they had a memorial service for him and I remember one of my friends, having never had anyone at all close to her die, she walked into the funeral home and started hysterically laughing. It was just her way of dealing with the grief. I remember that I took her outside and tried to calm her down, as she eventually starting crying really hard.....so I guess my way of dealing with grief is doing my best to comfort others.
2007-04-06 00:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by L ♥ L ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when i was 16, my boyfriend died in a car accident. it was just so sudden i was stuck in grief. But I realized that I couldn't get through it alone, and I saw that his family was looking to God, even tho in a way I wanted to blame God for what happened to him. I wanted to be at peace about his death, so i went to God and that's how I got through it. That's how I get through everything now. And If you are a praying person, pray for my mom. She is going in for a breast biopsy. It's time for God's help!
2007-04-06 00:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by collegeboundblonde1287 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
too many to tell....not sure exactly why....but always turned to God and prayer...he's always answered even though I didn't understand why....looking back now I can see how my life was much like a puzzle interlinking and I know in the future if I have a problem, I'll pray and believe as always, and I know whatever happens is his will and is meant to be. That brings me comfort and joy through dark times, knowing that he loves me and will take care of me as long as I ask!
2007-04-06 00:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Almost 11 years ago my husband died. Not long after that I started taking care of my parents. Time passed. When my mother was in ICU and my dad was living with me, my little canine daughter needed to be put to sleep. A month later my mom died. Dad was still with me, needing lots of care. My brother gets cancer. Through all of this, my sister hates me. A year after Mom died, Dad dies. Then I need shoulder surgery. A year later my brother died. I needed shoulder surgery on the other shoulder. I took care of my loved ones...I took care of the aftermath as well....Memorial services,cleaning out houses...an ENORMOUS amount of work.Grief does not just take the form of tears. It is also anxiety,
stress,illness,depression and exhaustion.
All this being said.....If I had it all to do again, I would. It was God's gift to me to be a part of this very poignant time.
I got through all of this because of my never ending love for my loved ones and my belief in God and my belief in myself.
2007-04-06 00:25:51 · answer #10 · answered by I am Sunshine 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋